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Neznayou ( member #40654) posted at 6:38 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
Him: BH 1969
Me: WW 1973
Wedding: April 9, 1994
Son: 1998 (college freshman)
Son: 2002 (high school freshman)
Caught at AP's house: 10 Aug 2012
I do not have it all together.
pizzalover ( member #38336) posted at 6:09 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
This post was tremendously helpful. Thanks for the bump.
Trying to rebuild each day
Me - WW 41
Him - BH 41 (mpb1974)
2 Furrbabies - sweet cats
Met - 8/13/99
Started dating - 9/11/99
Moved in together - 3/03
Engaged - 6/5/09
Married - 8/21/10
D-Day - 1/24/13
Affair started 5/09
Unagie ( member #37091) posted at 7:41 PM on Saturday, December 7th, 2013
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 3:36 PM on Monday, January 13th, 2014
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 11:25 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 8:20 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Rescuing from the last page before it drops off. 
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 7:04 PM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2014
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
SandAway ( member #37775) posted at 1:43 PM on Monday, May 12th, 2014
fWW
BH Tred
M 19yrs
DDay Nov. 2011
Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 4:50 AM on Friday, May 30th, 2014
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
roseglasses ( new member #43537) posted at 5:43 PM on Saturday, May 31st, 2014
Wayflost ( member #41583) posted at 1:42 AM on Saturday, June 7th, 2014
"Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly."
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 7:59 PM on Sunday, June 22nd, 2014
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Katz13 ( member #41886) posted at 8:44 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2014
This is great. Still feel like this 6 months out with a very remorseful WH.
meplusfour ( member #38958) posted at 5:41 AM on Monday, June 30th, 2014
Needed this today 
BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."
BrokenButTrying ( member #42111) posted at 8:12 AM on Monday, June 30th, 2014
T/J
Where has Hufi gone?
End t/j
Madhatters - We have R'd.
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.
HUFI-PUFI (original poster member #25460) posted at 9:47 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
HUFI is more of a lurker right now ... I decided some months ago that I needed to take a break from SI and concentrate on work.
While my affair was not work related, I think its fair to say that the initial distraction of the affair and then the consequences of being caught ultimately cost me the job that I was holding in 2009. In fact, I think it can be argued that the subsequent job after that was also a casualty of the affair insofar as my focus was on self-healing instead of work performance. 
So, here I am, lurking and reading and very seldom posting. 
HUFI
Stilllovinghim - You have got to work every single day on yourself and on your M if you want this to survive. This is the most important thing in your life. This is the air in your lungs. Don't squander it.
Don’t listen to your head, it’s easily confused. Don’t listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.
BrokenButTrying ( member #42111) posted at 9:54 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Glad you're ok and haven't disappeared completely.
Madhatters - We have R'd.
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.
lovemywife4ever ( member #42834) posted at 1:43 PM on Thursday, July 3rd, 2014
Me-WS
Her-BS (deena04)
Upper 30s and kids at home (hers/mine/ours)
Cheater-me 2.5 years into relationship, 2 months before engagement, 1.5 year before M...this is not an excuse but a timeline of our life
Now: real love and maturing
REMARRIED AN
BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 9:26 PM on Thursday, July 24th, 2014
lostcovenants ( member #40637) posted at 10:17 PM on Friday, July 25th, 2014
I hope my WS will read this thread. We lost our first grand child in stillbirth. That was, then, the worst pain of my life. I have the faith that I will see her in the next life.
But, this, - 14 YEARS of cheating - how can I survive this? He thinks he "gets it" now. I would think no one could ever "get" the pain that would cause someone to consider suicide, many times over the past 12 month of hell.
DDs, 1977 (prostitutes), 7/8/13 (LTA MOW), 11/14 (CL), 9/1/15 (PA).
Porn, 2DUIs, blame-shifting. I told both families & adult kids. I was suicidal and cutting.
I moved out for 2 years, he asked me to come home 10/16. R w exit plan.
STD discovered
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