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STBXH ( member #60824) posted at 7:02 PM on Monday, April 16th, 2018
Good Lord Almighty... Number 10 indeed.
I personally believe this to be the toughest of all the realizations. I sacrificed so much for my WS now I have to sacrifice myself to save my kids. Life seems really dismal as I look to the future. The joy I derived from what I thought was a beautiful and special bond is now gone forever. Thank you for pointing out that it is quite personal to stay for the sake of my innocent children. Many BS feel “stuck” and need confirmation of this painful but selfless choice. This reality is really lacking here at SI IMHO.
Because of number 10, I have comfort knowing others are dealing with the same issue. Thank you.
...and I’m terribly sorry you all are here but very happy you’re all here with me.
Shit sandwich anyone? I better start eating... 
BH (me) 40 something
WW same
DD 12 DS 9
“The person that can fuck someone else, gaslight and lie to your face about it, is the very same person that cannot understand the soul crushing devastation you face at the revelation of their actions.” —me
overit62 ( member #55219) posted at 1:24 PM on Friday, April 20th, 2018
irwinr89 ( member #42457) posted at 11:06 PM on Friday, April 20th, 2018
Another thing I would say is to stop putting so much value in a marriage, your life shouldn't be all about your marriage or be defined by it, is just a relationship
Find yourself in life, find your true porpuse and what you were meant to do in this life, your career, hobbies, health, success.... Those are the true things that will bring meaning to your life, not your marriage or spouse.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:59 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2019
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
cancuncrushed ( member #28156) posted at 9:31 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2019
enjoying reading some old replies...seeing some old names....others who have long left...
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