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Williesmom (original poster member #22870) posted at 2:38 AM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
I know so many people think I'm crazy for having 4 dogs, but they are really the only things that I can count on in my life.
Last night, I woke up in the middle of the night to find one of the snuggled up tight against me, sound asleep. He was from the shelter, and his walls are nearly as high as mine.
I rubbed his head for a bit. He never quit snoring, but his tail stump wagged the entire time.
I guess it's the love with no expectations, no demands. Just pure joy that we get to live together and hang out. It's mutual joy, I guess.
What I'm trying to say is that we all find peace in the most unexpected times and places.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 2:54 AM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
He was from the shelter, and his walls are nearly as high as mine.
Oh this gave me a lump in my throat.
My skittish girl rescue cat trembled 24/7 for the first few weeks. We are a year out and I often wake to find her being my big spoon or curled up in my arms. If I move or open my eyes in the night she starts purring loudly and grooms me. My big boy sleeps with his paws tangled up in my hair and face nuzzled into my head.
Their purrs are more like roars at these quiet times. I could weep for the beauty of the moment. Pure joy. Trust. Love.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 3:17 AM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
Right now I have my rescue from 11 years ago and my daughters kitten as she is away. The don't like each other much, but are taking turns sleeping with me.
Fun.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 3:42 AM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
I told Little Dude just this morning that everything I went through with xWH was worth it since it brought me my little guy!
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 3:46 AM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
Having our own houseload of furbabies, I completely understand and agree with your sentiment.
They truly give us so much...and ask for so little in return.
I love furpeople!
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 4:07 AM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
I am so happy you have them Williesmom!
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 4:30 AM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
I know with my husky rescue, I get so much joy out of watching her run full tilt in the backyard and then run up to me and play bow.
I love that she knows I'm about to go upstairs to bed...I go to the stairs and she's right there with me, walking up the stairs, curling up in her bed in my room. I. Love. That.
So happy your furbabies bring you such joy.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 5:43 AM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
I loved sleeping with my first mastiff when the X wasn't home. She snored like a muffled chain saw and chased imaginary who-knows-whats in her sleep, but I felt so safe with her around. My 160 lb lap dog
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 12:19 PM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
My "divorce dog" is almost always at my feet. I can just reach down and pet him and we both fall a little more in puppy love (although now he is 18 months old!)
great post.
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 12:53 PM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
Aaawwww.....your post makes me smile. We get so much from our furbabies and they ask so little in return. My shelter rescue, after he totally destroyed the house as a puppy, turned into my best dog ever. He is exceedingly intelligent, understands what I say, has boundless energy, and is very protective of his pack.
I give him stuffed animals from time to time. If he has one he really likes, he will sleep with it in his mouth for weeks before finally ripping it to shreds....
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
lifestoshort ( member #18442) posted at 2:39 PM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
aww, thats great. Glad things are going well and you can see the little things in life to smile.
Im there too. Its really great when our path becomes cleared.
Im 45. 1st H I left in 2001 after 3 kids. narcassist.
2nd exH had MANY affairs.FALSE R. cheats again. D 5/09. 2 kids. I got 100% custody. ex hasnt seen kids in 6 yrs.
2014 to now: dated highschool sweetheart. He cheated w 23 yr old & left.
wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 5:18 PM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
My big guy made the move down with me and he's been pretty clingy in the new environment.... He's made himself home on the kingsize bed like he did in Okieland...
Like all of you... I've got a stronger bond with my big guy because of the backstabbing I was subjected to by the ex...
WB
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:27 PM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
Love this, Williesmom.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 6:12 PM on Tuesday, May 6th, 2014
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 4:43 AM on Wednesday, May 7th, 2014
Love this - my dogs are a handful at times, but I couldn't survive without them. They sleep on the other side of my kingsize bed every night and are always here for me. <3
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
stronggirl72 ( member #37293) posted at 10:34 PM on Thursday, May 8th, 2014
Yes! Love these happy posts.
"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."
DIVORCED!!
gypsybird87 ( member #39193) posted at 12:07 AM on Friday, May 9th, 2014
I can't even imagine getting through the last year without my dog. He's licked away many, many tears, and made me smile on days when I was sure I couldn't.
Absolutely trustworthy, loyal, unconditional love. It feels so good.
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 10:59 AM on Friday, May 9th, 2014
Oh that is so sweet.
I am jealous though. My oldest DS is highly allergic to all fur & feathered babies. It's not fair.
It's harder for him he loves animals just can't be near them.
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
marlie2014 ( member #40981) posted at 3:20 PM on Friday, May 9th, 2014
I feel the same! I have a white Boxer and also a black cat with white paws. My Boxer is such great company. Every morning he leans against the back of my leg as I'm putting on makeup and getting ready for work. He also sways his backside underneath the dresses in my closet...I think that's how he 'pets himself.' It's hilarious.
I'm so glad that the STBX left him, and the cat, with me. It's the one decent thing he did, although I think he might have taken at least the dog if he had a bigger place to live.
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild
DDay: 9/2/2013
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!
Williesmom (original poster member #22870) posted at 7:44 PM on Friday, May 9th, 2014
I'm so glad that so many of us have fur babies.
Everyone laughed when I made sure that "all owned pets" were to be mine in the MSA. I wasn't going to risk that!
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
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