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Okay its been a very long night for me. I curled up with my husband early this morning and as I wrapped my legs around his, tmi, his balls rubbed up against me and he had stubble. In 11 yrs together he has. Never shaved. He first lied then said yes he shaves and has for about 9 months. How did I not notice? Our sex life has been pretty wham bam, and not much cuddeling . He tol me he shaved for one o the last ow back in april and has just continued. He is not a hairy man at all and I personally don't want him shaven. He has continued why? We all know why men shave their balls, so since he says there is no cheating why continue? He also lied about 3 wk ago when I asked him if he had ever shaved, and he said no. He says he just likes it and didn't want to upset me, nothing more. Its all bullshit isn't it?

First...

We all know why men shave their balls

um, I don't, never been with someone who has

so why do they shave them? My H has no desire to.

Second... I think your husband is feeding you a line of shit and I see red flags. I hope I'm wrong but doesn't sound good to me

(((stardust)))

Be trustful but vigilant! he might like the look of his 'manscaping" but be VERY aware! If your "gut" tells you something, it's not often wrong!

um, I don't, never been with someone who has

so why do they shave them? My H has no desire to.

Me neither?????

This does not sound like something I would just let go....

He tol me he shaved for one o the last ow back in april and has just continued

He actually told you this and he is still doing it???

Talk about a big trigger!!!

Boy maybe you should start doing his shaving for him....oops ...big slip

(((stardust))))

[This message edited by deena at 12:42 PM, January 8th (Saturday)]

Again tmi, but he shaved them for this girl because she wanted to put hairless balls in her mouth. I would like to think its about liking his manscaping, but its only the balls and he was never hairy to begin with and he has very small balls and a very large penis so you can't see it anyway, so there is only one conclusion I can come to, and I'm feeling very sick right now.

so why do they shave them? My H has no desire to.

It is for sexual encounters of the oral kind.

TMI alert:

It's not uncommon for men to shave down there. I was never in to it till I tried it once. I didn't start until I was 34 yrs old. I felt so clean after and many women do prefer the shaven look.

I now shave everything and I like it. It makes us look bigger and I can't stand sweaty hair down there.

I would imagine we shave for the same reasons women like to shave down there.

I'm feeling very sick right now.

((stardust)) have you told him how you feel about this? I mean really sat down and told him how this makes you feel?

Fuuuuuck-My H started doing this a couple of years ago. We were fighting like crzy then and had not had sex in a while, anyway one night we did, it wasnt planned, just happened and his fuckin balls were shaved. I asked him why and he said oooh just thought you might like it. Really???how would i like it if i havent seen them in 7 months. I knew knew knew he fucked that ugly BALL SUCKING BITCH. Omg

Sounds fishy to me, I'd keep snooping for sure.

And sorry, I know there are guys who like to manscape, but *ball stubble* just doesn't sound very appealing to me. Of course, that could just be me, because even normal shaving irritates my skin so much that I grew a beard in self-defense.

The fact that his answers seem to change depending on what he thinks you'll believe at the time really raises red flags.

I am of the same mind set as Oftenwrong when it comes to shaving. But if he is and you didn't ask him too, he is having an A or thinking about it in the least. Saw it with my WW, she never shaved bald before and my gut told me that is a sure sign she is cheating. Took me about 5 years to find out the truth but my gut was right. Sorry you are going through this, and I could be wrong but I would watch closely.

If he shaved them for the OW, he sure wouldn't be shaving them with me.

The bigger thing right now is he lied.....What is your line on that?

Sorry still steaming, now I know how long he was seeing her. i know it was happening when I suspected and that's why he was treating me like shit. Weird cuz he's still doing it, now it's because it itches to grow it out. Bullshit bullshit--I asked him how often he does it cuz I swear they are smooth as a babys ass. He said almost every day. Fucking idiot--has facial hair because in his own words "yeh i'm too lazy to shave everyday" so he can shave his sack everyday but not his face!!!

Not to defend him and the other's point out that this can be a sign of an A starting..

However, I shave my man parts more than my face. I just enjoy it more for some reason. <shrugs>

This just struck such a nerve of mine as this was my XWH (not Mr. DBB .. my first husband) when he had an A. When I noticed it I had never heard of a male shaving and I was totally out. When I found out that it started during the A I was out.

He can tell you what he wants but it's a huge red flag and this is why:

Red flag #1:

He first lied then said yes he shaves

Liar, liar balls on fire.

Red flag #2:

He tol me he shaved for one o the last ow back in april and has just continued.

Oh really? Since she likes him hairless, maybe she'll like him even better ball-less?

Red flag #3:

He also lied about 3 wk ago when I asked him if he had ever shaved, and he said no.

Liar, liar hairless balls on fire.

And ding-dong goes the bullshit meter:

He says he just likes it and didn't want to upset me, nothing more

No, he doesn't want to grow it back and upset other woman. Or, he's continuing the sex fantasy play book in his mind.

Since you don't like it - if I were you I'd throw every razor within my reach in the damned trash can, and he'd either grow that hair back or take his shinny, skinny balls to a hotel.

Sorry stardust. This is total wayward bullshit babble. You need to find out what's really going on.

DBB

Ya, what DBB said!

Liar, liar hairless balls on fire.

Bottom line - something's fishy here...sorry

(((stardust)))

Between the lies and the redflags I can just imagine just how insane it all sounds. Trust your gut, it is usually right. Just reading this sends my BS meter way off.

he'd either grow that hair back or take his shinny, skinny balls to a hotel.

I love DBB's wit and frankness!!

The ex had never shaved before she started screwing the OM... The OM was shaved too...

Trust your gut... I wish I would have...

WB

He should let the hair grow back - and put up with the itching and irritation of the stubble on his underwear. Tell him he's gotta wear a hair shirt!