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LonelyHusband (original poster member #34145) posted at 10:36 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
This is Eva
When I was at my lowest, nearly two years ago, she was the only thing in my life that gave me any relief from the pain. When I was considering suicide, she sat beside me and shouted at me. So often I would wake up and see her face, snuggled in between OktoberMest and I. So often when we were fighting the tension would broken by the sound of a burmese miaow. In so many ways, that kitten helped keep us together.
Tonight I held her broken head in my hands. I picked her up from the ground where the car must have hit her, and OktoberMest and I buried her with our hands in a field under a tree. She would have been two years of age tomorrow.
It's just a cat. Yeah. Right. I miss her so much. I am so upset. So upset. My poor, poor kitten.
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Reconciling.
“A wizard is never late. Nor is he ever early. He arrives precisely when he means to".
Apparently not an appropriate reason for coming home drunk at 2AM.
swizzlestick03 ( member #30102) posted at 10:38 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself LH.
((LH, OkM & Eva))
Me: BW-36
Him: WS-35
D-Day #1: 16 August 2010
D-Day #2: 16 January 2011
One smallish kiddo.
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 10:38 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
It's just a cat.
no, she is a family member. Please honor her and yourself by grieving for her as such.
I'm so sorry LH and OM...hugs to you both!
scarredforever ( member #23875) posted at 10:39 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful kitty. 
"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."
Mark Twain
Me-BS 54
Him-WS 55
Together 35 years
6-5-06 Day of Reckoning
Familiarity breeds contempt.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 10:39 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
Oh, I am so sorry. She isn't just a cat, she's your touchstone. And she's a beauty. Perhaps she will be able to watch over you from afar. ((peace))
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
1devastedmom ( member #38399) posted at 10:41 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
I am so sorry. I'm in tears just reading your post. She is not just a cat she was a member of your family. Our family dog died 9 years ago and to this day we still cry when we think of him.
Afraid2LoveAgain ( member #11185) posted at 10:42 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
I am so sorry. She was beautiful inside and out.
(((Lonely Husband and OctoberMest)))
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
Chefj9 ( member #38604) posted at 10:45 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
no, she is a family member. Please honor her and yourself by grieving for her as such.
I have tears for your loss
((((LovelyHusband)))
ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 26,16, 15 and 13
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere
Lucky ( member #6864) posted at 10:47 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
I'm so very very sorry. I love my fur babies with the same intensity as I love my children & grand children.
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GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 10:49 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
LH,
She's a beautiful girl. As one fur-parent to another, there is no such thing as "she's just a cat".
Our pets are family.
My heart goes out to you and your family.
((( LH and family )))
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
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OktoberMest ( member #34173) posted at 10:50 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
Our cat was our first pet together. It was LH's first cat to add to our little family. I had a damn good try and blowing that family unit up; but Eva helped LH everyday at the start.
I know the bond we had was great also. When LH was in the US at the start of this year, Eva and I really bonded. She took care of me and I of her; and we could both Facetime LH together - and usually did.
I loved her so very much. I always will. She is irreplaceable. Today is a very sad day here, in a quiet village; made all the more quiet by the lack of Eva's tinking bell and her very noisy and demanding burmese MIAOW.
RIP Eva. Chase all the bunnies, birds and slow worms you want. We'll love you forever. 2 years was too short. Life is so damn unfair.
Brokenhearted and hoping this brings LH and I closer still.
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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 10:52 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
((((LH, OktoberMest,Eva))))
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 10:59 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
They are our furbabies that's why it hurts to lose them . They provide us with unconditional love.
I'm sorry for the loss of your kitty. Too young to be taken.
(((Lonely Husband and OctoberMest)))
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 11:00 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
I'm so sorry for your loss...I understand the huge void of lossing a beloved pet can leave.
Please know we're thinking of you and your wife and sending you loving thoughts.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Sal1995 ( member #39099) posted at 11:03 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
It's just a cat.
She was more than that. Many pets are just pets, but a few become something special. I adopted my cat Rosemary when I was 5. I put out a bowl of milk for her, and she decided that day that she had found her home. She snuggled with me frequently at night throughout my childhood. She was killed by a car when I was 21, almost 22 and away at college. That was 22 years ago and I still miss her sometimes.
Sorry for your loss, LH and OM. Many of us here can relate.
cdnmommy ( member #30182) posted at 11:04 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Me: BW
DDay: Oct 2010 + 6 weeks false R
2.5 (+?) year A with married coworker/my "friend"
2 great kids
Reconciling and healing
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 11:12 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
I, too, am so sorry for your loss. Just a few weeks ago my dog died. For well over 7 years I had told her and her alone EVERYTHING.
I know how they can mean the world to you. I am sooooo thrilled that you two have each other for your grieving.
I'm so very sorry.
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
Dark Inertia ( member #30727) posted at 11:14 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
I am so sorry, I feel your pain! Honestly, if it was not for my cat I question how well I would have survived. I remember laying in bed crying while my cat was purring like crazy and frantically butting her head against mine. When I finally got the nerve to leave my bastard ex she was all I took, and all I had.
anv5 ( member #39217) posted at 11:17 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
((Hugs))
So sorry for your loss...I agree though, not "just a cat" Pets for some of us are much more than "just" no matter what animal it is.
BS(me)30
WH 29
1 Child
Married 11 yrs
D-Day: 4/9/13 he cheated in '08 & now + trickle truth & tons of lies 6/27 Found more, swears I really do have the whole truth now.
2/2/14 found out more...it seems the TT never ends.
Trying to R
keeponkeepingon ( member #32935) posted at 11:18 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
((Lonely and Oktober))
I understand the pain of losing a dear family member. I am so sorry for your loss.
I also understand the healing power of a pet. My cats and dog have given me so much love, unconditional love. They helped me when I could barely help myself during the dark days after DDay and during our separation.
"I know you and you know me and I know you can see. So help me get my way back to you"
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