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Yes, I remember. One of the best 30 second periods of my life. I was 17 and I loved my girlfriend. We went at it like bunnies for years after that. Great memories.

yep wish I din't tho ...

May 22, 1993

high school grad ... at the party very drunk ... I was 18 ...

my friend and I had made a pack not to leave eachother alone ...

she went to go pee and left me by the bonfire ... after what seemed like forever I went to find her ...

could not find her ... asked this guy and he said I think she went out this way ...

and led me out in the weeds and 5 minutes later he was shutting me inside my truck to sleep it off ...

I member everything ... the stars what I said how I felt ... what he said ...

horrible memory ...

and the 1st time with Xh is no Daniel Steele novel either ... we were both sober and consenting ...

but it was wayyyy less than romantic and like he was in love ... more like he was just horny ...

I don't have any 1st time memories that are good ... I have umteenth time episodes that are good ... all with Xh ...

*sigh*

(((shattered and booger)))

Yes!

Every single thing about it... time, date, place, feelings... everything.

It was with my H...I was 17yrs old..it wasn't this awesome experience. I remember going 2 my best friends house afterwards & crying..he wasn't. Rough or mean..it wasn't this magical moment like I thought it would be..he just seemed 2 want 2 get "his" didn't really please me I was 2 naïve 2 anyhow..I guess he was only used 2 f-ing sluts and he was only 16 and a half I don't think he knew how 2 make love plus i don't think loved me at that time anyhow..we broke up a few weeks later then got back 2gether a few months later..we had sex again and it was the most mind blowing thing ever..it was wonderful in every way. Intense & we were "in love"..17yrs later and I still think 2 that day and smile..

Yup; it was stbxwh. Remember it like it was yesterday. Sheesh; thanks for the memory...

((shattered)) how I wish that was not true for you. . .

yes, I was 14, and his name was a little unclear-Kirk? Kurt? An older guy (prolly 23 or so), alcohol involved, in the back of an abandoned school bus. What I remember was, it was over pretty darn quick, and I KNEW what "that" oughtta feel like, and it sure as hell didn't give me a "that" so after a few minutes I said, "um, can we do that again?"but he was. . .unable.

Also, he didn't believe I was a virgin which pissed me off.

But to me, at that time, my virginity felt like a burden I wanted to be shed of, so I got what I wanted. In a WAY.

I vowed to find more proficient partners after that and I have been lucky in that regard!

Funny, I always thought of myself as an extraordinarily lucky person till this shitestorm hit.

And I'm pretty sure I remember every first time with a new person. It can be magickal, awkward, hot, hysterical and sometimes all of those things. That's pretty much how I knew FWH was for me, it was all those things and more. Lots of laughter. Lots of tenderness. I'd like to get those times back, really I would.

Sorry if I brought back BAD memories. The reason I asked is that my FWW claims she doesn't remember anything about the first time. Her memory of her multiple affairs is also absent!

unfortunately, yes.....in retrospect, I should have waited since the first time sucked ass....

I wouldn't be surprised if everyone remembered their first time.

Remembering the second and consecutive times afterwards may be a little muddy in the mind after some years especially if there was repeated encounters with the same person or numerous partners.

Yup, everything. I, too, had waited until I was older-25-but I should have waited longer!!!

yep. my sixteenth birthday. told him to stop. he wouldn't. thanks for the issues, BLT (his initials). broke up with him, and my mother kept scheming to get us back together....such a nice young boy, dontcha know.....he then cheated on me. so goes my life.... :) i will do better next time, though.

Yep....everything but the exact date though I know the month/year/day of week. I was older and just decided I wanted it over with so I did it. The guy was nice but waaaay more into me than I was into in. I dated him for way too long after that.

WH lost his to his first wife on his wedding night. He has always made such a huge deal of what a great guy he was for waiting for marriage. Probably just another lie he told me.

cuckhold - How old was your wife at her first time?

Yes.

And, I still have a piece of the bed sheet with both of our signatures and the date written in green pen!

ETA: I'm frightfully *sentimental*!

[This message edited by dreamlife at 11:05 PM, September 8th (Wednesday)]

Yes - it was with my FWH in college. First time for both of us. We were "onlies" until he threw that away.

I remember completely - name, place, circumstances, and could nail down the date if I looked at a calendar from 25 years ago.

Two Observations:

1. Funny how clearly most of us can remember this, but how unclearly our WSs can remember the first time in their affair(s). In my case, we had been together nearly 17 years (married 13+), and she couldn't even remember where they were for the first kiss, let alone many details about the ONS sex. Like I believed that??

2. It's curious how many of these stories involve husbands and wives as first sex partners. Do you think there's a correlation between those marriages where the first sex partner became a spouse and future issues with infidelity? Maybe a whole other topic.

The reason I asked is that my FWW claims she doesn't remember anything about the first time.

Does she not remember, or is she blocking it out? Is it possible she was abused or raped, or......?

Yes, I remember it all. It was with my WH--long before we were married. He was my first---I thought it was special. He found it to be a burden.

February 25, 1979, in the afternoon.

[This message edited by BetsyBG at 7:58 PM, September 10th (Friday)]

Yep, it was with STBX. I was 16. He is my one and only (until the divorce is final that is.... )