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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 6:17 PM on Thursday, November 28th, 2013
Just shy of seven months, including the six month mandatory separation before filing, and three weeks between filing and our hearing. We waived appeal and it was final immediately or it would have been another month.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 7:38 PM on Thursday, November 28th, 2013
Almost 4 years.
Fucknuts wanted to keep the A going, but not give up M. It took 18 months of me riding his ass to push the D thru.
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 12:47 AM on Friday, November 29th, 2013
Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
D-day 2010
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 1:35 AM on Friday, November 29th, 2013
Dday blindsided me on 1/10/11 - D was final on 4/27/2011 and I'm so glad we did it quickly even though he was an ass throughout the entire process.
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
million pieces ( member #27539) posted at 2:46 AM on Friday, November 29th, 2013
22 months 
17 months to trial date and 22 months until verdict. Evidently we had a slow judge without a clerk, but really.
Me - 52 D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later, Divorced 11/15/11!!!!
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 4:00 AM on Friday, November 29th, 2013
D-day #1 was in Sept 2008. I did the false R dance for 9 months until June 2009, when I found the secret cell phone and confirmed that the affair had been taken underground. Now-ex walked out on me and the kids in August 2009, to be with OW, and I filed for divorce a few weeks later. The divorce wasn't final until April 2010, though.
So from d-day to divorce being final it was 19 1/2 months.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
BrokenDaisy ( member #37063) posted at 5:14 AM on Friday, November 29th, 2013
21 months. 11months from filing. Had false R before that and actually continued to try and R after filing (complicated story. We were in in-house seperation from dday but still going to MC & IC etc). Finally gave up completely 5 months before divorce was final. In-house seperation ended 6 weeks before divorce was final. (A glorious glorious day.)
Me xBW, him SA NPD WxH
1 son: sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
No longer broken
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Finally Divorced!!
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 2:15 PM on Friday, November 29th, 2013
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
TrustedHer ( member #23328) posted at 6:22 PM on Friday, November 29th, 2013
Why do you ask?
If you're trying to get an idea what the average is, you can see it goes from very speedy to exceptionally long.
If you're looking for the worst case scenario, continue on...
Mine was not the longest on SI, but I suppose it's in the top 10. 3 months from D-day#1 to filing, 52 months (yes, over 4 years) from filing to final judgment, and I'm taking the property settlement to the court of appeals, so add another year or so for that.
Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 6:54 PM on Friday, November 29th, 2013
5 months and 21 days from confrontation for latest whore. Would have been faster but the fucktwit was stalling to sign separation agreement for dissolution until I threatened to file for divorce with adultery listed as the reason...
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
MissLydgate ( member #35965) posted at 9:06 PM on Friday, November 29th, 2013
13 Months total.
2 months (give or take) to decide that A was a deal breaker, another 4 months to file (I was waiting for him to be employed), and 7 months to final divorce. He was motivated to agree to things because he wanted to be done before year end for tax purposes.
Me - BW - 42
Him - XWH - 42
Married 10 years, together 18
D Day 11/1/11
3 kids - DS7, DS5, DD5
DIVORCED! December 2012
"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbours, and laugh at them in our turn?"
SusanR ( member #29368) posted at 9:41 PM on Friday, November 29th, 2013
I hired an attorney in may and just now got the "draft" of my legal separation. It will depend on whether or not WH signs it or if we have to battle it out. I think he'll sign it because he is remorseful.
My lawyer says, if he signs right away, it should move quickly through the courts but, if he balks, no telling.
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