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We do what we can until we can do no more.

The D/S crowd is a wonderful lot. Just sorry you have to join that club.

(((wonderboy & littles)))

I'm remembering a saying that goes something along the lines of "has a fool for a client?"

Run your stuff past a second set of eyes, K?

C'mon Gonna, have a little more faith in me than that. My judgment may suck when it comes to picking a wife, but I know how to pick the best damn lawyer in town (I am sooooo great).

I am so sorry. I agree with everything everyone has said. I think you are doing the right thing.

May I second the suggestion to get representation for yourself? My WH is a lawyer as well. When I told MY lawyer that WH chose to represent himself in our post-nup, he was giddy and said that was greatly to our advantage. Because every lawyer THINKS they know how to do any kind of law, but the truth is divorce law is exceedingly complicated and very very specific to the state/county. Even an actual divorce lawyer would not be able to objectively see the best path to navigate their own situation and protect their (and their kids') best interests. Just sayin'.

So very sorry to hear this. I agree with the advice about getting another attorney. Even if you are an expert in family law you should still get another lawyer involved who is more impartial. Please protect yourself.

I hear all this advice and appreciate it, but at this time, she and I are going to see if we can agree on the general terms such as custody, no child support, no alimony and splitting assets and debts 50/50. Right now we are both on the same page. If she lawyers up, then I will too, but we agree on the general principals so we should be o.k. and can file the petition jointly.

You seem to be keeping a level head- atleast in the SI world! I pray that God will be with you and that this will end in peace!

If the mediator doesn't work for me do you want to come to NY and be my lawyer?

Keep your head held high Wonderboy!

but at this time, she and I are going to see if we can agree on the general terms

Oddly, my stbxwh was great about the terms of the D, that were quite favorable to me. I say oddly b/c he has been so horrible in every other way.

I hope your WW continues in this vein. I suspect she might given my impression of her in her latest post.

I have to say, when I read her latest post in the wayward forum, what struck me most was the "flat affect". There was NO emotion there. Some said she was hostile, but I didn't see that. I saw the absence of any feeling.

And she was not very articulate either. I don't mean she sounded stupid, but rather she sounded shut down, reserved, and just ... closed off.

And you are so colorful & articulate & full of life! The contrast was really stunning. If what you've been getting from her IRL is even 50% of the "lack of" that was in the post, no wonder you're done. You can't make progress trying to work things out with a lamppost.

((wonderboy))

Very sorry for you at this difficult time.

You can't fix anyone else -- only work on yourself.

You have a lot to offer the world. Don't forget that on the down days.

WB,

That is the path ex ww and I went. It has worked well for the littles- they have transitioned well.

The finances were not worth the battle and inevitable bad blood spilling more crap on the most innocent victims.

Sending you strength, brother. Mantra the kids first and remind her of that whenever she starts getting flaky or balks.

Ugh. The lack of remorse and effort to address the A were killers for me, too.

I did get some remorse and a real accepting the blame without shifting about a month ago. lol. Two and a half years too late.

Quickly taken back, of course.

Be strong. (and remember the morality clause- and include six months before new paramour is introduced to littles- this is good for them and you)

Dude...you are med/mal. NOT family. Get over yourself

Just kidding....kinda. I'm sticking with having a 'family' guy look over your shit. I'm serious.

(and I am considering this payback for the knuckle-rapping you gave me when you saw me posting at times that I *should* have been outlining! ) Consider it payback!

I hear ya gonna. (but I am really that awesome). We will have a family guy look it over but will have to waive the conflict of interest. I won't be secretive about what we are trying to accomplish with the divorce.

((wonder boy)) Good luck! Take care of yourself and give those kids lots of Iove.

WB)))))

I so relate to your situation. Hope for the best for you and yours.