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20/20 Hindsight: What I should have done when I J F O

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Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 7:03 PM on Monday, February 29th, 2016

I need to bump this on the off chance the universe will send it to someone who needs to read it.

Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 6:59 PM on Monday, March 21st, 2016

BUMP

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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Baseballmom ( member #50304) posted at 2:01 AM on Tuesday, March 22nd, 2016

This is one of the most profound posts I have read and so very very true. I am 15 months post Dday....wish I had found this back then. Amazing.

Me: BW 45
Him: WH 45 Affair with FCOW
2 sons
DDay - 12-14-14
Happily reconciled

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joannie ( member #42486) posted at 9:08 AM on Tuesday, March 22nd, 2016

Thank you for post.I am with my h three years d day next month.three year r august. I say r as he is staying with me. But he is not remorseful at all. He can lie for the world. But I love him and hope for him to be truthful.in the meantime...I am slowly dying. Your post hit home.

me BS 57
Him WS 56
Married 37 years 2 sons 5 grandchildren

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 2:34 PM on Sunday, April 3rd, 2016

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 6:02 PM on Monday, April 18th, 2016

Bumping for newcomers or others who may have missed seeing it.

"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.

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mharris ( member #46683) posted at 6:36 PM on Monday, April 18th, 2016

This is a great thread. I wish that I had read it when I jfo, maybe I would have done things the right way.

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Lovingmyselfmore ( member #46119) posted at 12:12 AM on Saturday, April 23rd, 2016

Bumping

dday: september-12-2014
Me: 42 EX: 46 gay or bisexual (go figure!) together: 12 years
Dday to 3 months: suicidal 1 year after: huge depression- 1.5 years still kind of depressed-Took me 2.5 years to be kind of happy again

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 6:58 PM on Tuesday, April 26th, 2016

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 3:26 AM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2016

Bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 9:44 PM on Thursday, May 26th, 2016

Bump

"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 10:59 PM on Friday, June 3rd, 2016

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 2:31 AM on Wednesday, June 8th, 2016

bump

Me: BS, 40's.

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 6:38 PM on Wednesday, June 15th, 2016

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:23 PM on Wednesday, June 22nd, 2016

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 8:48 AM on Monday, July 4th, 2016

Bump.

"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 10:19 PM on Wednesday, July 6th, 2016

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:04 PM on Wednesday, July 13th, 2016

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 10:07 PM on Monday, July 18th, 2016

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:27 PM on Thursday, August 4th, 2016

bump

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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