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I want to know if "spit" as a lubricant is an acceptable thing for you.

Guys, would you use spit as a lubricant? What are your feelings about spitting onto someone you care about?

Ladies, does this feel disrespectful to you? I am not talking about saliva delivered via oral sex. I am referring to either spitting directly onto the genitals or into the hand and then using it as a lubricant.

Thanks in advance!

This is very common in porn.

Yes, it would absolutely feel disrespectful.

That is all.

Some people get their sex education in porn...I guess it doesn't make for good camera to get the KY jelly out.

**TMI TMI TMI**

I have trouble getting naturally lubricated before sex. Mostly due to a physical issue, I believe. I am also very sensitive to artificial lubricants in that area, even water-based types. They cause itching and discomfort. So, because of this, something must be done. Since XH is not always comfortable performing oral sex before intercourse (and I am fine with that), he will use his saliva. He does NOT spit "on" me. He will wipe his fingers on his tongue and then place it in that area.

I have never felt disrespected or disgusted by it. He isn't doing it to be gross; it is just what works for us.

I woudnt spit on my food before I ate it and I wouldnt spit on my penis before I inserted it either. Damn right its disrespectfull and disgusting as well. Get some damn lube is you need it. If your man is doing this I suggest you educate him on how to properly get your natural juices flowing. Or at the very least make sure there is some KY laying around.

Heartbroken try organic coconut oil, it is a great lube, all natural too.

Umm yes I would be disguisted if a man did this to me.

t/j (sorry):

Thanks for the suggestion, PlainsGirl, I will try that.

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try organic coconut oil, it is a great lube, all natural too.

My massage therapist recommended this for personal massage ... which, when time allows, often leads to intercourse.

Non-organic is cheaper, and I never had any problems

I like it. It can be very sensual, it's warm, and it's handy. Not the greatest of lubes, but it's handy. When you're already sharing body fluids, saliva is just an addition to the list. Just my opinion.

Not a fan of artificial lube... spit is okay with me.

Ok, so call me crazy but what the hell is wrong with saliva. You open mouth kiss don't you? Now spitting, that should only be allowed if both parties are into that sort of thing. If that is part of the turn on ...well then so be it. I don't make judgments on sex unless the play is unwanted or causes concussions. It's only degrading if you consider it so and if you do it shouldn't be done. I had a girlfriend who liked to spit on my...ahem...for lube and I certainly didn't feel it was degrading...call me evil call me a sinner but I didn't mind it at all. She actually was a very conservative lady except for...well she just wasn't always conservative.

It's not the saliva, but the act of spitting- just turns me off. Bleh.

I don't have a problem with saliva as a lubricant. I've never had someone be gross about spitting. Just hand to mouth, apply, wheeeee! I don't see that as disrespectful at all and it would never have occurred to me.

Coconut oil is a great lube. Olive oil too. Don't use the chemical ky stuff! That's wy more gross to me than saliva!

If you wouldn't put it in your mouth, then don't put it on your genitals and up your vj.

What are your feelings about spitting onto someone you care about?

The OP said "spitting onto". To me, that would feel disgusting and disrespectful. Mere saliva is neither.

[This message edited by Hope24 at 7:17 PM, September 12th (Wednesday)]

I have never thought of this as disrespectful but as mentioned, it's the method of applying it. The "act of spitting" is different than using saliva as a lubricant. I have never had anyone spit on any part of my body but it's been used in other ways. Not a problem at all. There is a way to do it without "spitting."

coconut oil is good

being spit on can feel disrespectful, but it is what they do in porn, they also do a lot of things I am not sure your average person does on a daily basis, but that's what they get paid for. I don't mind spit, but it depends on the moment. There have been times when I did not want that.

saliva via oral sex is perfectly acceptable, spitting on the genitals feels...icky. Maybe the act of spitting is thought of as disrespectful, so that icky feeling is lack of respect.

t/j....Because I've had a total hysterectomy, I have to have some sort of additional lubricant or I tear, I recommend "Slippery Stuff"....I've tried most of them since my surgery 6 years ago!

Spitting on me? No way.

Using it as lubricant? Fine with me.

I have no problem with saliva as lube....but the 'presentation' matters. I definitely wouldn't like be spit on. If a man was doing that, I'd have to educate him.