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surviving1963 ( member #40393) posted at 4:50 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013
Our faults are all so strikingly similar- it makes me feel better about myself!
1. You didn't allow "me to be me" (I guess if a grown man acting like a 15 year old boy is "him" - then I am unreasonable.)
2. Trying to control who he could be friends with- when I asked him to discontinue contact with his OW.
3. Our whole marriage was a "sexual sahara". Ouch! I really tried to fulfill his needs. Even when I had 7 children and was working full time and doing all the house and child care.
4. Only caring about money because in my divorce papers I asked for child support and alimony. I suppose I should not expect anything after 32 years of marriage. (Can you call years of his double life, secrets, lies and cheating a marriage?)
Etc, etc, etc, etc,
Me: 54
WH: 54
Married 34 years.
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12
4 sons, 3 daughters
9 grandkids
D final Oct 2015
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 2:18 PM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013
Everything negative in his entire adult life.
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
brokenhrt1 ( new member #40815) posted at 3:49 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
My WS says I never kept a clean house, my cooking became terrible, I never responded when he was wanting ... I never listened...all a bunch of crap! I wasnt a great housekeeper, but our home was liveable. One of the things he kept saying after I found out the truth was that I was a great cook. And the only time I ever turned him down for sex was if he was asking when I was trying to leave to go somewhere. Yet he ignored my needs plenty of times. Its funny how they have to find something to make their affair your fault. I was faithful to my husband! He said he had been in love with this person for over 12 years. Somehow its supposed to be my fault?
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 3:25 AM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
I Remembered Another One.
I Was Hard To Live With Because Everytime We Disagreed, I Ended Up Being Right And He Always Ended Up Being Wrong.My Response: Don't Talk About Something YoU Know Nothing About.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
Lola2kids ( member #32789) posted at 2:56 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
He told me that he tried to let me know "in his own way" that he was unhappy but I didn't pick up on it.
He had to tell me all these awful things like he never loved me because he was just trying to get out.
I didn't try hard enough to learn his language. This was so that I could talk to his parents and he could avoid them.
He thought about leaving me 10 years ago.
Um, that would have been 6 months after we bought a house together and when I was about 3 months pregnant.
Nice.
I'm not sure if these are exactly blaming examples but, there you go.
BS: (Me) 48
Kids: twins DD(11)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved an ocean away June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"
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