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You are doing well, Tulip.

Personally I would want to hear the other side of the story so I can laugh the incredulous laugh usually saved for asinine stupidity, idiocy, and "you made a nice bed to lay down in next to the toilet."

You are doing an amazing job in the midst of your ww instigated shit storm.

Sending strength to you. You, my brother.

Q

Boy this sounds to good to be true. Can't help but wonder what the STBX'S side of the story is.

Interesting first post. Are you here for a particular reason?

TJ for a moment...

Knew you'd be along, MOD kdny!

You guys rock!

Thank you. For everything.

End TJ

Tulip, behind you all the way.

TCMM, I have followed your story form the start. You have displayed remarkable integrity from the start and I truly admire the devotion you have shown to your kids. What is truly amzing to me is the sense of humor you have managed to maintain thru all of the crap. Few could do so but I think it helps keep a person a bit more sane.

I think the van idea was cool. I hope she complains in front of the judge or the FOC. Nothing like having the opponent help you win your case by acting stupid!

Keep up the good work and just ignore any naysayers

Tulip, is your STBXW registered here by any chance?

Its being handled.

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:30 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

I'm sending you a PM in about a minute.

Lol. I read lula and pushed tofar's comments and came running in here ready to bear arms...only to find I've already missed the battle! what can I say? We defend our own!

In all seriousness, I feel very suspicious that pushed tofar is the STBX or someone who knows her. My gut is screaming here...

As to Lula's comments, I also have to disagree. I recently read a brilliant post (my apologies for forgetting the author) about how the BS will frequently roll over in an attempt to do what is in the best interest of the kids and avoid conflict. While I don't advocate putting kids in the middle, I also think that allowing yourself to be disrespected and steam-rolled by a wayward is equalling damaging to kids because it robs them of a role model which says it is OKAY to stand up for yourself and your right to respect, dignity, and boundaries. If Lula had read ALL of TCMM's story, then she would KNOW the following:

1. TCMM cannot divorce for at least 6 months and has already filed.

2. TCMM cannot legally make his STBX move out.

3. TCMM is the primary caretaker of the children. STBX has effectively abandoned her children.

4. TCMM has already moved to another part of the house to avoid contact with the STBX.

TCMM has done everything he should or can do. Further, he is not perfect. So what if he bought his STBX a GIFT she doesn't like! Tough t*tties! Please understand the situation before you come across offensive next time.

Whoa. That was all very odd. TCMM, another voice telling you that you're doing a wonderful thing for your children by keeping your anger in check in the face of such cruelty, maintaining their home and their leisure time and in general being a rock.

I really, really hope that odd one line post wasn't someone you know. Keep your chin up. You've got a lot of people here who are supportive of you and the way you've handled yourself.

Like Circe said

Keep your chin up. You've got a lot of people here who are supportive of you and the way you've handled yourself.

Count me as one of them TCMM.

Ciao

TCMM, your kids are so lucky to have you as a dad. Whatever is in your past, is done, and nothing makes you deserve what has happened here. This is the worst emotional and mental abuse.

I too would like to hear your WW's side of the story, if only to see how a mind that cruel works and what the thought processes and justficiations would be. But I probably would not really want to know--I bet it is a dark and scary place.

Stay strong. You are inspiring a lot of people here.

TCMM,

I have been avidly following both your posts, and you rock! You are solid for your children, and you behave with much more grace towards that bitch than 99.9 percent of the population. Keep on keeping on the way you are, you are an inspiration to us all! I wish you the best, no advice to offer, but know that you are a beacon of hope with your continued actions to all of us betrayed spouses. prayer sent for you.

and go, kdny, you rock! your protection is appreciated!

TCMM, I think you are about to get a flood of posts from all of us faithful followers of your story praising you for what a wonderful job you are doing in handling this f'ed up situation of yours.

I think you are an amazing dad and your kids are VERY lucky to have you!

Keep your chin up.

TCMM...You are doing what is needed for you to do for your family...your gut and your heart are leading you! Do what is right, and you will always win...but, you already know this! You are remarkable in the way you have handled this entire situation! Stand strong and have your feet planted to the ground...and you will come out on the other side, proud!

And never forget, We have your back!

Keep being the rock to your kids and the only real parent they have.

We all believe in you.

TCMM - I've been following this story quietly. I'm glad KDNY took care of the one-line post issue...gave me the creeps! Keep on keepin' on - you ARE a rock!

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:31 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

On the kid side, my daughter gave me a rubber bracelet that when taken off takes the shape of an octopus.

Oh yes, silly bandz! It always puts a smile on my face to see kids wearing and playing with these.

TCM, you are doing a great and admirable job being there for your kids. I am astounded by some of your WW's behavior. Stay strong...lots of us are rooting for you!