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Jeaniegirl,

I thought of that very thing. I cant imagine what he could have purchased, acquired or anything that would need to be hidden in there, so I immediately thought it could have been used as a shady, meet up place.

Only thing is, OW is single and has her own home, so unless there is so much more and so many more ONS, which I don't feel is the case, then why have it. Im going nuts just thinking about it.

I forgot to ask how long he's had the storage unit when I called. I think I was in shock and didn't want her to suspect me as a snooping wife and possibly contact him.

Still debating on whether or not to discuss with therapist.

Just in case it's the worst case scenario, I think it would be good to discuss this with your therapist. For your own benefit and so that there is documentation by a professional.

I can't even imagine how crazy making that kind of discovery would be.

((DyingInside21))

I'd wager on storing stuff for OW. And if its still ongoing, then they aren't in NC and this was not revealed to you.

At a bare minimum, and I hope this is all it is, it could be something that he just forgot to mention to you - like something for work or a family member. Did anyone recently pass away?

Otherwise, I'd bet on storing stuff for OW esp if it was a LTA.

I think the "make shift hookup" place would really be a stretch. I believe it has occurred, but you'd really have to be some kind of freak to do that.

Being as I am obsessed with the ID Channel, hasn't anyone else jumped to the conclusion that there must be dead bodies stored in blue barrels in this storage unit? Yeah, I wouldn't go alone and I would make sure people knew where I was going.

Does he need to store anything for his job? Like if he is a salesman, does he have a lot of stuff to store that is easier.

Why does he work so far from home?

He lost his father and best friend 6 days apart last summer. But his mother, whom is isn't talking to right now, is still in their home and no furniture has been moved out. Everything he took of his dads that he wanted for sentimental reasons was brought to our home and is in the garage (his space).

His best friends wife hasn't yet decided what of his to give to my WH as a momento, but it wouldn't be anything large enough to store. He was hoping for a football jersey or special fire department item or something.

I also cant imagine why he would need to take out a storage unit in HIS name to store shit for the OW, but Im sure it's been done.

I see the therapist Friday afternoon. Cant come soon enough. *sigh!!!

LOL!!! Im an ID Channel obsessed viewer too. The dead bodies crossed my mind for a second.

He would have no need to store anything for work in a personal storage unit. If he did, it would be something he would have told me. Typically, if something is done of a personal nature for work, it's in the Captain's name or under the department's name. They have plenty of storage on site.

He is a fireman and his station is in a larger city where he earns much more money. We moved to this area for homeowner affordability. He works 24 hour shifts at a time, so he isnt driving daily.

Being as I am obsessed with the ID Channel, hasn't anyone else jumped to the conclusion that there must be dead bodies stored in blue barrels in this storage unit? Yeah, I wouldn't go alone and I would make sure people knew where I was going.

***raises hand***

I know that, when I found out about my H's A, I had to discard everything I thought I knew about him and realize that he could be anything- even some really dark things. To date, I haven't found anything like that, but I would be trembling if I found a hidden storage unit, for sure!

Take a look at his key ring when he gets home. He might have the key to the lock on there. There is probably more than one because most locks will have 2 keys when you buy them. So, take a look at his key ring. If you find it, see if you can slip one off and get a copy made.

I have no idea what might be in the storage unit if it's not for his work. I cannot imagine anyone being freaky enough to put a bed in one and have sex there but then again nothing surprises me anymore.

The comment from another poster that they had to throw out everything they knew about their spouse is exactly how I feel. He is not the man I married and not the man I thought he was all these years. My own mother who loves him with all her heart asked me the other day if I thought he was capable of killing me!!!! She watches too much Forensic Files, I think. But honestly, how do we know what our cheating spouses are capable of - really?

I just want to reach out and hug you. That sick feeling and anxiousness that makes you want to crawl out of your own skin is almost more than one can bear. Please be strong and protect yourself at all costs.

[This message edited by JT4588 at 4:17 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)]

Well please update us. If anything, all us Dateline Mystery fans need to be grounded to reality with our runaway thoughts of blue barrels and mistress hook up spots, etc. I keep picturing that host's voice in my head "hmmmm....but wait. A secret storage unit...." (Just a little humor - I know this is your life and not at all funny, and that you are hurting)

How close is he with his ex BF's widow?

