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I don't know. Whatever I call her its wrong.

I call her by name he yells and tells me to never say her name.

I say "HER" like you know and he thinks I'm being snarky.

I say "your girlfriend" and he says she was never my girlfriend, she didn't want to be.

I say "your pretend girlfriend" and it pisses him off. I kinda like that.

"Your Girlfriend" really does piss them off doesn't it?! The first few times I used that one WH was pissed, he's later learned that it's best to let me call her anything I want. I've also used That Bitch, Your Whore, Your Piece of A**, but mainly just call her "her".

I detest hearing her name out if his mouth, makes me sick So he usually finds a way to get around referring to her in any way, or calls her "her".

For me to use her actual name, makes her too human, and to me, she's not, she's a home wrecking, needy, pathetic piece of sh*t.

Since Facebook no longer allows people to hide like they used to, I now can see (minimal) pics of the trash. I can't tell you how happy I was to see she's fat, was always a bit bigger girl and is now officially BIG. She's also from a Podunk redneck town (no offense to anyone from such a place, I really don't have anything against rural life) but I've lately referred to her as The Fat Backwoods Bitch .

They also worked/work together, I may have to start using COW as well

[This message edited by WoundedOpus at 10:39 AM, June 19th (Wednesday)]

"her"

"your girlfriend"

"your whore"

"that pig you fucked"

and my personal favorite

"DFC" (diseased fucking c***)

When you and WS are discussing A, how do you refer to AP?

After I found out, I referred to him as her "side sex", catfish(because he looks like one), and deadbeat dad because he doesn't pay child support for his kids.

Before we really started towards R, when talking about her with my fWH, I called her "Your Special Friend" or "Your Very Special Friend," because, ya know, they were *just friends*. Oh man, that drove him crazy!

I tried using her name, but gave it up after a few tries. Made me feel dizzy. And we have several friends and colleagues with her first name who are perfectly lovely people. I needed not to have her in my head when I used that name.

With my besties, she was The Bunny Boiler, That Pathetic Loser (thanks, bff for that one!), or Skinny Ass Big Hair Selfish Pathetic B**** (all the things I am not!)

He said 'his' prostitute's name was Pocohontus.

Do prostitutes have fake names any more?

As 'the mongoloid'

I call her either by her name, or "his girlfriend" depending on who I'm talking to.

XH and I never discussed her. Once I knew he was cheating, I kicked him out and we didn't speak about it again.

ETA: Occasionally if I'm feeling snarky (I'm generally pretty mellow now, a few years past the divorce), I'll call her "his mistress", but less often.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 3:16 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)]

I call her Whore Fucking Whore.

I'm simple like that.

Initially, I called her Cumdumpster. I heard it on here and I thought it was funny. WH thought so, too, and he adopted it. Feels a bit weird when he says it, though -- I mean, you fucked the bitch for 7 years, you hypocrite! In front of the kids we will often say "CD".

However, I more and more just call her by her name. It's kind of like Voldemort. Why give her that power? It feels sort of childish to get pleasure out of calling names. (Though goodness knows we deserve to get whatever childish pleasure we want.)

For the first year or two I liked to call her "cum dripping slag"

But now, I don't say anything about her really.

OW is from a small town nearby and I refer to her as the name of that town. It can be used many ways and it makes WH squirm.

Girlfriend. Now, in my mind it's dirty, ghetto slut. But, I'm a lady and I don't say those types of things out loud. haha. Oh, except for FUCK, but I say that in the car when I'm alone.

In the beginning it was 'your fiancee' and sometimes 'your girlfriend', but now its 'her'. He even uses 'her', however, he has always hated when I said they were dating or engaged. In my head though I have an amazing bank of words. Whore is probably the biggest one. And I like the cumdumpster, I'll add that one.

[This message edited by Tired05 at 6:02 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)]

Your girlfriend or her name... Which ever makes him skirm more.

Well, we don't ever talk, now that we're divorced. Before that:

your whore

homeshow ho

bank skank

slut

your paramour (this was about as civil as I ever got)

OW name slut - alliterative, i.e. Sally slut - not her real name

She rarely comes up with me and my FWH but if I refer to her with anyone it's

Whorangutan

FWH calls her that also.

A poster here said he thinks of Voldomort and that gave me the brilliant idea of ...

Voldowhoret- After all, she is a snake in the grass that slithered around in the shadows of my life. I think it's very fitting.

And..anything that makes me smile with regard to this awful mess is something I'm all in for.

Initially:

Douchebag and Fuckhead

About a month after dday seen him walking into a walmart. I commented to my ww "really? that short stumpy douchebag" She didn't think it was funny.

So most of the time it's

Stumpy Douchebag

However made it kind of a game and anything followed by douchebag is working for me.

Rotten Douchebag, Shitberry Douchebag, Pencil Dick Douchebag, Tuna Man Douchebag.. you get the picture.

Also, now I'm working on a new line of derogatory names. He seems to be partial to getting sunburned while wearing those Oakley wraparound sunglasses (at least that's what his FB pics would lead me to believe). So what started as a simple Sunburned Douchebag, has evolved to Annie Oakley Douchebag, and sometimes simply Annie. I kind of like Annie. Sorry to any Annie's out there.

[This message edited by DefiledRage at 7:31 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)]

I say her given name in a very snarky way.

To my friends it's the c**t which I've never referred to anyone else with. I didn't even call my ex that who went after me with a pair of eight inch scissors!

My h used to refer to her as the "Klingon", but after she followed him thru the grocery store accusing him of "hacking her gmail using google master tools and a voice activated robot virus" he calls her crazy c***. The rest of the family calls her "bat shit crazy".