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"I thought of it as interactive porn."

Maybe that's what xpos would have said if he had talked more about his escapades.

How's this one...

"It only lasted for 3 weeks, so why is it taking so long for you to trust me again?" Said 4 weeks into the last attempt at R.

My favorite, said during 1st false R. "What kind of relationship can we have without trust?" WTF!?!

Seriously...WTF is wrong with these people?!? Absolutely disgusts me, but it cracks me up that shit like this can actually come out of people's mouths.

I think my favorite recent one was, "I didn't invite you over because I was afraid she might come over and I didn't want to subject you to that."

Gee, how fuckin considerate of you...

Sex with you while you were pregnant was such a disappointment. It was nothing like pregnant women in porn. Some positions were awkward and painful for you, that was a real turn off."

Yeah i can see how he was confused since porn is such realistic documentaries. Oh and sorry my pain is such a nuisance for you.... That hurt. A lot. Especially since I was carrying his son which took us incredibly long to conceive (finally success on our fourth IVF)

Please dont tell anyone my sperm is bad"

Don't worry about crushing me, the bigger problem is people may know you have defected sperm. Asshole. (This was said to me just after dday when I was a pregnant sobbing mess)

[This message edited by BrokenDaisy at 3:30 PM, January 7th (Monday)]

I could probably make a really long list, but I'll stick to just this one post d-day winner....

I didn't know any better!

Of course, if that were the case, I am not sure what compelled her to lie about something she didn't even know was wrong.

"It's the first thing I ever did just for me"

Mine said the same thing!

2 days after I gave birth to our 3rd child, he was supposed to be taking care of our two older children at my house. He kept disappearing for hours at a time. I asked where he kept going. He said, "I have to go home to OW. She's really upset with all the time I'm spending over here." Again, TWO DAYS after I gave birth.

After going from seeing the kids about 20 hours a week, he dropped that down to 10, saying, "I'm spending all my time at work or with the kids. I don't get any time with OW. I'm in a new relationship now, and it needs to be nurtured, so I can see where it goes."

This one was said right in front of the court counsellor. I'm not certain, but I think I saw his jaw drop a little.

"It was voodoo"...

rest my case

"Hey, I talked to (OMM) this morning for a long time...we decided we should stop seeing each other because this just isn't any good for anyone. I'll be home after work to make supper."

"I love you, but I'm not in love with you."

"Who are you? Big Brother?"

[This message edited by 2cooldaughters at 4:21 PM, January 7th (Monday)]

I've heard them all, most of them so many times they've stopped working on me, but the one that really, really, gets my goat is:

"You should have your own affair."

[This message edited by MoreWould at 5:13 PM, January 7th (Monday)]

"You should have your own affair."

Mine said the same thing - something like "If you're curious about casual sex, I'd be fine with it if you met someone"

Q: Who is she??

A: Remember her? from HS?

Q: Really? Holy F***!!

A: I just wondered how her life turned out. So she just popped into his head 40 yrs later

I just wanted some one to talk to, to laugh with, not have confrontations with, who would just talk to me. (yeah cuz on my end my life was a bowl of sweet shittin' cherries ASSHAT)

Q: Would you have kept going if I hadn't found out?

A: Yeah probably. She was so easy to talk to.

I didn't think our M was gonna make it (so let's line some POS up, just in case)

The one time they finally met he was beyond surprised at her real life (not in his mind HS body) person

Thanks for the laughs people

Here are two recent gems:

Me: So why did you start screwing OW1?

FWH: Well..... .she was a really nice lady.

After FWH had been screwing OW3 for a few months she started pressuring him to leave me for her. One day she told him that he "didn't have the balls to leave me". When telling me this FWH said, "That really hurt me".

Poor baby

He then said "I realised that it was starting to get serious. So I thought I've gotta get out of this!".

He also talked about her being in the theatre and wondered if in the early days she was acting with him. He then said "Maybe I was acting too. Do you think that's why I told her I loved her?"

Stupid is as stupid does and says!!!

HUGS to all

Laura

[This message edited by Laura28 at 6:34 PM, January 7th (Monday)]

OMG, this stuff is so horrible I think I will die laughing!

A nice lady?! snork!

I don't know which part of that is funnier, the NICE or the LADY!!!

Thank you Shock Leader for starting this thread! It has really made my night!

When I asked who she was: "Why? Are you going to go after her or say something?" Probably!

When I found out who: "Her husband cheated on her too. Left her with 3 kids for his OW. She tried to get me to talk to you but her feelings got to be too strong to control."

My response: "Really? Do you really want to be with a person with such low morals and ethics?"

His response: "She's a great person. You don't know what you're talking about."

After I got the ILYBINILWY speech, he said "I know this is probably not going to work, but my gut is telling me that I have to try. I always listen to my gut."

His A was mainly an EA. She is a coworker who lives in Portland, OR while we live in Dallas, TX. They only physically saw each other for 4 days in July - 3 months after we separated.

When I asked him - while he was still in Portland - if he had slept with her, he said "My life is none of your fucking business anymore." Really? I'm still your wife idiot!

Two weeks later, I refused to let him in my house at pick-up. Told him I couldn't be his back-up plan. He literally laughed in my face and said "Back-up plan? You're nothing to me! You just remember that you did this, not me!"

Same conversation - "I've owned my shit. I don't need a counselor. There's nothing wrong with me. But, I'm glad you and the kids are going."

It was really like talking to a total stranger for 7 months. Believe it or not, we are now doing well in R - and the stranger is gone. Reality finally slapped him in the head when I handed him an envelope with all of my evidence and told him I was done, that I didn't need it anymore.

I'm a former infantry officer, Airborne qualified (5 jump chump), and just missed going to combat, and agree; Nothing I have ever experienced is more painful than my STBXWW A, betrayal, lies, and subsequent sub human treatment of myself and daughter. Nothing even close!

Airborne qualified here and I saw more than my fair share of combat. And my wife's infidelity was STILL the most traumatic thing that ever happened to me. I was working alongside a former US ranger sniper today, who'se wife left him whilst he was in theatre, and he is "a little bothered" by the combat, and properly traumatised by his wife's behaviour. We get quite a few vets on this site, they all say the same thing. You expect combat to be fucking awful. You expect your marriage to be safe.

After i found a love letter that WH had written to his only LTA (OW#3) as well as many other things and confronted him:

WH: It's a letter I was writing to you because I'm going to miss our anniversary.

After I hacked the computer and saw her deleted FB messages she tells me "So you saw the deleted stuff, so nothing was deleted in reality"

No sure who's reality she was talking about

She was always angry at me for humiliating you by carrying on with her. She always defended you, and wanted me to leave you so you would stop being humiliated

Right, she had my feelings in mind this whole time.

She is a good person

Yes, good people wilfully fuck married men with children, buy homes near them, out the affair to the wives when they won't leave them, and then threaten suicide if the married boyfriend won't come back to them. Someone give this woman the nobel peace prize.

I need time to think. If you are the one, I will fight for you. If she is the one, I will fight for her.

If we break up, do you think you will ever find someone who can make you cum like I can?

Seriously???? Err, I would take a guy who could only get me off once a year if he didn't stick his dick in any one else.

My favourite I heard about final OW 'she feels really bad about all of this because her father had an affair and left her mother and it really hurt her for almost a year'.

Too many of these are quotes from my STBX. I'll try to share something original:

"The only reason I'll ever agree to divorce you is if you've had an affair."