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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:21 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
Yup - a great way to spend an antiversary. 
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 10:39 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
Well done! Glad everything went well and hope today continues to be a good day as well.
Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciled
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 10:47 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
Just woke up and had to check on you first thing.
So happy for you!
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
Crumbled324 ( member #33902) posted at 11:03 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
Way to go Blakesteele! Nice to see you take back the day!
I've adopted something simillar with regards to my daughter and the antiversary date.
Incredible how much something like this helps.
[This message edited by Crumbled324 at 5:04 AM, September 11th (Wednesday)]
BH: 47
fWW: 46
Beautiful 9 year old daughter
Married 23 years, Together 29 - High School Sweethearts
Reconciling
Save yourself. I've taken off my cape, and the only thing the S on my chest stands for is SURVIVNG this.
OnAnIsland ( member #34319) posted at 12:46 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
Great job, Blake. Thanks for sharing.
D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013
Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful sons
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou
brokensmile322 ( member #35758) posted at 2:16 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
Finally found some time to respond...
Ahhh, Blake. What a difference a year makes!
I remember your first posts here last year. You have come a long way, my friend. 
You have grown so much from the man who showed up here a year ago. I remember your story as you 'knew' it at the onset and how the subsequent months changed your truth. I read your struggle, your search for answers and have felt your strong desire to fix your marriage. I have enjoyed reading your posts and pondering your very thoughtful approach to dealing with this nightmare. You have helped me a long the way as well.
It might sound corny, but I am proud of you today. Good for you for taking back something that should never have been taken away.
My MC recently stated that dday will be forever a date that is remembered. He said that we can choose how to remember it. We can honor it in a way and I think you have. You have honored it by taking it back, making it yours, and with pride to boot! So very happy for you!
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."
ItsaClimb ( member #37107) posted at 2:57 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
I'm so glad it went well for you Blake! {hugs}
BS 52
Together 35 yrs, M 31 years
2 daughters 30yo(married with 2 children) & 25yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later
SadFlower ( member #37725) posted at 4:00 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
Blakesteele, I was so cheered to read your posts. I'm glad you were ready to walk past the OM with your head held high...but that, in the end, you were not put to the test. You now know that you will pass with flying colors if OM ever does show up again.
Hugs to you and your precious girls.
Me: BW, age 71
Him: WH, age 70
Married 24 years
In R.
D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA
learningtofeel ( member #39543) posted at 5:27 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
I was in a conference all day yesterday and couldn't check SI. But thought about you in the morning and wondered how it was going. I'm so glad to hear it went well. I can't wait to tell my fWS, who was also rooting for you. It is wonderful to feel we can get there too, eventually.
M 1989
3 young adult kids
D-Day 4.13.13
WS (him): 7 OW over 15 years
BS (me): had no clue
D-Day 2: 10.19.19, OW#8, a co-worker
Told him I was DONE
blakesteele (original poster member #38044) posted at 5:44 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
I thank you all...goosebumps and tears as I read the wonderful outpouring of support from my regulars, new members, and even a fWs!!!
I may not have any idea where my marriage is going, but I do have a clear vision of where blakesteele is going....and I had misplaced that.
It feels good. Dang sadness and pain is still a part of me today....but hope and faith is alive and growing in me. Thanks to ya'll who have taken the time to "weed" and "fertilize" this growth in me.
Peace to us all.
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
tired girl ( member #28053) posted at 5:57 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
Blake,
This is such an awesome way to take the day back. Good for you!
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
blakesteele (original poster member #38044) posted at 12:59 PM on Friday, September 13th, 2013
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
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