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AppleBlossom ( member #38541) posted at 1:30 AM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Oh honey, what a shitty thing to have happen. I completely understand how you feel, having been through this and other health issues and scares over the years. the waiting, and the not knowing is very hard. If you feel down or tearful, dont be too hard on yourself. Treat yourself as you need to, and lean on us as much as you need.
Feel free to pm me.
Lots of love and good thoughts.
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 3:41 AM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Sending you hugs-- this happened to me almost two years ago on my very first mammogram. The radiologist found a very suspicious spot, and he had it biopsied right then and there because he was so worried. The waiting was so stressful, and it happened right after I had finally moved out and thought I was finally going to enjoy my NB.
Fortunately, it was benign. Sending you that calm, positive mojo that you need to get through this incredibly stressful time.
Oh, and BTW-- when I told XWH because I was so frightened and worried about what would happen and how we'd care for the kids, it was like talking to a robot. He couldn't have sounded less concerned when I spoke to him on the phone about it, so I also get how you feel in terms of lack of support. I turned to my friends and family in that time, so you do that as well. Don't rely on him for anything.
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
AussieMum ( member #36579) posted at 4:54 AM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
sending hugs and lots of luck. All of this is tough enough without having to deal with the in-house separation and all the other crap.
I went through this situation a few years back - mammogram, ultrasound then biopsy - turned out to be a benign fibroadenoma. I totally understand what you're going through now with the waiting and the anxiety. Lean on your friends and on us too (((jemimapd))
Me 47
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS13 & DD8)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 5:24 AM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
I'm hoping all the best for you, Jemima.
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 5:30 AM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Sending a prayer and hugs tonight. Went through the scare four years ago, it turned out benign. Loads of strength to you.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 5:53 AM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Oh, (((jemima)))) Millions of hugs and prayers.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
openedupmyeyes ( member #27871) posted at 10:39 AM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Sending hugs,prayers, and support!
Me:55 BS
Him:55 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:37
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.
Iamacrab ( member #40410) posted at 11:11 AM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Sending you my support and big hugs. I'm thinking positively for you!
marlie2014 ( member #40981) posted at 8:37 PM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
I, too, send my support. I have been scared myself because of biopsies done recently and the possibility of a hysterectomy looms. And it's awful to go through it without the person whom you thought would be there for you 'in sickness and in health.'
(((hugs)))
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild
DDay: 9/2/2013
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!
Elaine2012 ( member #36099) posted at 9:50 PM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
(((jemimapd))) sending mojo!
Me- 60 ish
WH-no longer relevant
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 3 SIL, 6 grandchildren
JustDone ( member #9742) posted at 12:03 AM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
I'm so so so sorry. 
Are you going to have a stereotactic? I've had three, one showed a pre-cancerous condition, so I had to have a surgical biopsy to remove the three small lumps.
Sorry you are dealing with this and a in-house separation, I'm so grateful we have two houses on our property.
Hugs!
pm me anytime if you want more info or to talk.
-JD
Madhatter
Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.
jemimapd (original poster member #37895) posted at 12:17 AM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
Thank you so much for all the support!!
I have the biopsy next Tuesday so a week of waiting but I am just going to try to put it out of my mind. It is a small incision guided by ultrasound so not a big deal. I just want to be able to get on with my life without everything hanging over me.
Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 12:58 AM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
(((jemima)))
More hugs and good wishes here. Please do something extra nice for yourself while you're waiting to hear.
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 1:17 AM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
jemimapd (original poster member #37895) posted at 8:54 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2013
Today I went for an ultrasound guided biopsy and the result was........
ALL CLEAR - I AM SO RELIEVED
The previous ultrasound had showed the lump was solid.
It turned out to be a fluid-filled cyst. So it has completely gone.
G-O-N-E
Thank you so much to everyone who posted and PM'd me!!!!
PLEASE- if you are behind schedule on your mammogram, get it scheduled!
There was no way you could find my lump by self-examination, it only showed up on a mammogram.
It's tough out there - look after yourself!
Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.
PhoenixRisen ( member #35912) posted at 9:00 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2013
yeah! whew. (((jemimapd))
But great reminder to schedule those mammograms
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 9:10 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2013
**clapping hands**
I didn't know I was holding my breath until I read your update.
So happy for you, jem!!
As much as they suck they have proven, over and over again, that they can save lives!
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 10:15 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2013
Yay!!! So happy to hear this great news!!
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 11:29 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2013
Woot woot.
I've had a few cancer scare rodeos too! My most recent was the same week STBXH walked out on me. He still hasn't asked me if I'm gonna live or die! FTG!
It ain't over til the fat lady sings, and turns out your fat lady has laryngitis!
Fantastic news.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
LifeIsBroken ( member #27071) posted at 11:38 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2013
Yay ! Glad to know you received the all clear. A huge relief. Continue taking care of YOU !
D-Day: 8/28/2009
BW: 59 @ D-Day XH: 60 @ D-Day Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
Beyond terror is freedom. (Agnes Martin)
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