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Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 9:26 AM on Saturday, June 6th, 2015
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 10:25 AM on Saturday, July 4th, 2015
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
Tumbled ( new member #47664) posted at 9:37 PM on Saturday, July 4th, 2015
This post has made me cry, but thank you........that's all I have done today is cry,cry,cry, why did he have to do this to me...I have been so strong since D day, but i'm missing him so much. We have had no contact now since 8 May, nothing, no texts, zilch. He's moved to another town.
He's had an EA for I don't know how long and next week he's off out to the USA to meet up, damn!!! We live in the U.K and he would have never taken me so far on a holiday, I had to always choose short flights because he supposedly hated flying.
I'm not sure how much I can take....I will not try to stop him because I know we are over but it is hurting so much. This is the worse day I have had by far and i'm fourteen weeks out now. I just wish I could turn back the clock....
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 7:11 PM on Monday, July 6th, 2015
(((Tumbled)))
It's soooooo hard in the beginning. You aren't going to feel ok for a while, which is why we stay here - to give you a snapshot of a couple years out.
It happens - we grow and learn and we become stronger. Life will never be the same, but you WILL learn how to appreciate having people with integrity in your life, and to see your own value outside of this betrayal.
Sending you big hugs.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 1:12 PM, July 6th (Monday)]
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
needfriendshere ( member #43350) posted at 1:14 AM on Tuesday, July 7th, 2015
Jrazz,
YOU ARE GOING TO BE OK. THOUSANDS OF US ARE HERE TO TELL YOU SO.
Yes, yes, yes! You all told me this when I first found you and it is true. I found strength I didn't know I had and my relationship with H is probably more genuine than it has ever been.
(((Jrazz)))
Me: early 50'sWH: early 50'sMarried: 23 yearsDS: 21 years oldOther DS: 18 years oldD-day: 2/14/2014H's LTA lasted 6 years, his EA's lasted during most of our M, but we are both trying hard to R.
reddawn212 ( member #48371) posted at 2:45 AM on Tuesday, July 7th, 2015
I just read this and OMG I needed to see this today. I am going to print it and keep it with me. (((((Thank U))))))
Me - 44BGF
Him - 50 XWBF
DDAY1 - December 19, 2014 (EA and PA)
DDAY 2 Feb 2015 - another OW online sex
DDay 3 June 9, 2015 (caught him on craigslist)
TT and False R revealed, April 2017.
"We repeat what what we don't repair"
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 8:17 PM on Friday, August 14th, 2015
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 5:32 AM on Tuesday, August 25th, 2015
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 2:59 PM on Sunday, September 6th, 2015
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 8:18 AM on Sunday, October 4th, 2015
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
loneliestman ( member #49753) posted at 9:55 AM on Sunday, October 4th, 2015
I haven't cried for 3 days now, but this post...someone's cutting onions somewhere.
This is my big question - am I going to be OK? Are my children going to be OK?
I so very want my children to be OK - even selfishly, my "OKness" relies on their "OKness". Their OKness will bring order to my life. And if I have order in my life, I will be OK.
It's also....this is so so tiring. It's all-consuming.
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 10:07 AM on Saturday, November 7th, 2015
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 10:39 PM on Thursday, December 10th, 2015
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
DeeplyCrushed ( member #48367) posted at 11:30 PM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
I have read this post several times over the past few months and really needed to read it again today. I know I'm making progress but for some reason today has been a tough one.
Maybe it's because it's the holiday season, maybe it's because WH and OW have now been living together for 6 months... I don't know. I just feel really down.
Thank you ((((( Jrazz ))))) Your words are inspiring!
"It's ok to be a glowstick; sometimes we have to break before we shine." ~~Unknown
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 6:28 PM on Saturday, December 12th, 2015
(((DeeplyCrushed)))
They still hold true. I'm glad you found us and can take some solace in the company.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Littlest ( new member #45078) posted at 2:50 AM on Sunday, December 13th, 2015
Wonderful post- thank you!
I am trying to map progress-- looking back, I recall in the first few months, I was like a deer in headlights. Numb. Couldn't eat, sleep, clean, talk. I somehow managed to make it to work, just to fall apart right when I got home. I literally would just stare at a wall. I guess my brain and heart were trying to process what happened to no avail.
I am proud that part is behind me.. I occasionally lapse here and there, but am present and focusing on being grateful for the things in my life that are good and learning new things that I enjoy. I am getting to be ok, maybe just still a little sad.
I am so thankful for this site-- everyone here that has shared their story. It's helped my healing so much and has helped me stay strong with keeping NC.
i wish that all people that are on the verge of cheating could somehow get even a glimpse of the madness and pain they're about to unleash...there are about a million better choices right in front of them they could make instead.
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 8:55 AM on Sunday, December 13th, 2015
Thank you Jrazz, for your post; for this site; for all the wonderful mods and members.
.... at 17 months out from my last DDay, then TT for 12 months - I am surprisingly ok.
Whatever happens in our M, I am thankful for my children, my grandchildren, my life, myself.
S.I. Has helped me survive.
Thank you JRazz, thank you everyone.
I am ME!
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 8:56 AM on Sunday, December 13th, 2015
I am ME! (And I double posted) oops 
[This message edited by MadOldBat at 2:57 AM, December 13th (Sunday)]
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 4:36 PM on Friday, December 25th, 2015
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:15 AM on Tuesday, January 19th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
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