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 Amazonia (original poster member #32810) posted at 5:36 PM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2013

Do you do anything for your coworkers?

My last day is next week. A lot of people who have left recently will buy a box of donuts for the office, or leave gifts or cards for specific people who they worked closely with.

Just curious what others have done or seen done?

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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click4it ( member #209) posted at 5:47 PM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2013

Is this a good parting?

In my office, its the whole office that does a pot luck lunch for the person that's leaving - but its only 15 of us. I don't know that you need to do something for everyone, but just do what's comfortable for you.

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 Amazonia (original poster member #32810) posted at 5:57 PM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2013

Good enough. I gave notice and am accepting a dream job, which they know. Leadership is pissed that I'm leaving (even though I am currently training a replacement and gave them 5 weeks notice) because my department is already short staffed (because they laid off half the team and then belittled and undervalued the rest of us); but the majority of my other coworkers are dear to me.

There is a happy hour planned the night before my last day (I have a final exam the evening of my last day, so couldn't do it then), but I am curious more what is done by the departing, rather than for them.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:59 PM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2013

In my experience, departing employees will often send a card or email to specific folks who they feel close to. A few have brought treats on their last day, but that's less common.

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Mama_of_3_Kids ( member #26651) posted at 6:13 PM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2013

Slightly different sitch, but similar enough, I suppose. Last school year, on my last sub nurse day, I knew I wouldn't be back (or not as often, anyway). So I bought the office staff pizza and soda. It was just a small way to say, "Thank you for everything!"

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jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 9:08 PM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2013

I guess "shoot the bird" and trashing your coworkers cubes was not the answer you were looking for!

I have had lunch with a few friends when I left a job. Once there was a cake, but I think they were celebrating my departure more than anything!

Good luck on your new Adventure Ama!

Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

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gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 1:57 AM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013

The only thing I've ever done when I've left a job was to make sure to hug some close friends goodbye and get contact info. I've bought lunch or cards for plenty of people leaving however.

Good luck with the new job!

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

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Undefinabl3 ( member #36883) posted at 1:08 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013

Depends on how badly you want to burn the bridge. I strongly believe in networking. You wouldn't believe how much keeping in touch with my managers and co-workers from previous jobs have really helped me in tight spots.

But there have been a few jobs where the only thing I gave them as I walked out was a finger or two.

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Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.
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 Amazonia (original poster member #32810) posted at 2:55 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013

I don't want to burn any bridges.

I'm more curious what others have done themselves, since the donut thing is feeling a little overdone (there's a Dunkin in our building) and I'd like to do something more original.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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sunandmoon ( member #10180) posted at 4:57 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013

The last place I left I wrote (hadwritten) notes to those I worked closely with. When I dropped the notes off (I did this very early before people arrived but just because I wanted to minimize disrupting the team that day) I also left a small "goodie"- a good quaility chocolate, a small something to keep on their desk, that sort of thing (big team so I needed to keep it in budget). For my direct boss who I loved and hated to say goodbye to I took her out for lunch to say a private thank you and goodbye as she was really such a great mentor.

sunandmoon

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Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 6:08 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013

since the donut thing is feeling a little overdone (there's a Dunkin in our building) and I'd like to do something more original.

Well since you bake, muffins would be a great option, if you don't have the time BAGELS!

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

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kernel ( member #27035) posted at 12:45 AM on Friday, August 16th, 2013

In my jobs, the people staying always did something for the person leaving. I never gave any kind of treat or gift to anyone when I left jobs, always on good terms BTW. Just not a part of the culture anywhere that I have worked.

If you WANT to do something, how about some fancy cupcakes from a bakery?

"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

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 Amazonia (original poster member #32810) posted at 2:56 AM on Friday, August 16th, 2013

Crescita, baking something is a really good idea.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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UnexpectedSong ( member #21761) posted at 4:38 AM on Friday, August 16th, 2013

My coworkers had a lunch for me. While there, I gave everyone a personal gift from me - a recipe book for the guy who only makes spaghetti, an SAT prep book for my friend's daughter, a novel for a friend who always talked about books with me, etc.

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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 1:26 PM on Friday, August 16th, 2013

I sent Tiffs Treats which are big freshly baked cookies still hot when delivered. Baking sounds like a nice thing to do Ama.

Best of luck at your new job!

DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
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It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
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StrongerOne ( member #36915) posted at 4:42 PM on Friday, August 16th, 2013

A nice handwritten thank you letter or card to the whole office, plus individual cards to those who were especially helpful.

DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

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gardenparty ( member #12050) posted at 6:08 AM on Saturday, August 17th, 2013

I brought coffee and donuts for my coworkers on my last day of work when I left my last job. We rarely had time to take a break together so for me it was a chance to see everybody all at once and say good bye but there was only 11 of us on the crew.

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Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 5:11 PM on Saturday, August 17th, 2013

I think it's a classy move.

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Him WH
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Rec'd.
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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 4:01 AM on Sunday, August 18th, 2013

Wishing you the best on your new adventure Ama

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

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