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Basic_Guy ( member #4396) posted at 5:36 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
LOL....might take a little longer than that...lol
Courage does not always come with blinding flashes of light....sometimes you only notice it after it passes...
My patron saint is a-fighting with a ghost
He's always off somewhere when I need him most.
Shoestring ( member #20731) posted at 5:56 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
NO and it's been 3 years.....
The story is still on going....
And I don't like how it may turn out.
H (me) 76 Nov 7th
WS (her) 75 Aug 6th
A lasted 25+ years
Maybe all our married life?
M 56 yrs on Oct 2
OMM - Same age as WS
They were Hi school sweethearts
D-day March 27, 2008
Children grown Son 48 D 44
sohurt32 ( member #29661) posted at 6:25 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
Me BW 32
Him WH 33 Married 10 yrs
DD 3 DS 1
(Discovery)-Day Nov 21, 2009
He still has not confessed. OW told me the truth.
"The Lord will either calm your storm or calm you while the storm is raging"
Katieisfree ( member #22930) posted at 9:20 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
No. 3 years of lies = 6 years of recovery. Every lie sets me back another year.
DD 6/6/08
Sep 5/8/08
R 16/12/08
dead-n-side ( member #21048) posted at 9:31 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
4 and 1/2 years out = Hell no.
ME: BH, 37
WW, 34
married 16 years
4 kids, 16,13,11,&9
lostworld ( member #19197) posted at 9:42 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married Over 30 years w/ grown kids
Dday 1: 2007
Dday 2: Mid 2008 (same MOW, 14 month false R)
R'd
The affair was the aberration, not the marriage or the man.
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 9:42 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
Psssssh. Really?
11 years past the 1st A, D in the meantime and I'll still never trust like I used to.
Hell no. Your WW must be on some pretty great stuff to even suggest it's possible. ex-asshat was the exact same way. He couldn't understand why I didn't forgive him right away. 
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 1:28 AM on Thursday, March 24th, 2011
Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess
bent44 ( member #31386) posted at 7:31 AM on Thursday, March 24th, 2011
Now that this thread has been ressurected (after 43 dyas), I want to point out to newer members or those reading it for the first time that the question was asked (dripping in sarcasm) as an outlet from a very frustrated BS (me), in disbelief that his WW could actually be so impatient.
Darn, this was at least an easy question I knew I could get right. The rest of my life feels, well...just the opposite.
Tomorrow is 5 months, and to answer your question...NO!
"If you marry a chicken, don't expect an eagle."
I don't know if my chicken will ever become an eagle. But rest assured, I'm going to be a phoenix. Nevermind that I am still in the ashes stage of the process.
Update...he
Tresemme ( member #31185) posted at 7:41 AM on Thursday, March 24th, 2011
no..my wh thought i should 'get over it' and "im not gonna stay being tortured forever".."i know how u are,ur never gonna stop trying to punish me"..etc..that was for the first six months..he doesnt say that anymore..he knows its not realistic..he was just so eager to stop talking about it,bc he had all the answers,he had nothing to ask..he thought he had nothing to gain..but he is starting to act like he wants me to take my time and grieve so we can true R
(Me)Bw late 30s
On 5/1/10 I learned I hired a succubus as a live in nanny and that she was preg w an OC!
2019 Divorcing and in love with someone I pray is the monogamist I begged Jesus for
Dearlord ( member #30067) posted at 7:42 AM on Thursday, March 24th, 2011
I got over him in milliseconds it took for me to read "I just had to cum in your ass last night"... I doubt I'll ever get over the affairs though.
And thankfully I'll never have to forget it or get over it, since I'll be getting a lovely little reminder about it from him on a biweekly basis till the day I die, because I'll be damned if I EVER get remarried again to let him off the hook for spousal support.
Me - BS 33
Him - XH 33
Together 13 yrs, Married 5 years
Last D-Day November 6th, 2010
Found my inner bitch and moving on!
Tresemme ( member #31185) posted at 7:47 AM on Thursday, March 24th, 2011
ugh god,thats horrific to read that,omg
(Me)Bw late 30s
On 5/1/10 I learned I hired a succubus as a live in nanny and that she was preg w an OC!
2019 Divorcing and in love with someone I pray is the monogamist I begged Jesus for
hopingforhappy ( member #29288) posted at 1:34 PM on Thursday, March 24th, 2011
No, don't think it is possible if you are a human being with normal emotions. Not unless you have that lobotomy that someone earlier in the thread mentioned. I am 11 months out and sometimes consider a lobotomy. . .
Me--BW (57)
Him--FWH (54)--5yr. LTA--OW probably BPD
Married 21 years
DS-19, DD-16
Reconciling--but boy is it hard!
LuvingMe ( member #28829) posted at 1:38 PM on Thursday, March 24th, 2011
I can't even walk without you (Jesus) holding my hand.
Buffy7 ( new member #31324) posted at 2:20 PM on Thursday, March 24th, 2011
just passed the 21 day mark and that would be a great bit heck NO. 
BS: (me) 28
WH: 31
OW: 25 with a physical deformity
M: 7 years
1 child: 10 weeks old
D Day: 2/20/11
Reclaiming what's mine!
need2moveon ( member #31551) posted at 7:39 PM on Friday, March 25th, 2011
no chance. 13 years later and I still have issues from time to time.
Dday: 06/97
Doing better for about 7 solid years.
Reconciled for 20 years....
AIHAH ( member #19040) posted at 7:47 PM on Friday, March 25th, 2011
NNNNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!
So embarrassing that I wasn't able to do that if it is possible.... 
Giving my best one day at a time and so is my FWH. :)
AIHAH
Pansy Moss ( member #30030) posted at 8:10 PM on Friday, March 25th, 2011
No.
On Day 26 it was all just starting to hit me and I was in the ER having panic attacks.
~Pansy Moss 41 (BS)
~FWH 40 LostGuy73
wife of 19 yrs
Mom of 7 (dd 20,ds 18,ds 14,ds 11, ds 9,dd 7,ds 4)
Last D-Day 10.2.09
Separated
"LOVE is not blind; that is the last thing it is. Love is bound; and the more it is bound the less it is bl
ConfusedIsMe ( member #31488) posted at 8:26 PM on Friday, March 25th, 2011
21 days as of yesterday.
I couldn't even begin to tell you what my feelings are, but I do know that I am not not over it. Things trigger me all day long and I still can't tell you how I feel about him.
Me: Betrayed 30
Him: Wandering 36
Together 6 years
kiddo: My beautiful 5 year old from a past relationship who only knows WS as Daddy
D-Day 3/3/11
areyoukidding ( member #30528) posted at 12:51 AM on Saturday, March 26th, 2011
Perhaps she could share her secret as to how she was able to get past everything so quickly. I think we would all like to know how to fast forward our recoveries. I am only 4 months out from d-day and would love to have this crap behind me.
One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you can't change.
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