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I thought the in-person interview went very well, he was nodding his head and agreeing with all my answers. I spent hours at home doing aptitude tests and skills tests on my laptop, phone interview and everything went very well. The morning after the interview I get the thanks but no thanks email. I guess no one wants to hire a 50 something woman for a entry level sales position. His office was filled with young things.

He showed me a list of the duties of the job which was not at all difficult. He pointed out the last one

"do whatever X tells you"

I do not know if I would have accepted it or not but he tells me in the interview he will make his decision on the 21st and then rejection. Hurt worse then I thought.

It sucks trying to get back into the work force.

Time to send out more resumes and letters. Thanks for listening.

Oh, ruby, I'm sorry. Rejection hurts, for sure. But, you will probably be glad this happened later, when you get an even better job! Be extra gentle on yourself today. ((((ruby44))))

(((ruby)))

I'm sorry you didn't get the job.

A dear friend of mine was in her 50s when both she and her H ended up unemployed. She did secure a retail sales position at a clothing store. The clientele of the store is mostly 30s and up professional women. She went in dressed perfectly and with a great personality but no sales experience. She got the job and has worked her way up to assistant manager and turned down a manager position at a different store.

You can do this. Reinventing your life will have some challenges but being in your 50s isn't an end and doesn't make you unemployable. You have to find the right environment.

I was recently rejected from an entry level accounting positioning in the area I am relocating to. I ended up finding a BETTER position making more money (same field). They are even paying my relocation expense, where as the other company wouldn't have.

You will find a better position that will be a good fit for you. Keep positive and keep looking.

((((ruby))))

(((((ruby44))))) I am so sorry. Be gentle with yourself today. Try not to take it personally. "do whatever X tells you" sounds suspicious. You probably would have turned them down anyway but it would have been nice to be the one to make that decision.

I'm so sorry. I'm also in your age cohort and have been unsuccessful at getting a job.

(((Ruby))))

I am sorry you didn't get the job, but look at the positives here. You got a great practice run at interviewing, you have proven you are capable of doing the online tests, and you don't have to put up with a boss that would have been unbearable.

There is something better in store for you. Just keep trying. It will come.

I don't know if your a big music fan, but listen to OAR's Right On Time. It's about what we want, but not always getting it when we want it, but we always seem to get it Right on Time. It is very true. I'm not a really religious person, but this song resonates with me in many aspects of my life.

((((and strength)))

ruby, I'm sorry you didn't get the job too. But if it helps, in my experience, it was always a blessing. I always found out later that it was a blessing in disguise because a better job was around the corner, or I'd find out later from another employee that the organization never would have been a good fit anyway.

Just keep plugging away. Make sure you ask questions too so that you will know if YOU want to work for THEM!

Good luck.

Oh, and don't forget to send a thank you card thanking him for his time and letting him know if something more suitable comes along to keep you in mind. You never know, maybe down the road something those 20 something year olds just can't do will come along!

[This message edited by StillLivin at 1:43 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)]

I had an IC session this afternoon and caught her up on what has been going on. When I told her about the last task on the list she cringed! Though I know that it was not the right job, the fact that I got rejected so easily for a job I am over qualified for just stung a little. I am better now, I did send him a nice thank you for the interview and wishing him success in selecting the right candidate. Got that one under my belt hope more to come.

Thanks all for your support good thing I had a stash of Reese's PB cups on hand to soothe the ache.

It was the dress rehearsal for your future great new job.

sorry ruby you're feeling down about this. It sucks. (50's suck.). Hope you get what you truly want and deserve, soon!