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Tesla:

From personal experience I know you can get your dog back. PM me if you want.

As for the other psychotic crap - take everyone's advice here and protect yourself all ways you possibly can.

Hugs.

what nature girl said. time for a restraining order, and anger management classes. Has he ever been aggressive to teslet? ((((tesla))))

I feel so violated and vulnerable.

I know exactly what that feels like. Once I took actions to protect myself, I still felt scared and jumpy, but so much better.

You were absolutely violated but you're not as vulnerable as you feel, just like others have said, if you haven't already, get what you need to secure your house and be able to know you, Teslet, and the pups are safe from that pathetic POS. There's a special place in hell for men who get a rise out of spooking women and children...and other men, for that matter.

OMG. I happened to only read two posts today. Both yours. I can't BELIEVE how this transpired...I did NOT see that coming.

I agree with everyone else. Restraining order, alarm, mace...whatever you can do to stay safe. And what about Teslet? This is a guy who impregnated a stripper, left his family, kicks in doors and steals dogs. He is ill.

(((Tesla))) absolutely do NOT let this pass! Please protect yourself and teslet!

He should be arrested.

(((Tesla))) Wow. I'm so sorry you are going through this, definitely follow through with a police report, lawyers, everything that you have been advised by people who have been there, done that.

(((tesla))) What a psycho!

((((tesla))))

FTG!!!!!!!

Get his fucking ass arrested, and do what you have to do to protect yourself and Teslet.

Good think dumbfuck documented the whole thing for you.

((((tesla))))

Thank you everyone!

I'm taking all the steps that have been suggested here. I don't know what's going to pan out as a consequence for him...but I will make sure that if one can be enforced, it will be.

How that fucker thought that breaking in my door was an ok course of action is beyond me. Why he thinks that I would leave the lock that he installed (but conveniently kept one of the keys to) is also beyond me. Not that it matters, he can still kick in the goddamn door. I am calling a contractor to put in a new door...I don't give a shit how much it costs and it will be expensive because the door will be special order.

I know that he's going to try to come back and switch the dogs. He has the one that he doesn't want. Mosley is an awesome dog but he's a big ole malamute. He needs a yard, he needs companionship. He's going to eat pregnant stripper whore's ferrets. He's going to chew up anything he can get cause he's going to be bored. He's probably going to pee on something that the ferrets have been on. I hope he jumps up on stbx's bed and pisses all over it. All of this is awesome but it's going to piss stbx off and I don't want Mosley getting dumped or hurt.

Lie-Lie is the calm one. (although she would kill the ferrets faster than Mosley) She is older and more relaxed.

He sent me a text last night saying it was fine, he'll just keep Mosely since I'm determined not to let him have Lie-Lie.

oh really fucker?? How about a mother-fucking apology for breaking into my house??!! I love how I continue to be the bad guy. What lies have you spun to everyone now that you've shown up with the WRONG dog?? Go to hell, you cock-sucker. Let's see. You cheat. With a stripper. You walk out on your wife and 3 year old. You leave wife and 3 yr old in a house that you've destroyed with your 'home-remodeling' projects. You get said stripper pregnant. You lie about ever being married. You blow off chances to to finalize the divorce. Now you are breaking in doors and stealing.

HOW THE FUCK DO YOU SPIN THIS SHIT AND CONTINUE TO PUT THE BLAME ON ME!!!!????

I have not responded or engaged with him. I will not engage with a stupid piece of shit that breaks into my house. I am very proud of myself for not engaging with him and just going straight to my L and the police.

But what sucks is that I have to pick Teslet up on Sunday from his place. (Yeah, it's his visitation weekend). I talked to Teslet last night...he sounds fine. Interestingly, he did not mention that Mosley was with him. stbx has never been aggressive toward him. So long as stbx sees Teslet as an extension of himself, he will be fine. But when the day comes that he starts reminding stbx of me...there will be problems. That is likely years down the road. I hope by then stbx will have gone the fuck on his merry way and will leave us alone. (stbx has never been violent toward me either but he does have anger issues.)

I miss my Mosley.

Omfg. Just omfg.

How incredibly awful, crazy, and violating.

Tesla, is it possible he's on drugs? I ask that question in all seriousness.

Also, look into 9-pin locking doors. I don't know why people don't use them in the states. Maybe because they're ugly...?

ETA hmm, I can't find them anywhere except on Chinese websites. I guess we REALLY don't use them. They have 3 deadbolts each though at the handle and then at the top and bottom (going up and down into the frame) corners so that it effectively makes the door impossible to kick in. Also, they're solid metal.

Tell your locksmith you want a door that can't be kicked in. Think shady NYCA apartment kind of door with multiple layers of locks - if you can get ones that don't just connect on the side that's even better.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 7:16 AM, September 29th (Saturday)]

((((tesla))))

This scares me for you. Please continue following up with every possible precaution.

Seriously - call the cops and charge him. My WH is a cop. You can do this. I know he has gone to reposess property before. Best you have legal controls and records of his insanity.

Try to get your dog back through the cops. If he does not like the dog, you don't want him hurting or neglecting it.

Take pics of the damage. Charge him with trespass and get a restraining order. Take pics of the texts. Show the cops.

I am seriously speechless. Protect yourself and your family.

Tesla -

I second the question about the potential for drug use.

I really hope that the police are willing and able to do something about this and that you are able to get a RO against this fucknut.

And please, when you got to pick up Teslet - take someone with you so that there is someone there other than just you and fucknut. Perhaps even call your local law enforcement, explain that he kicked in your door and stole your dog and that you're pursuing pressing charges and you're afraid for your safety and the safety of your child given his erratic behaviour.

P.S. - I'm so sorry about Mosley. I am sure you do miss him very much! Though why fucknut wants either of the dogs is beyond me. I mean isn't stripper/whore's menagerie enough? Idiots.

[This message edited by SouthernGal at 8:12 AM, September 29th (Saturday)]

Tesla, this is serious.

You need to press charges- for breaking and entering, for theft, for terrorizing you and your dogs. And you need to get a restraining order and/or a PFA RIGHT NOW.

I speak from experience here- my ex broke into my house once and stole a bunch of stuff, went through my lawyer's papers, etc. And he tried to do it twice more.

When I called the police to report it, they offered me a restraining order or a PFA, and I stupidly didn't take them up on it. I regret that to this day.

Sue him for the damages to your house and the cost of replacing the door, AND the cost of upgraded security.

DO NOT let this pass without hitting him with every available legal/law enforcement option, or you will regret it. Believe me on this one.

You need the police involved and a report on file for when the time comes that his behavior escalates. And it will escalate.

A crime was committed.

I second what UR_AN_IDIOT said.

Please be careful, I too would call the police.

Where was Teslet when he kicked in the door?

He sounds like he is out of control, my x was going to sue me for our dog so I offered to pay to fly the dog out to him, he don't want the dog now

If he is mad at you there is no telling what he may do to Mosley,

As sad as it is sometimes we need to involve the authorities for our own good,

When you have to go pick up Teslet, is anyone able to go with you? If not I would ask the police to have an officer present, you more than have the grounds for it.

Just wanted to let you know I am thinking about this again this morning.

I really hope that he wouldn't hurt Moseley at all. My heart is just sick for you and teslet.