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What I heard a guy at the gym say

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 hardtimesinlife (original poster member #10468) posted at 5:26 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

He told a girl there "Sorry I didn't accept your facebook friend request. I only accept requests from women who are in my family." She looked at him as if he had two heads and told him she didn't know if he was kidding or not. He said that, no, he was serious and that the reason was that it would be disrespectful to his wife

He was around 30 and handsome. It was pretty awesome to witness.

Ddays 2004 & 2007
I cut my losses mid 2013
Feeling happier every day :)

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JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 5:32 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

Pretty good stuff.

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 5:33 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

That is what the world needs more of. Someone needs to call his wife, and tell her. Because if someone told me my H did that, I would be ready to reward him when he got home....

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:34 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 5:47 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

What a refreshing post...there are still some respectful honorable people out there. That just made my day. Thanks for sharing.

BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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selkiescot ( member #23777) posted at 5:50 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

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Dark Inertia ( member #30727) posted at 5:53 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

I wish I could like this post.

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Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 5:54 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

Wow is all I have to say.

That is AWESOME!

BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 5:56 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

Huge karmic high five to homedude.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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dameia ( member #36072) posted at 5:58 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

That makes me

Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.

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painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 7:00 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

Damn! I think I love him!

However, I would imagine infidelity has already occurred in that situation.

(The wife is probably already a member here, lol).

I don't sound jaded do I?


D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 7:11 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

Good for him! It probably was after infidelity- his or someone close to him.

After dd, several women at our gym asked to be WH's friend on FB or for his email. He told them that no, he didn't friend women that weren't directly either a family member or tied directly to his wife and he together (sure friends of the marriage). One even tried to physically grab him in spin class which was met with an emphatic "No!" and him moving away from her. That's what began his ramp up of PDA with me at the gym-warding off the hunters. It showed me he "gets" it. He wants me in spin class but he's safe there without me.

Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

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painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 7:14 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

One even tried to physically grab him in spin class

Yep. The fact that they make it clear they respect their wives and snub the advances make the ho's want them even more!


D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 7:22 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

The wife is probably already a member here, lol

Or he is

FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live

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ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 7:24 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

Or, the dude has great values and gets it.

I for one would like to give him the benefit of the doubt. Kudos to him and his parents for how he was raised.

AJ's MOM

Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34

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JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 7:28 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

I like that he said that - it was very respectful. That said, I do feel a little bad for the girl - it could have been an innocent gesture on her part. I have all kinds of male facebook friends on whom I have zero designs.

I've never facebook friend requested anyone from the gym though!

[This message edited by JanaGreen at 1:36 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)]

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PrincessPeach06 ( member #39588) posted at 7:29 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

That's awesome! :)

WS and I deleted our pages and got one together. Fbook was their way of communication so I do have some ease now.

Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

Filed for divorce 5/8/15

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unfound ( member #12802) posted at 7:34 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

wh5

Or he is

working on the ceps for the gun show were we, hmmmm?

boundaries, for whatever reason he had, gym guy is doing it right.

ka-mai
*************
Kids on the playground can be so cruel. “Get off the swings you’re like 50, and stop talking about Soundgarden, we don't even know what that is."

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IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 7:38 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

How wonderful gym guy is and I hope it is reciprocated by his wife. I can only hope that this is from good strong family foundations and not from a brush of infidelity.

Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 7:44 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

Boundaries. He haz them.

Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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