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I'm sorry, but your xh did NOT write that. This came right from OW. I haven't even read the responses to your original post here, but I'm almost CERTAIN I'm not the only person who thought this when I read the letter. These are not the words of a man. Men (as petty as they can be) do not say these types of things. This is clearly a jealous woman who is trying desperately to mark her territory. Furthermore, didn't you say that your xh actually thought that he was supposed to have your son for Thanksgiving? He was the one who didn't even question it and got right up to do the exchange - no questions asked. SHE was the one who tried to thwart an exchange and her rage over the fact that her efforts failed is so transparent right now. I'm sure you wouldn't be too hurt if your xh did in fact write this, but just sit back and laugh knowing that he didn't. This letter is just a testament to the fact that you got to her REALLY good this time!

It does read like a woman wrote this. Either that or he's very in touch with his (ignorant and cruel) feminine side. It seems a lot of vitriol for a confusion in custody time.

HA! I just read the responses now, and I KNEW others would feel the same way I felt when I read this. She totally wrote this letter. He probably doesn't even know that she did.

It's as simple as their common goal is making you miserable. So they feel entitled to stir the pot and fish for reactions.

You are a better person than many. I would've had a restraining order placed on him as soon as I received the first letter.

Probably would've scanned it and emailed it to all of his family as well.

Disgusting pig POS

IC appointments made for myself and my boy. My mom doesn't feel that the letter constitutes harassment. So no NC at this point. I will see what the therapist thinks.

What a POS venom spewing ASS... with my apologies to donkeys.

Irish, don't let these words inside your psyche. There is nothing but hate in that message, stemming from insecurity. They are trying to steal your power.

(((hugs))) cause that shit hurts to read, even knowing it is the idiocy of lowlife.

FTG.

I love that he's so upset about you keeping his name. I think you should never change your name now, even if you remarry. There's not a damn thing he can do about it, legally or otherwise. However, I agree that this whole thing was likely written by his whore.

So I am not letting this into me, I do have serious concerns about my boy. I figured she wrote it. He did sign it and even if he didn't read it, he allowed it. I am taking everything I have to the therapists and letting them sort it out. I want to know that my son is going to be okay emotionally and psychologically. I do not want to prevent my son from seeing his father, I do want to prevent his father from damaging a young boy.

You are an amazing mom, honey. Your DS is so very fortunate to have you. ((((huge hugs for both of you)))).

Wow...whoever wrote that tried VERY hard to get a reaction from you. Sounds like they threw everything including the kitchen sink into that list of insults. They sure put a whole lot of care into not caring!

Obviously their lives suck and they want desperately to get some hint that your life is as bad as theirs and make sure you are feeling bad so that they can feel better. That's really sick. "Happy" and "in love" people are too busy feeling good and enjoying their lives to put so much effort into making someone else feel bad.

Thanks, housefulloflove. IC said I am adjusted well and she doesn't think I need to re start therapy. She does agree that IrishLad should get back into IC to reinforce that this is not about him. She thought that oldest son is actually a good option for go between. She did ask since he was the one who cheated why is he so mad at me? I said cause if I am not the one to blame then his choices fall squarely on him and he can't handle that.

Don't you dare change your last name. He cannot make you no matter what he says. I didn't. In part because my daughter was only six and I didn't want to confuse her. She was confused enough that he left for his best friends wife and was now living with their kids instead of with her. The other reason is that it pisses ow off.

No, I won't be changing my name. I am not the one who disgraced the name.

Irishlass,

Wow, That letter put me back 9 years. I used to get the same damn missives from OW via XH's email and signed with his signature.

I feel for you. I am convinced my XH's OW/NW has his balls in a pocket in her purse.

I want to know that my son is going to be okay emotionally and psychologically. I do not want to prevent my son from seeing his father, I do want to prevent his father from damaging a young boy

^^^^ This shows what a wonderful mom you are to your kids. You have a right to be concerned that your son is being groomed to be a pawn in their hatred of you. Sadly it just reinforced to the kids that their hatred of you, outweights their love for your kids.

Hugs,

K

Wow! xwh said the exact thing about "his" name. I only kept it to be the same as the kids, no other reason. Owife addresses mail and checks to me with HelenofTroy and last name left blank.

As far as WxhIrishLass he seriously needs a typing class. It is two spaces after a period and before the next sentence. Is he really that dumb or just doing that to be extra annoying? What a vile and gross letter. He needs to go to therapy for his resentment not write his XW letters. The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. He's way off from indifference range. Keeping you engaged through dramatic emails says a whole lot more than NC.

HoT, (by the way I love that your username spells that) I attempted to re type it for you all just as it was so poorly written. Apparently even my phones auto correct gagged and could only take so much. The actual letter is much worse than the phone would allow me to repost.