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wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 5:25 AM on Tuesday, August 30th, 2011
Good for you two! I'm rooting for you...
This can and will be one of the great survivor stories for SI...
Good job my man... Good job for you my lady...
WB
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
Dead M (original poster member #32972) posted at 7:40 AM on Sunday, September 4th, 2011
Just wanted to say hi to our friends here. We are having a great time, and she is doing wonderfully. We both have discovered a passion for deep sea fishing and scuba. We also are making love ALL NIGHT LONG!!!!! She is sooooo happy that it is over, and we can do what she really wants, GET PREGNANT!!! I truly have the most wonderful woman in the world, and not to brag, but she has the most wonderful husband, too. We sound like a couple of teenagers, don't we.
bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 8:50 AM on Sunday, September 4th, 2011
thanks for the update....so many dont do that.. I always wonder that happens to some of the folks that post on here....
Keep us posted, bro..
Bufffalo
ScubaGirl ( member #20001) posted at 9:27 AM on Sunday, September 4th, 2011
I'm SO VERY HAPPY to read your update. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
Also, I'm happy you both discovered scuba! (as you can tell by my name!) 
It's a fab pastime, something I used to do every weekend when I lived by the sea.
BW (me) - 52
FWH - 53
D-Day - 13 May 2007
Started R - 12 Sept 2007
2011 - as solid as I want us to be
still-living ( member #30434) posted at 10:20 AM on Sunday, September 4th, 2011
DM and Ness,
You guys are so awesome! Your love for each other is so strong!
Wishing you the very, very best.
SL
Dead M (original poster member #32972) posted at 12:14 AM on Monday, September 12th, 2011
Hello everybody. We are still on vacation (we're having so much fun, we are staying for a while) I am thinking that we may just settle here. Vanessa says "HI", and wants me to tell you all our great news. We have decided that we will adopt a baby girl from here, and maybe live here as well. We BOTH LOVE Belize, and I can work from here or maybe change jobs and start a business here. Vanessa is doing great, and our marriage is better than it was before her assault. She finally realized that it was not her fault, and is so much in love with her "hero", (Me, with a bright red face). 
toby ( member #10337) posted at 12:51 AM on Monday, September 12th, 2011
Awesome!!!! Thanks for the update DM.
ForwardMotion ( member #32608) posted at 2:01 AM on Monday, September 12th, 2011
Thanks for the update! Glad you guys are doing great. Enjoy the time together.
me - BH
'It's not the end of everything,
It's just end of everything you know.'
Dead M (original poster member #32972) posted at 9:19 AM on Monday, October 3rd, 2011
Quick update, Om was sentenced to 15 years in prison for 5 counts of sexual assault involving controled substances, and one count of forcible rape. He didn't want to go to trial, because he would have gotten much more time. So our ordeal is finally over.
Laura28 ( member #28997) posted at 10:24 AM on Monday, October 3rd, 2011
DM and Vanessa
Hi guys. What wonderful news. You sound so happy.
Can't tell you how much it means to all of us to hear your news.
Also the monster's sentence reassures us that there IS a Karma bus.
You have really cheered me up tonight.
Please keep checking back in and good luck with your wonderful new life.
HUGS to you both
Laura
Married 42yrs Me BW 68Yrs Him F?WH 70yrs OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted. Dday May 28 2010. OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years). OW2 2002(8yrs PA). OW3 2009(1Yr PA). Others?? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck 'em"
gulliblelass ( member #16089) posted at 12:07 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2011
DM & Vanessa
Thank you so much for the update. I am so glad OM got his just desserts so to speak.
Lets hope by locking him away for a long time that the world will be somewhat better of without him!
My love goes out to you and Vanessa and hope that you have been able to start rebuilding your lives into a much stronger and loving one after having to endure this terrible ordeal.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Big hugs
WH 49
Me 44
3 beautiful children
Married 14 years together 17
DD1 03/06
DD2 06/07
In R and going well, hoping everyday that this is the last time otherwise I'm out of here
putonahappyface ( member #30269) posted at 12:35 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2011
Cheers to you both - what uplifting, happy news! I love the thought of adopting - she, or he, will be such a lucky baby to have you two as parents 
p.s. If you have a great resort recommendation for Belize, please post. Or pm me. Thx!
BS (me) - 51; SAWH- 52 (hurtherbadly)
Married 28 yrs
2 DS - 21&17
Dday 6/4/2010. 2 EA/PA
11/15/12 update: discovered porn addiction
4 years out: M is strong; FWH is a new man :)
Cee64D ( member #21836) posted at 5:00 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2011
I'm so glad to hear this news. I hope things continue to improve for you both. Be assured that OM will get the curb stomping he so richly deserves when he meets his new cellmate, Bubba.
Enjoy life. Both of you.
C=64
The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008
wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 5:45 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2011
Excellent news DM and Ness!....
I love Belize... Hope you two are enjoying yourselves...
WB
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
andyd1950 ( member #20018) posted at 6:12 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2011
He didn't get what he REALLY deserves, if you know what I mean.
Now on to better things.
Any word on your starting a family ?
BS (me) - 61
fWW (her)- 57
Married 39 years March 17,2012
Forgiving, that's easy.
Trusting again, that's hard.
Forgetting, impossible!
"When you take things for granted, the things you are granted get taken away."~ RevRun.
bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 8:47 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2011
Om was sentenced to 15 years in prison
Day-um....DeaadM, you drive one hellofa "karma bus"....congrats!!!
Hope he gets a cellmate thats a fat hairy alpha male named "bubba".....with a nickname like "triapod"!!!
Does he get to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life....????
Thanks for the update, bro....
Good luck to you and yours, man.....
Bufffalo
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lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 8:48 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2011
Hope he gets a cellmate thats a fat hairy alpha male named "bubba".....with a nickname like "triapod"!!!
this is why i love bufffalo so.... his straight approach to life and humour...
yes he deserves a special cell mate.
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BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
Jay1029 ( member #30541) posted at 10:32 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2011
DM & Vanessa I just wanted to wish you both the very best that life has to offer. You both deserve it. I just feel so sorry for Vanessa to have to go through such an ordeal. I know DM it was just as hard on you especially early on but she was the true victim here. Two things: 1. I think it is time for you to change you user name as your marriage is very much alive. 2. You embody the true meaning of “Semper Fi “. Take care of that girl.
BH (Me) 39
WW (Her) 37
2 Childern, Girl 9, Boy 15 months
Married 14 years together 20
DDay 10/29/2010 - This F'ing sucks
Wife's DDay some time in Nov 2010 - I confessed to an A I had 12 years ago.
Currently working on R
Dead M (original poster member #32972) posted at 2:44 AM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2011
Yep, Buff, he is a sex offender for the rest of his worthless life. We are trying very diligently to get started on the family. We will have to stay in the States until the adoption process is finished, but we have already bought a house down in Belize, and want to move there sometime next year, by which time we hope to have at least two kids, one adopted and one "in the oven".
Dead M (original poster member #32972) posted at 2:47 AM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2011
BTW, Ness is doing great!! She still has her moments, but I'm always there to hold her, and tell her how much I love her. If anything , this has strengthened our love. She thinks I'm a god, and I think she is too fine for words.
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