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Dear Tesla,

I just despise Asshat for all he has done. What an out of control moron - a total loser.

I hope Mosely pisses all over his and the strippers stuff and you quickly get him back.

If someone ever touches one of my dogs, they will have hell to pay. Just the thought of it makes me very angry.

Tesla

Just wondering how you're doing today. I would be sooo upset by this. I can't imagine how it must feel for you. I hope Mosely is home soon and that asshat has head back under control

The idea that it never occurred to him how Teslet might feel coming home to a break in and his dog missing... unbelievable!

F.T.G.

How you holding up Tesla?

WHOA! not only is he a giant jerk for breaking an entering but he is STUPID too; what type of ass ADMITS it in a TEXT MESSAGE. SAve that text and forward it to your email accounts right away. Next call the cops! seriously you need an RO like yesterday.

File a report for breaking an entering, theft, and dognapping.Change the lock again because it's likely he has made a copy of the new lock he installed! keep a copy of what you spend on new lock and you make him pay restitution for that.

I'm just shocked at this story. I mean really what a very stupid man with severe control issues.

Just checking in-- let us know that you're okay, will you?

(((tesla, teslet, doggies)))

I have the back door reinforced. A lock for the back gate. Those alarm thingys for doors and windows (because that's what I'm worried about...him coming in the middle of the night and me not hearing him).

I am going to find a taser tomorrow.

I have an email out to my L telling her the course of action I would like her to pursue.

I have someone lined up during the day to take Lie-Lie, so she won't be at the house when my brother and I are working. Asshat is going to try to switch the dogs at some point...I'm convinced of it. He didn't get what he wanted...he has this strange fixation on Lie-Lie. I know the fact that I've gone dark drives him insane

I talked to Teslet tonight. He seems fine and oblivious. He did not mention Mosley. Although asshat did hustle him off the phone...maybe he was about to say something?

Yes, asshat is probably on something. Could be pot, alchohol, anti-anxiety meds that he gets from a quack doctor...he gets a lot of meds from that quack. Could be other stuff at this point.

I miss Mosley. I'm in shock that he's not here. I look at my back door and just shake my head. How is this ok? Why does the man that once upon a time promised to love and protect me do such a thing? The man that was always worried about me being in the house alone with our infant son. That hated being away because someone could just break in and hurt his family. Ironic that he should have been fearing himself this whole time. The only person that has hurt his family has been him. The man I thought he was is dead. All that remains is a cowardly child. Any hope I had that we could be amicable and have a coparenting relationship for the sake of Teslet has been destroyed. I can't believe how differently I view him now. wow.

Tomorrow evening I get Teslet from asshat's place. I'm taking my brother. What do I tell this child when he asks why Mosley is staying with daddy but he's not??? Maybe (fingers crossed) Teslet will insist on his own that Mosley should come home with us. Maybe if that shithead has any little shred of a soul left he will see the pain and turmoil he is about to cause his son and let Mosley come home.

I did not hate stbx until yesterday. It took him breaking into my home and stealing the dog for me to finally hate him. I hate him and hope he rots in hell.

((( tesla )))

Please tell us you called the police and filed a report.

Oh yes, I filed a police report.

((((tesla))))

Can you use this incident to request full physical and legal custody, and only SUPERVISED visitation for Teslet? I would worry how safe my child was with someone who would commit such a violent act. If you do decide to go this route, please check with your L how to legally keep asshole away (RO? something else?).

Also, when you go to pick up Teslet, can you matter-of-factly (try to) take Moseley as well? Like Moseley came over because Teslet was visiting? Perhaps you could arrange to bring a police officer with you to recover your stolen property (and possibly get his ass arrested, although I could see why you wouldn't want to do this in front of Teslet)?

IDK, just thinking out loud. I'm sure that you will handle this how you feel is best given all the circumstances. Sending you strength to get through all of this. I would be so FREAKED if my door got broken like that. You have reacted very quickly, brava!!

((((tesla))))

Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you today Tesla.

Its so unfair that he keeps pilling on the bullshit!!! It amazing to me that even after all the crap that the WS put us through they can still work themselves into a state of righteous indignation and commit literal crimes against us, and feel totally justified in doing so.

So glad you are doing all the right things in the wake of this horrible incident. Protect yourself and your cub Mama bear.

Let us know you are okay.

((Tesla & Teslet))

I'm thinking of both of you

When my ex boyfriend stole my dog, I took a cop over there with me to get him back, and because I had already filed a "stolen property" report, if my ex didn't give me and the cop my dog, the cop was going to arrest him for "possession of stolen property". Unfortunately, at the time that we went over there, he wasn't home. So the cop pressed "possession of stolen property" charge, because we looked through the window and saw my poor Sparky inside! Even though I wanted to break in myself and take him back right there, the cop advised that 2 charges, in 2 different jurisdictions would get me much further than breaking in myself.

It took 2 months from the stealing to the return, but I got my dog back.

Please listen to what the other posters are telling you.

An ex who would blatantly break the law has told you with his actions that he is on a path of destruction with no boundaries.

At this point who knows what else he is capable of.

I've been thinking about you tesla - you're taking all of the right steps, and it sounds like you are handling this cautiously. I hope you hear back from your lawyer asap. ((Hugs))

he may not have been violent to you before now, but breaking into your home is an act of violence directed at you. please be very firm and continue with the police action.

I know it's shocking. I divorced my first husband because he hit me. I was really thrown for a loop. I'd known him 11 years! We'd been together 8 years -- married for two... he honestly hadn't been abusive prior to that, but his Dad died suddenly and he had some sort of first bipokar episode or nervous breakdown ... I left for 2 weeks, tried MC for 6 -- but he was just f'ing crazy at the time.

Anyway, he needs to be too afraid of you to dare to pick on Teslet -- that's what is important in addition to your own safety.

tesla, how did it go with picking up teslet today?

You have been on my mind. Please check in with us when you can.

(((tesla, teslet, and doggies)))

[This message edited by macakipa at 9:41 PM, September 30th (Sunday)]

Teslet is safely home and sleeping. I didn't say one word to stbx when I picked Teslet up. Just stood there and waited. He was yammering on about some stupid crap and all I felt in my chest was this tight burning rage. All I could think was "you fucking coward you don't deserve a child as awesome as Teslet." I don't ever want to speak to him again. I have no respect for him, he absolutely disgusts me.

I'm not going to let this go.

Did you call the police? You need to do that NOW.

Did you find out if Mosley is ok?

((((tesla))))

Hang in there, you are doing great.