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This whole string has been a joy to read.

I think men should look at it differently. Maybe it isn't about the lack of size of the man. Perhaps the woman has overworked her nether regions and stretched things out a bit. If you hear an echo, you have your answer.

Just another vote for size doesn't matter. The only real difference for me is that if it's smaller than average it's easier to... umm... make him "smile."

(Who wants a ginormous tongue depressor down their throat?!?!)

I don't know how my current penis is compared to past ones. It's not like I lined them up for comparison.

However, I do murmur "you're too big" to my husband sometimes while we're doing it. He likes it.

Is this the same thing as my fWH whore being tighter and smaller. He didn't say it to me but I read the texts afterwards.

So I can't help it if she's a fucking midget. I'm not 5'3 she's 4'10 so duh. Funny thing is that my fWH is a good size. And I was sore quite often.

So it hurt my feelings that she kept telling him how great and big his cock was blah blah blah. He said he couldn't get it erect due to guilt. Really ...Ugh so many lies. So I figured I can't believe either one of them. They both were stroking each other's egos.

[This message edited by Dreamland at 3:58 PM, January 3rd (Friday)]

Okay, reading this again I will admit if it's under 5 inches, it's harder to orgasm, without certain positions, mainly top and some clitoral stimulation in other positions but it is still very enjoyable and the orgasms feel just as good so don't sweat it!

Careful...this is a generalization.

LOL - seriously, in this thread? The entire thread is a generalization.

This PC movement is clearly out of control

Religious or lousy upbringing that sex is "bad/dirty", anything other than plain vanilla missionary is sinful, coupled with extreme body issues, reciprocation, fear of cleanliness, porn stigmas, etc.....recipe for disaster and reluctance. Do they want it? Sure. But it seems "wrong" or "forbidden".

Not necessarily. When I was first intimate with my H, he started to approach this, and I said "Don't bother - I don't like it and it does nothing for me." Well, he proved me wrong. I had just been with men that were bad at it. So bad that I had no interest in it.

That isn't the case now.

Slight t/j

This has been an informative and at times funny read.

Being a old guy. And one that has never been a woman-izer. Ive only had 5 sexual partners in my life. WW has had at least an order of magnitude more partners than I have. I dont know what the average is. But in the end that doesnt matter.

Ok. I was going off on my own tangent there. Sorry.

My belief is that our satisfaction with sex is more about how the other person makes us feel. Rather than what they do or dont do. I know that I feel better about myself and better about the whole sexual experience if I have the feeling the woman I am with has climaxed.

The physical certainly plays a big part. (no pun intended) After all the basic mechanics have to be there. Everyones happy parts have to .. well get some happy time.

I think our emotional state plays a larger role than most give it credit for. In the joining we see ourselves reflected back upon ourselves. If what we see / experience is good. Then the sex is good.

Just a opinion of a old guy. YMMV

[This message edited by Razor at 5:17 PM, January 3rd (Friday)]

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most sensitivity is within the first 2-3 inches of a womans vagina....clitoral stimulation is key to orgasm.

Can we give the man a cigar!

I have to say that when I was looking for a lover, the last thing that I thought about was the size of his penis. That wasn’t on “display,” as it were, when I was getting to know someone. And by the time that I was ready to make love to the person, size was immaterial in all but two instances. And how good a time I had was proportional to the time and attention that the man took with me, to help me find pleasure. And the more time and attention that the man took with me, roused in me the desire to take time and pay attention to him. In truth, when I was giving a man a BJ, I found an average or slightly smaller penis to be more helpful to me, because my mouth is a bit small. I could please him more if he was sized in that manner. Conversely, if a man were rough with me, impatient, or self-centered, then I didn’t have a good time and there were no repeats.

The two instances that size did matter to me were when I found two men who had much larger and thicker penis’. The first one, who was the largest, was a horrible lover and we didn’t even complete the act. It was physically impossible as he was SO bad that I was unable to become aroused enough for successful penetration. That experience put me off so much that I was quite happy to not have the opportunity to go there, size-wise, for decades. My FWH is the 2nd largest man I’ve ever been with, and frankly, it took time before I was completely comfortable with him. (As a side note, when I got to know him, he confided in me that he felt like Captain Kirk, going where no man had gone before, because, as he was such a nice guy, it always seemed that virgins picked him out for their first time. And he rarely had a good time because of having to be SO careful.) I have to admit, that even though he was careful, attentive, and gives amazing oral, it took a while before I was completely comfortable with him. But with the intimacy that we had, and the friendship that we had before we became lovers, we were able to relax and enjoy ourselves fairly quickly.

Well, if this isn’t a TMI thread, then there isn’t one! Point being, that at least to me, the size wasn’t worth noticing. It was the intimacy, care, and bonding before, coupled with technique afterwards, that mattered to me. Take my FWH out of the equation completely, then my “preference” would be for average to a bit small. More options, as it were.

Can we give the man a cigar!

But how BIG is the cigar?

It's official. I am having an EA with all of you!

[This message edited by steadfast1973 at 5:57 PM, January 3rd (Friday)]

For those of you who have enjoyed this thread and/or topic, I'd like to recommend the documentary "Unhung Hero." It's super funny and about a guy who goes out to explore this very question after his girlfriends turns down his proposal because his penis is too small.

I saw it at a film festival this fall, and laughed so frequently that I've been recommending it to pretty much everyone (where appropriate.)

But how BIG is the cigar? Big enough that it satisfies!

I don't know about anyone else but I swear I think I may be more confused about this subject than I was before I read this thread. It doesn't matter. Ok, sometimes it does. Well it really doesn't...unless it's way too small or too big.

But how BIG is the cigar?

Dude.. Its not the size of the cigar that matters!! Hello! Its how you use it, thats what women care about. For real.

Can we give the man a cigar!

Agh hmmm! I believe I was the one who made the comment...thank you for the compliment!

Now.......does anyone have a supplier of XXXL condoms? My source shriveled up!!!!!

This got to be quite a fun thread....lots of activity!

Thanks Itsaclimb......ItsabeenFUN!

I agree - size doesn't matter. It's not the size of the wave it's the motion in the ocean.

I will add that I once was on a date with an attractive guy and we went back to his place and he put the moves on me…but then out came an anaconda. Not only was it premature in terms of timing - call me victorian but I never slept with a guy on a first date - but there was no way was I going to attempt to connect with that thing. I'm very petite and my date was very tall, so that would have complicated matters even more. Put that thing BACK.

By WH is probably among the smaller penises I have encountered but definitely the one I connect with the best. And I do not say that lightly…I say that after wanting to rip it off on several occasions since 3/13.

yes razor-I thought about that when I wrote it

out came an anaconda

LMAO