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And now the other kid!

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 Pass (original poster member #38122) posted at 1:26 AM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013

I mentioned a very nice text from 13 in an earlier topic ("Sweetest Kid Ever"). Just got off the phone with 10, and had this gem of a conversation:

10: Did you hear about Mom's infection?

Me: Nooo. And what kind of infection would that be?

10: She won't tell us, but needed some antibiotics.

Frigging priceless. Since she won't tell them about it, I think it's safe to assume the general geography of the infection. My hope is that she was hit square in the junk by the Karma Bus.

Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.

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Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 1:29 AM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013

fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!

You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~

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suckstobeme ( member #30853) posted at 1:38 AM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013

Oh Pass, you still don't fully grasp her evil manipulating ways.

She mentioned that to the kids and was purposely vague so as to prompt questions and sympathy from you. She's an attention mongrel and everything she does is designed to get that need filled.

I swear, if you ask her one thing or react in any wY to any statements she makes about her "infection" which may or may not actually exist, I will fly to Eastern Ontario and smack you right in the head!!!

BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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 Pass (original poster member #38122) posted at 1:45 AM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013

suckstobeme, you're right. It never occurred to me that this could be more attempted manipulation.

The good news is that I felt no twinges in my give-a-fuck. Didn't care how she got it; just hoped like hell that it was uncomfortable. It didn't hurt me at all.

So yep, I'm still naive to a lot of her evil, but it's not hurting as much, so I'll definitely take that small victory. Unfortunately, this probably means it's time for her to step up her game.

Sigh.

ETA: And thank you for caring enough to threaten violence to my person!

[This message edited by pass at 7:47 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)]

Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.

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Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 12:33 PM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013

Pass,

When she does crap that has your kids passing on info-count on her manipulating the situation. Engaging when she pulls this is teaching her (and your kids) that this is what she has to do to get you to engage.

Hugs

K

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 3:34 PM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013

The good news is that I felt no twinges in my give-a-fuck.

WOOWHOO!!

Now time to practice how you allow them to talk about her without asking questions.

My girls recently told me OWUmpteen was sick. I think they mentioned hospital. I have no interest in any information about either of them so I simply said "Oh that's not good. Which park do you want to go to today?".

Looks like her attention seeking is not just reserved for grown ups. She'll take whatever she can get. True or not it is just pathetic.

I wish antibiotics cured fuckwitism.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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