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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 9:55 PM on Thursday, January 9th, 2014
(((momxgbg)))
I am so sorry for your loss. 
truthsetmefree ( member #7168) posted at 10:07 PM on Thursday, January 9th, 2014
I'm am so sorry for the loss of your sweet DS. It's just something that no mother can imagine. It fundamentally changes your life.
Please try to be kind and patient with yourself. I imagine that there are many, many things that have changed in your life - simpler things than a marriage trying to recover from infidelity. I'm sure just eating and sleeping poses it's own challenges.
Hope has two beautiful daughters; their names are Anger and Courage. Anger at the way things are, and Courage to see that they do not remain as they are. ~ Augustine of Hippo
Funny thing, I quit being broken when I quit letting people break me.
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 10:31 PM on Thursday, January 9th, 2014
Oh, Dear momx,
This is so sad, I am very sorry for your loss. What a strain you have been under. I hope you can feel the support here for you and see the tender, gentle caring side of SI and stay away from the more strident and angry forums for now.
You sound brave and resilient but I do hope you will be very gentle with yourself. As caring to yourself as you were to DS.
Emotionalhell ( member #39902) posted at 10:37 PM on Thursday, January 9th, 2014
My deepest sympathy for your loss.
Hugs
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 10:39 PM on Thursday, January 9th, 2014
I am so very sorry for your loss. ((((momxgbg))))
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 11:25 PM on Thursday, January 9th, 2014
I am so sorry for your loss. (((((((Momxgbg))))))))
Please take care of yourself.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
cass ( member #24261) posted at 11:50 PM on Thursday, January 9th, 2014
I'm so very sorry for the great loss of your dear son. I can't imagine.
Keep yourself and your girls at the forefront of your mind for now, anything else can wait.
(((momxgbg))) Peace, strength and healing to you.
DDay - April 2008
Me - 58 and doing great, alone.
Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:52 PM on Thursday, January 9th, 2014
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. (((momxbg & kids & even WH)))
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 11:54 PM on Thursday, January 9th, 2014
Oh I am so sad for the loss of your sweet boy. It's more than anyone should have to handle.
I am glad you are back so we can help you if possible as you move through all of this.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
Afraid2LoveAgain ( member #11185) posted at 11:55 PM on Thursday, January 9th, 2014
(((momxgbg)))
I am so sorry for your loss. My mind can't comprehend the pain you have been through.
I wish I knew a way to ease some of your pain.
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
happenedtome ( member #6042) posted at 12:00 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
(((((mom))))). I am so deeply sorry for all you have been through and especially for the loss of your beloved Nate. I hope you can find some solace here with the very warm and caring folks of SI.
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 12:02 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your DS.
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
dazdandconfuzed ( member #11692) posted at 4:16 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
I am so very, very sorry for the loss of your little boy. Be patient with yourself - you don't have to deal with all of this at once. The A will still be there to be dealt with when you are stronger. And of course you can always talk about it here on days you need to.
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 4:51 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
I'm deeply sorry you lost your dear son. I cannot imagine. I have no words, but want you to know I'm thinking of you.
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
abbycadabby ( member #27428) posted at 7:19 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I have no idea about advice for you, except to ask if you're seeing an IC for yourself? Your IC should be able to help you sort through your emotions and help you figure out how you'd like to move forward. Beyond that, could you/would you be interested in attending a grief support group?
(((momxgbg & family)))
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JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 7:24 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
I am so so very sorry for your loss.
Hurtm ( member #41102) posted at 8:17 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Me: 36 and awesome (now 38)
Him: 37 and a douche (otherwise known as DB)
DD day October 17th (my birthday, lucky me)
Married 9 years, together 14
DS 8, DD 5
Finally officially divorced after almost 4 years
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 8:23 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
ItHappened2Me2 ( member #32503) posted at 8:26 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
(((momxgbg)))
You and your family will be in my prayers. I am sorry for your loss. Allow yourself time to grief. As a mom, I cannot even image the pain you must be feeling.
Hug on your girls!
Deal with the other "stuff" when you are ready.
BS - me (57 now); WS - him (57 now)
DD 21o, DS 17 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013
DIVORCED!!!! and doing well
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 9:59 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
I'm so sorry.
(((momxgbg)))
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
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