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CharlieFoxtrot ( member #38010) posted at 5:10 PM on Tuesday, January 8th, 2013
One more, has to be my all time fave was the last gem he gave me for EA#11ish:
"She wanted to meet up and described things we would do, but I told her I couldn't because I wouldn't feel right doing that, since she's married and she's a missionary."
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Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.
iowagirl32 ( member #33200) posted at 7:48 PM on Tuesday, January 8th, 2013
I think it would be ok as long as they used the Missionary position.
Life is like a diaper. Sometimes its warm and comforting, sometimes its cold and wet. And sometimes, its just full of shit.
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Me - BW 41
Him - WH 49
DD 13
DS 10
M - 16 years, together for 21 years
D day -w
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 7:59 PM on Tuesday, January 8th, 2013
The classic, "Holy shit, this guy is DELUSIONAL" moment was when I told him that we could never be friends (mind you, this was all after I discovered the A, after he confessed to seeking out an A by joining a cheaters' affair service, after he admitted he had met her for the first time at a hotel and had unprotected sex and then came back to our bed, after he had broken promises to his kids, drained our accounts to send money to OW, etc. etc. etc.), his response was,
"I don't understand why you're so hostile toward me. I have just as much reason to be hostile as you do, but do you see me being mean to you?"
Oh yes, he did.
A few days later, as we reviewed the marriage settlement agreement, he dropped this gem on me -
"You think I'm going to screw you over? Come on - you know me better than that."
Mmm hmm. Clearly. 
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And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
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confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 8:54 PM on Tuesday, January 8th, 2013
We were watching Springer one day,and the topic was about a man who cheated on his wife with another man. I made an offhand comment that,"If you ever cheat on me,I think I'd forgive a man a whole lot quicker than a woman...I mean..I can't compete with a man..and if it was with a woman,I'd feel as if maybe something was wrong with ME that you needed to go cheat..(THIS he heard)..I also added,"But either way I'd be devastated,and you know insecure I am,so please,lets never go there."
It was just a casual conversation about something on TV. No big deal.
This was all before d-day. On d-day,he said," You told me you could get over it easier if I cheated with a man,so I cheated with a man."
RUFKM??????
*BTW..it's not "easier." Not in any way,shape,or form.
**Also,please note that this was before D-day..before I realized a man(or woman) will cheat and it has NOTHING to do with their spouse.
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BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
PlumLoco ( new member #38045) posted at 9:10 PM on Tuesday, January 8th, 2013
"she lifted up her shirt, what was I supposed to do?"
"she's really nice, you'd like her"
"I wasn' having fun, I was under a lot of stress keeping up with things"
I asked him "so having an affair stressed you out?"
He said "yes, it was very stressful".
PlumLoco ( new member #38045) posted at 9:12 PM on Tuesday, January 8th, 2013
"she lifted up her shirt, what was I supposed to do?"
"she's really nice, you'd like her"
"I wasn't having fun, I was under a lot of stress keeping up with things"
I asked him "so having an affair stressed you out?"
He said "yes, it was very stressful".
2cooldaughters ( member #19408) posted at 9:30 PM on Tuesday, January 8th, 2013
These really are funny in a sad and pathetic, juvenile way.
What a shitty experience we've all had at the hands of someone we trusted.
loveisareddress ( member #36474) posted at 10:03 PM on Tuesday, January 8th, 2013
"I feel kind of sorry for her. Her husband drinks a lot."
Probably because she was a wanderer. She kept coming to my house (when I had to work late)to help H cook dinner.
She had a husband and 2 kids of her own to take care of.
Poor thing. Her husband's a drunk. 
Scorched earth-Like Peter the Great, he burns up his own territory in order to gain the upper hand while his own people suffer.
I don't need you to be happy. I just need you to leave me alone when I am.
CharlieFoxtrot ( member #38010) posted at 11:52 PM on Tuesday, January 8th, 2013
I think it would be ok as long as they used the Missionary position.
iowagirl32
One more, concerning the 2 yr LTA with MOW:
"I think if you and her sat down and actually talked, you'd be really good friends. You have a lot in common."
other than the fact that we share a profession, no. She sat on a married man, with children, and called him her own. I am nothing like that.
Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.
formybrokenheart ( member #36011) posted at 1:33 AM on Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
Why did u have to say that? (Referring to a comment I had made preA that if I wouldn't be so jealous I'd tell him to get a gf. Said in regards to sex wants more to it).
And, "I thought our marriage was over"
BW, 38
WH, 39
Married 13 years, 5 kids 3 to 18. DDay: 11/18/11, DDay 2 10/10/12
Status: I thought this was R
impastit ( member #28951) posted at 1:45 AM on Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
"I'm not perfect."
No shit.
"It's over."
Referring to our M, via text, after I filed for D. Uhm...yes.
"I did it so you could be happy"
Wth???
"He's a good person"
Times 3 or 4 OM. Right.
"I feel alive!"
So happy for you.
Hundreds more. The last one 5 minutes ago.
"Are you going to chip in for DD's birthday party OM, now BF, are going to throw over here Sunday? You can come."
Pass.
"Get over it." Classic. Classic sociopath!
DDay 4/6/10 Filed DDay, smelled it coming, again
She moved to her happy place 5/2/10
D final 11/18/10
Thank God I got the dog.
jemimapd ( member #37895) posted at 1:46 AM on Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
"she's really nice, you'd like her"
My jaw dropped at that one. I thought it was bad enough when WH said what a "nice, respectable" woman the OW is!
Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 1:59 AM on Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
I got:
I never wanted to marry you, you forced me to do it.
I'm a bad husband.
You spent all of my money.
You let me down when I was in Iraq.
The OW is as bad a person as I am.
letting_go ( member #13774) posted at 2:27 AM on Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
I got...
H:
She wanted me. Her husband was a pussy and refused to fuck her for 6 months.
Me:
Soooo it was up to you to be her captain saveahoe...
"To change and to improve are two different things."
Anonymous. German proverb.
"It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men." Frederick Douglass (1818-1895)
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 2:31 AM on Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
"Why are you so mean to me? I'm always respectful to you."
Yep, cheating, lying, abandonment, gaslighting - that's respectful. Spare me.
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 2:36 AM on Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
Soooo it was up to you to be her captain saveahoe...
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
Missymomma ( member #36988) posted at 4:02 AM on Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
This actually came from a friend that I called out on her cheating
"But he is a Christian and studies the Bible, like me."
I was so stunned I didn't even know what to say.
DDay - 6/15/11
R started - 7/1/11
False Discl- 9/27/12
Real Discl - 2/12/13
Poly - 3/1/13 Pass!
Me - BS (46)
WH - 52 (SA, NA, WA)
Kids: 2 littles and 1 grown
The road to recovery is long and hard. Some days I am up for it and others not!
16forever ( member #37255) posted at 6:06 AM on Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
Mine said I thought u didn't want me anymore : funny no one asked me and I thought I ruined it for us :again no one asked me but again I did not know bout the hookers and we married to young funny thing cuz I was ready I was younger than him and but I never really gave u my whole heart : wow cuz I did and we fight to much :we only fought about her and of course I was selfish the team for the 10 hookers and the ea and pa well duh
Me:40
Him:45
3 awesome kids and 2 grandsons
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 7:44 AM on Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
"Come on - you know me better than that."
I got that one too. One day when xpos called to say he was nearby and could he come by to pick up some things. I said ok but immediately after hanging up had second thoughts and called his cell right back. I told him NOT to come there unless he was alone. That's when I got the, "you should know me better than that!!". This a few days after being blindsided by admitting As, that he had filed D and moved out. Sure I know you!! 
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Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Issaquah ( member #34484) posted at 2:31 PM on Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
I totally forgot the most outrageous one from WH. He said this about 3 weeks post DDay in August when we had amazing HB.
"We should have an open marriage because the sex between us has been great since you found out that I've been cheating."
WTF?
Yeah, he was really foggy at the time, in fact I referred to him as lust-drunk.
BS - Me, 45
ExWS - Husband, 47 SA dx in March 2013
T-25, M-21 college sweethearts
Multiple DDays / OWs since 1999
Most recent DDay 8-12
Divorced
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