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heartbrkn0209 ( member #31679) posted at 3:08 AM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2011
[This message edited by heartbrkn0209 at 9:10 PM, October 3rd (Monday)]
Me: BH
Her: XWW
Married to XWW for over 16 years
Together for 19 years. 3 Kids
D-day Feb 2011. Divorced 6mo later
No multiple D-Days for me
She was having sex w a married man and several women in our home and at motel rooms. No remorse, just lies
donovan ( new member #28369) posted at 4:44 PM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2011
You both seem so happy!! It makes me feel so good that your story has turned out so good for the both of you. Your love for each other is literally unshakable at this point. Please rest assure that so many out here wish they had what you both have with each other.
CobreGuy ( member #23249) posted at 11:56 PM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2011
Quick update, Om was sentenced to 15 years in prison for 5 counts of sexual assault involving controled substances, and one count of forcible rape. He didn't want to go to trial, because he would have gotten much more time. So our ordeal is finally over.
I don't know if I'm supposed to feel this way. . . . but your post made me feel really, really good. Hopefully he will never be in a position again to be a sexual predator.
Dead M (original poster member #32972) posted at 5:50 AM on Thursday, October 6th, 2011
Vanessa and I would like to thank all of you who have shown interest in my posts, and we want to express our sincerest gratitude to those who also gave us such good advice and provided a ready and sympathetic ear. Our love has grown so much, since this horrible incident, that it is almost like we have moved to a higher form of love. We find that we can barely be apart for more that a few hours at a time. She cannot sleep without my arms around her, and I'm always worried about her when she is out of sight. The aftermath of a sexual assault takes time to erase, but I want all of my friends here to know that I will love and protect her forever.
bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 7:01 AM on Thursday, October 6th, 2011
isthisforreal ( member #30926) posted at 12:30 PM on Thursday, October 6th, 2011
So glad to hear that you are both in a very good place! Made me smile this morning. 
BW me 47
WH him 52
married 24 years
DD 9/15/10
3 incredible teenage daughters
"it only hurts when I breathe"
Textbook Case ( member #24977) posted at 1:45 PM on Thursday, October 6th, 2011
I love a happy ending. Sniff.
BW- me
FWH- 5-year EA/PA plus really poor boundaries with coworkers
Married 30 years (college sweethearts)
Reconciling...
ForwardMotion ( member #32608) posted at 2:15 PM on Thursday, October 6th, 2011
me - BH
'It's not the end of everything,
It's just end of everything you know.'
Want2Run ( member #22745) posted at 2:48 PM on Thursday, October 6th, 2011
Wishing you both all the best.
Happily divorced!!
Moved on...well we still have to co-parent...
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 4:41 PM on Thursday, October 6th, 2011
Wow, Dead M---what an ordeal you've been through...both you and Vanessa. I really admire the way you've handled this. And I'm so glad the outcome was...well, as positive as it could be under the circumstances.
Lots of continued love and support to the two of you. You are so lucky to have one another.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
oldtimer97 ( member #2365) posted at 4:45 PM on Thursday, October 6th, 2011
So, so glad your life has many great things in store for you. It makes you wonder what might have happened had you not stopped upon www.survivinginfidelity.com not so long ago. Just know no matter how fabulous your life becomes, you'll have friends here on SI that would love an update from time to time (new kids, pics on the island, etc) OH! And give us your address in Belize and you'll never want for visitors 
To Vanessa: You'll get through this and come out the stronger for it (spoken as a rape victim more than once)
Only one more person I was thinking about: OM's wife. I hope if you have contact with her, you can tell her about SI. Some of us have been married to not just cheaters, but criminals & crooks too & it would be nice to offer her an ear if she finds her way here. With that said "Go Make a Baby!!!!"
“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.”
― Maya Angelou
To save a marriage, you must be willing to lose the marriage.
gulliblelass ( member #16089) posted at 11:07 AM on Friday, October 7th, 2011
Your last post has put a big smile on my face today, thank you!
So pleased that you and Vanessa are doing so well and moving ahead with your lifes. Your love for her radiates from your posts and I'm so pleased you are there to help and support her trying to get over this terrible ordeal.
There's some lucky child out there who's going to have the most wonderful adoptive parents who have so much love to give. Keep us updated.
Big hugs
WH 49
Me 44
3 beautiful children
Married 14 years together 17
DD1 03/06
DD2 06/07
In R and going well, hoping everyday that this is the last time otherwise I'm out of here
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 3:34 PM on Friday, October 7th, 2011
DeadM-
Your update brought a smile to my face!!
Congrats to you and Vanessa.
Belize is a great place.
Your future baby will be one lucky kid.
Hugs to both of you.
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
Dead M (original poster member #32972) posted at 11:19 PM on Sunday, October 9th, 2011
Oldtimer97, the OM's wife is constantly in our thoughts and prayers. She is as much a victim, as the women he molested, in my opinion. I talk to her weekly and so does Vanessa. I know it sounds silly, but we have formed a bond with her that I think will last forever. We met her, in person, in Philly, during the arraignment, and she is a very nice lady. She is a very shy, retiring person, and was never allowed to work outside of the home. Her H, the OM , browbeat and abused ( she is somewhat overweight) her terribly. She is seeing an IC now, but we want her to come stay with us for a while, maybe a change of scenery will help her.
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