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You are the prize

^^^Exactly what Sistermilkshake said.

I know it doesn't feel like it right now, your knees want to buckle, but YOU are the better man, YOU are the honest and faithful man. A great dad.

Keep posting, SWAT, if you have a TRUSTED friend you can lean on, make the phone call now and talk.

((((Hugs))))

IDK, SWAT, your in-laws sound like good people. I have heard of in-laws being supportive of the BS's even when they are divorcing their own child.

If we lived near you, we would be happy to give you a ride, though.

I am so, so, sorry, but I am glad you are leaving. I just can not believe the cruelty of these WS's. You are right to go. She does not deserve your love.

You are wrong about one thing though. The OM did not win. No one won. There is no winner in an affair, but you will end up being the most well off. You go forward with your integrity, your honor, and the knowledge that you gave her every chance in the world. Those two have none of that. They are losers in the very real sense of the word.

Good luck, hugs, and keep us posted.

So,sorry it's ending like this, but I too have been through the farce of a cheater lying to me..

IT SUCKS.

You will be ok one day, I can assure you. Come on down to the Separation/Divorce board... We are good peeps down there and have tons of helpful advice.

Really sorry it didn't go down like you had hoped. Your stbxw is the fool, SWAT70, not you- and don't ever forget that!

(((Swat)))

I'm still feel new here but I just wanted to say ive been following your thread. I'm sorry it came to this. But hold your head high, your children have a father to be proud of. A father that fought for his family.

The irony of it all is this. I've already gotten phone calls and text messages from my in laws, every single one of them. My BIL is on his way here now. I've gotten a lot of responses here and some PM's. WW hasn't even tried to contact me yet.

If you EVER, EVER, call yourself a food for doing what a husband is supposed to do, love and trust his spouse, then I am going to call a curse of bedbugs into the lining of your Kevlar vest. Do not think for a moment that I won't!

You gave her every chance. Every change to woman-up and do the honorable thing, wither it be to re-commit to you and your family 100%, or to say that she wanted out of the marriage. You were true and you gave her the chance to be true as well. She chose not to. She decided to lie, cheat, and whore around. SHE decided. So be it. She has shown you who she is and now, you believe it. As horrible as this discovery is for you, I'm glad that you found out and that you have the documentation/photos. You now know exactly where you stand.

I hope that you can fast-track this D and get your custody settled ASAP. If your lawyer thinks that it's best that you leave the house, then follow his advice, but get yourself setup for custody of your children as quickly as you can so you can have them as much as possible. Please head down to the Separation and Divorce forum as well and introduce yourself. You'll find a lot of really great and helpful people there.

As horrible as this is, this is also a beginning for you. You now know the path that you're walking and can focus on that. The indecision is over, which in of itself, has to be a relief.

Hang in there, man. We got your back.

no irony brother. there are truly good people on this planet. I also thought your in laws sounded like good people.

as always, sending you strength.

Ditto to everything everyone has said...take care of yourself. Your kids need you!!!

Keep posting and like sister said YOU are the prize!

I wish you peace....

I'm so sorry. Your ww is a fool. Wow. Please know you are a wonderful man and husband. You gave her a gift of R and she blew it. (((((Hugs))))

[This message edited by Faithful w/Love at 5:03 PM, May 9th (Friday)]

Thanks everyone. She just started texting me. Apparantly "It's not what I think!" She is coming home right now and doesn't want me to leave. BIL texted me to not leave he needed to see me. Which confuses me. I texted them that I had already left and was on my way to the airport. My truck is loaded up and I'll be gone before anyone gets here.

where are the kids in this? and if you are moving, who will watch them and such? I so hope you are not up and leaving them.

if I were in your spot I would need a vacay to think too but Im just hoping your not leaving everything this second.

this feeling sucks. Ive been there MANY times. and you are right, letting them go is the best.

I'm going to DC for police memorial week. I would never abandon my kids.

Apparantly "It's not what I think!"

Of course it isn't. I am sure there is a perfectly logical reason that your WW went behind your back, against a restraining order, breaking NC, to go to a bar with the OM.

Amen sister.

What was in the emails?

I'm off to the airport. I'll touch base later. I made sure I brought my charges for my phone and iPad. I have a feeling I'll need them.

(((SWAT70))) Godspeed, SWAT. Please keep in touch.

"It's not what you think" - are you shitting me?

So she lied and said she was home, was emailing him the second you left, and is at a bar with him all afternoon - but it's not what you think.

Some people just aren't worth the second chances that are given. You have a good time in DC. You don't need her bullshit spraying all over you. She just showed you what she thinks - that she can sneak, and lie, and it's all fine because you're a fool and you'll believe her. She thinks she's so clever. Riiiiiiiiiiight!!

Ditch the Bitch. You can do better, and you definitely deserve better. Throw her skank ass out. Tell her you'll be home in a week, and she needs to be OUT by then.

Of course it isn't. I am sure there is a perfectly logical reason that your WW went behind your back, against a restraining order, breaking NC, to go to a bar with the OM.

And lied and said she was at home.

I'm so sorry SWAT.

((( SWAT70 )))