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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:24 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
Just visualize all of us sitting on your shoulders yelling "YOU GO DAD!"
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:29 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
We all are behind you cheering for you today.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:50 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
Strength, AD. We're all standing with you today.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 3:46 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
Dad,
We've got your back!!
Sending hugs and strength.
YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 4:02 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
Sending mediation MOJO your way. Kick ass AD, we got your back.
((((AD))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
Kelany ( member #34755) posted at 4:14 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12
Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 4:47 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
mojo
MoJo
MOJO
Positive thoughts and prayers too. All headed your way.
You got this!!!
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
forgivinglola ( new member #35601) posted at 5:16 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
I've been following your story for awhile and I wanted to wish you good luck today!
DDay: 10/13/2009Status: In R
momentintime ( member #16394) posted at 5:32 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
Send prayers and good thoughts. Major mojo coming your way. Take heart, this is winding down. Hopefully she won't have her entirely crazy hat on today.
BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 5:42 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
Lots of good thoughts for you.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 5:58 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
Good luck today!!
Sending lots of mojo and anti-whacko WS juice to you!
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 5:58 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
~~~~~~~~~~~~~winning~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~vibes~~~~~~~~~~~~~
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~go~~~~~~~~~~~~
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 8:27 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
Been thinking of you all day!! Hope it all went well.
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 8:31 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
Patiently waiting for good news....
Strength, AD.
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
NewMom0220 ( member #39036) posted at 11:08 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
Also sending good vibes and waiting to hear the news.
Me: BS 37
Him: WS 37
20 month old DS
Married 5 years, together 8, DIVORCING!!! (taking forever)
DDay: 3/1/13 (4 Month PA while I was pregnant)
Sometimes all you have to do is forget what you feel and remember what you deserve.
swizzlestick03 ( member #30102) posted at 11:59 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014
Also hoping for a super positive update!!!!
Me: BW-36
Him: WS-35
D-Day #1: 16 August 2010
D-Day #2: 16 January 2011
One smallish kiddo.
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 12:09 AM on Wednesday, January 8th, 2014
Hoping for a good update soon!
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
*****************************
Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 12:34 AM on Wednesday, January 8th, 2014
Aw, thanks everyone. :-) Seven-hour mediation resulting in settlement--that is being drafted so not yet signed. It ain't over ti it's over. Utterly drained and will post more details ASAP.
But: could have gone better, could have gone worse.
I get around 56% overnights and EOW.
She pays me CS 866.00 month.
400.00 more every month until home sells by June deadline.
She gets half the marital portion of my pension, I get half her 401k. But she won't get my pension (and it's not much) for almost 20 years; I get half her 401k immediately.
Looks like no trial unless she pulls some more BS and won't sign; I won't be surprised.
I feel good, I feel vindicated, my kids will be OK.
She is enraged. So said the mediator, and I just saw her and her face was a mask of white fury. It spelled R-E-A-L-I-T-Y.
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 12:44 AM on Wednesday, January 8th, 2014
WTG AD, you did GREAT.
Wish you would have sold tickets to see the smoke coming out of CSTBXWW's ears.
You get all the rest you need, you have successfully gotten over this massive hurdle.
Fingers crossed that she just signs and gets it over with.
((((AD))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
rainagain ( member #14917) posted at 1:01 AM on Wednesday, January 8th, 2014
I'm so glad that you feel vindicated and so happy for you about the weekends. As time goes on that 56% will go up higher unless she's doing the right things. It seems that it has worked out financially for you as well? Stay strong in the face of that fury and just great big hugs for you! ((((((AD))))))
Now, faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you cannot see. Heb 11:11 done been through the pain and the sorrow the struggle is nothing but love- Marino Me: Divorced
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