Could he have helped her by storing some things?

Being as I am obsessed with the ID Channel, hasn't anyone else jumped to the conclusion that there must be dead bodies

That was the reason I suggested she bring someone with her. I just didn't want to say it. I, too, watch too many murder mysteries because that was the first thing that came to my mind.

I agree with driving him there, opening the gate with the code, driving up to the unit and telling him he has 30 seconds to open it.

A good old fashioned parking lot confession.

Boom!

Bring the kids to your Mom's house. Drive to the storage facility. Call him, tell him where you are and that he needs to meet you there immediately. Another precaution I would take if there is any chance he could be volatile is have someone come with you. A friend or relative?

My ex bought a boat without telling me.

You have to make sure you or WH has the key, though.

I thinking its for mother or family, or something he's collecting or acquired, or for work related stuff.

Figure out how he's paying for it. Probably a credit card or auto debit from a bank account. That may tell you how long he's had it if you can backtrack it.

Follow the money, paid up until when? Paid in advance? Surely not cash, now that would be suspicious! Does he have a business credit card?

I was thinking perhaps it was a friend (?) that had him meet them there to help unload something, but you are sure it's in his name?

Cutting the lock off is going to be suspicious to the management, and many of these padlocks are designed to be SOB's to cut with bolt cutters. You don't want to get confronted with nothing but a lame story.

Did you map it on Google? Is it on his way to work or family, or is it out of the way?

[This message edited by twisted at 5:03 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)]

Twisted:

It's definitely in his name. Manager confirmed it for me over the phone. I made up the scenario that I was sorting through my FIL's old paperwork and came across the card and keycode info. She asked for his name and said, "No, but it's in WH's name."

I blew it off and said, "Oh that's my husband, I'll check with him then, thanks!" Didn't know what else to say. So horrible at this stuff.

I think I should bring it up in therapy on Friday and see what she thinks. I'll make my decision then. If I cant get in legally, then I want to be able to confront him in person so I can read his reaction. If I don't feel like he is being honest, then we are making that drive together.

Thank you everyone for your input. My stomach is still in knots, but I don't want to make a rash decision that may get me into trouble.

Taking lots of DEEP breaths!

I know that, when I found out about my H's A, I had to discard everything I thought I knew about him and realize that he could be anything- even some really dark things.

I can agree with this. For your sake, DI, I hope it's benign, but I still have a hard time believing all the terrible things I now KNOW are facts about xpos. All his secrets, and, most of all, his total hatred of me and the dark side of that. It's just pure luck that I'm still alive. I wouldn't have been found in a blue barrel, but in pieces all over the neighborhood.

Good luck with discovery on this. It's good that you plan to talk to IC about it.

I'm just thinking it is probably something secretive and possibly related to his affair, but honestly what could it really be that would be so torried and horrendous?

Oh dear, dear, dear! Speaking from personal experience, the realm of possibilities of what a cheating spouse can hide is endless, ranging far beyond torrid and horrendous and going deep into the terrifying blackness of the human psyche.

My advice for the OP is not to confront. Find the key on his keyring, duplicate it, and go up there on your own this weekend "to see your mother". You might need to duplicate several keys if you can't determine which one is the right one. I would "lose" my keys between now & then so that I would have to borrow his to go run some errands, dup the key(s), come back home & miraculously find my own keys.

There once was a time when I never would have thought to be such an undercover operative. However, I'm one of those who has discovered horrifying, terrifying stuff in The Garage that my ex hid from me all these years. As I learned, I didn't know him at all. I never did. He kept secrets hidden.

Ugh. Continue taking deep breaths and think. Don't let him know that you found out about this.

Call in favors now from your family and/or best friends. Someone to stay with the kids and someone to take a ride with you out to that storage unit. Please don't go alone. You have no idea what you are going to find. Even if it's just stuff for his job or a brand new boat that he purchased and didn't want to tell you about, you will still need a friend to lean on.

I hope you can find the key soon.

(((Dyinginside)))

Any unfamiliar keys on his keyring? Where does he put them when he's sleeping?

Just a thought. He's not going to come to you and say, "Hey babe, have you seen the key to my secret stor... uh, I mean, um... what's for breakfast?"