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Well, it's been a while, as STBXWH and I are now S, waiting for D, but . . .

I used to call them by the titles they earned, so it wasn't an insult, it was appropriate well-earned titles.

One was Whore

Another was Homewrecker (whom I also referred to as Puppetmaster b/c he was her puppet)

Another was Ho-worker, who also came to earn the title Whore, so I had to say Ho-worker Whore

Another was the Slut

Still another was The User

One was Slutty Disease

They all had aka trash!

ETA: He once told me not to refer to her as whore. I said, "I'm not talking about her. I wouldn't call her a whore because she is not a whore. She gives it away free. That's why I call her Slut." I explained that these were earned titles, not names. It bothered him a hell of a lot more after that because he realized how accurate the titles were.

[This message edited by stillhere09 at 10:57 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)]

I know I'm coming into this late -

I used to call her his girlfriend, but like many others, it made him really mad and he would say she was never that... I always countered with "Well, you went out on dates with her, texted and emailed, and had sex.... isn't that a girlfriend??"

I also called her "your whore" , "Your slut", "that stupid whore" etc.

Now I don't talk about her at all. It's been a long time, and we don't talk about the A, much less that whore he was involved with.

Come to the point now when talking to others that she's just 'the wife'.

Close friends, they get whatever nickname they know - and if I just say 'the wife', my biffles are quick to correct to their shitty nickname of choice.

XH threw her name into the ring a ton, like "Me and OW name are blah-blah" but I never refer to her by name to him. I've said - her or your 'friend', maybe even once 'your wife' but that's it.

Yes, even this long out, it's mostly me being stubborn. But, IMO, if you mature enough to be in my life the way you are - you should've come to me ages ago and said something. Because OW and I have never exchanged a word, she is nothing to me and I am nothing to her.

I've been the bigger person for so much in the last 5 yrs, but I will NOT step up and be like, "Gee whiz, Sally, it's been so long - let's just be cool now".

I'm NEVER rude, I just don't acknowledge and neither does she.

ETA: I remember, I always tell this story, when XH was still living here and I'd finally seen her photo. We were fighting and I was all ignorant and said something like, "Just leave, just go fuck your Granny-Tranny WHORE".

In this small voice he tell me, "She's not a whore". I took that as but she IS a Granny Tranny. No offense....

[This message edited by wannabenormal at 12:22 AM, June 20th (Thursday)]

The Beast

Now, mostly "it" or "that thing", "her" occasionally. When I am in a particularly bad mood its back to the old standby, ghettoskank. I don't really say your girlfriend or your whore any more.

We don't say her name. The only time H said it was when I made him say it to me on dday. Even after broken NC and me kicking him out, he still couldn't say her name. He told me, "yes, I'm still talking to that girl." He couldn't even say her name but he could screw her, gross.

I call her by her name when or if I talk about her. For me, anything else, a nickname or "it", gives her too much power. In my head, I own her name and I'll use it however I choose, which is almost never.

Cum dumpster

Dirty jizz rag

cum burping whore (my favourite one)

lazy eyed tranny

your mistress (that one made XH go ballistic)

OW's name, said mockingly in high, breathy voice just like it's

that fucking thing

When in contact with him, I pretend she doesn't exist...he does this as well, as my condition is so bad stress-wise and even admitting such a person is out there causes massive triggers.

On the SI threads, she is "Fatty B", for Fat Bi... He calls her "her" and I've heard his relatives say he does that there, too, if it comes up. I found I've also referred to the person as "It" lately and am not sure why.

Yes, the w word comes up in my family-I've always taken offense to it and don't like hearing it, myself, but I understand where it stems from.

Perv himself has many names now and a favorite of mine is "Happy Pants". One reason is because of how angry he got when he heard it. He said, "do you know what this denotes? and I said, why yes, I do!"

I callher sperm receptacle or his girlfriend ( pisses him off)..somtimes use her name

Usually whore or her. Gf angers him.

[This message edited by anonymous823 at 7:05 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)]

I call her "his whore". To be fair, I told him that they are both whores, he' a whore and she's a whore. She was supposedly a good friend and my my daughter's godmother and was screwing my husband since I was pregnant with her...

The sad part is, he has never corrected me...

.. "DEAD"....

....aka.. "the rotting corpse"..

smy

"She-man"

Nice moniker, don't cha think?

I refer to her as "Penny"....not worth much and always in some man's pants.

I always called MOW by her name. I think that bothered my STBX more than calling her a dirty word. It was breaking the fantasy bubble. She was one of his co-workers, and I didn't know her at all; and by saying her name, now he had to face the fact that I knew her. She wasn't some cool secret anymore. Or a nameless word that could be anybody.

And even though we are separated and divorcing, I still don't call her names. She's a filthy c***, but I'm not gonna tip him off. He'll figure it out soon enough..