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emotionalgirl ( member #40184) posted at 1:52 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

Was on workers compensation for injury obtained working for cleaning company....lots of spare time on her hands to text and talk to my WH!

1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R

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momwith2boys ( new member #37459) posted at 1:55 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

She was my friend of 6 years. She is a married, stay at home mom to 3 small children (former engineer). I have done all kinds of things for her like throw her a baby shower, watch her children when she was working, took care of her pets and home while she was on vacation.

Me BW 35
husband 35
Married 10 years, together 13 years
OW-my so called "friend"
2 boys (7 & 3)
D-day 10/17/2012
D-day2-2/24/2013 told me it was her
D-day3-6/16/2013 found out affair never ended
Working on R

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mixedintherut ( member #40330) posted at 2:02 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

OW is a truck driver, just like him! So their crazy schedules can coordinate, and God only knows what else!

DD 1: PA 12/4/09 He spent 2.5 years with OW1
R: 8/31/2012
DD 2: EA 8/16/13
BS: 26
WH: 25
1 young daughter.
Terribly disgusted. He refuses to give up his "friend". Headed towards D.

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Holly-Isis ( member #13447) posted at 2:06 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

Ugh. Now I wonder if it's a band I listen to...hope not.

xOw1 was the receptionist at the local mental health center...so I couldn't go there for help after d-day.

xOw2 is a gov't analyst.

"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

posts: 11713   ·   registered: Jan. 26th, 2007   ·   location: Just a fool in limbo
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Housefulloflove ( member #38458) posted at 2:09 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

An almost non-English speaking cleaner at Ex's job. She was depressed, suicidal, lost custody of her kids, had no nearby support and apparently no morals. Ripe for the picking!

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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toomanyregrets ( member #37740) posted at 2:11 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

fWW's boss.

BH - 66 - Retired
fWW - 62

"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife
"Regret is when you realize you broke your own heart.
Remorse is when you realize you broke someone else's." - Bla

posts: 745   ·   registered: Dec. 7th, 2012   ·   location: Upstate NY
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blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 2:25 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

Married business owner, 5 kids.

I was shocked to see pics on here a while back....BS and WS look like every person I see on the street....no evil eyes, no sexy devil looking women....just every day people.

I work with a fWS that is a grandma.

God be with us all.

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.

posts: 5835   ·   registered: Jan. 8th, 2013   ·   location: Central Missouri
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LiedtoLucy ( member #39246) posted at 2:28 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

Registered Nurse

LTL

Me: BS
Him: WH
OW=Single Coworker
OW had a baby. We do not know if my H is the father.
DDay: 4/23/13
Together: 16 years
Married: 12
Kids: 3 beautiful boys. Ages: 11, 6, 3
Limbo 2 + years after dday

posts: 240   ·   registered: May. 13th, 2013   ·   location: Southeastern U.S.
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cantgetup ( member #36146) posted at 3:05 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

OP, prior to be fired for coming to work drunk, worked for a major airline. Now works at big box home improvement chain.

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mrs. duped ( member #28668) posted at 5:14 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

Registered nurse here too!

me: BW-36
him: WH-34
married 8 years; together 13 years
one dd=2 years old
3 month EA turned PA with coworker
D-day: April 19 2010.
Trying to R

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3boys ( new member #38736) posted at 5:35 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

Holier-than-thou-Christian middle school teacher and married mother of 2.

BW-52FWH-59
M-32yrs
DS-28,DS-24,DS-18,2 GS-both 4yrs
MOW-holier-than-thou Christian whore
2 yr EA, 2-3 mon PA
Dday-10/10/2009
R

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cuppacoffee ( member #39313) posted at 5:38 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

skankface was a movie theater employee. now she's a movie theater manager going for the job my husband just lost.

i hope skankface gets the herp.

I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

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sleepless34 ( member #40274) posted at 5:46 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

OW was a woman he met in an open marriage chat room (and we didn't have open marriage, so what up with that?)

Then they feel "in love"Puke

OW is also a narcissist, insecure, slutty looking, older, sales person, who actually ran for political office and listed info about her "midwest family values" she better not run again...

Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

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Josephine01 ( member #38511) posted at 6:11 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

Works for the IRS and likes to play with her maintenance men. While in mourning from the "love of her life's" death. Her AP my H who is no better.

Me, 47 BS
H, 65 WH
2 boys 23 and 18 years old
Married 24 years

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avicarswife ( member #35799) posted at 6:26 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

mOW#1 unemployed (unemployable bunny boiler) but did voluntary work at church for my husband - friends with mOW#2

mOW#2 part time volunteer chaplain! (My WH officiated at her wedding to her BS who was his friend.) ALL so

On D-day:BS 46 (me)WH 50
Toasted22M 26 yrs,3 kids (16-24) at discovery. D-Days 2012 23-24 May + TT D-Day 2013 12 Apr
mOW #1 EA yrs PA Feb 2009-end 2011
mOW #2 EA months PA 4 mths 2010
mOW#3 PA once
2022 Separated

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NotDefeatedYet ( member #33642) posted at 8:26 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

One was a 40 year old truck dispatcher. Another was a mechanic. And the primary one was essentially a ditch digger; he worked for a haz-mat clean up crew. None of them had any college. She said because I did graduate college it made her feel inferior. So yeah, she was looking for idiots.

"It's a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart."

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kickboxer ( member #39858) posted at 8:28 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

OW #1 - ? (BarHO ONS)

OW #2 - Works at PetSmart in some career-type capacity (ONS found on POF)

OW #3 - Middle School teacher, married for 2nd time (old girlfriend, reconnected on FB, 6 month long-distance EA)

OW 4, 5, 6...and beyond? He says there weren't any others, but I don't know how long it will take - or if - I will ever believe that.

Barf.

BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 15 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.

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confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 11:46 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

Now? He is a truck driver (yes,I keep tabs).

But then...he was a cashier at a gas station.

I am THREE DAMNED YEARS out. THREE! And it just hit me...when I met WH...I was an assistant manager/cashier at a little small town gas station.

So OM and I have something in common.

Ya know...these little "surprises"..that aren't *really* surprises at all..just things that didn't occur to me before..due to the damn shock and trauma of what WH freaking did...can STOP now..please.

I used to have a great memory.

I swear.

[This message edited by confused615 at 5:47 AM, September 9th (Monday)]

BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10



..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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LAFA ( member #31868) posted at 11:51 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

OM was a heroin addict, and tried to get WW into the same thing.

When you put someone on a pedestal, they quickly learn two things. The view is mighty good from up there, and it is a fine vantage from which to kick.

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hurtsobadinside ( member #35308) posted at 12:05 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013

VP Sales for competitor company (married with 2 sons and a scout master)

I knew him also thru my WW and considered him a friend

I could have got both of them fired if I "outed" the "A" to their HR and compliance depts.

BS- me 59

WS-her 57

LTA--7 yrs. PA & EA with former boss

1 Daughter 24 - reformed eating disorder left with excessive OCB

Dday- April 2012

Comfrontation day -7 wks later

Married 25 yrs.

I did contact AP's faithful wife and advised her of everything

Status: in "R" and finally getting better but slowly

posts: 163   ·   registered: Apr. 11th, 2012   ·   location: Illinois
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