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blakesteele (original poster member #38044) posted at 10:31 AM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
I interviewed for, was offered, and accepted a promotion at work.....official yesterday!
This is a significant accomplishment for me at any point in my career, but made even more so by the following fact. 45 minutes before the formal interview 4 weeks ago I experienced a strong trigger.....my gut acted up, I checked my wife's laptop and I discovered my wife lurking OM FB page. this was something she had been doing over the past 2 years.
The events of that DD smelled and tasted sickenly similar to that of my first DD 2 years ago!
I post because
---some are following my journey and were rooting and praying for me on the promotion even before my 3rd DD.....and some DURING that trial and some right after it!
---to encourage others who read about fully committed wayward spouses but don't have one of their own, wondering how they could possibly grow while their spouse checks out and the pains continue. It can be done! Yes....to have a spouse as your cheerleader would be much nicer, but this is proof you can grow and succeed without it....and can actually do it, at times, in spite of their actions. Don't let the actions of others be a reason for your inactions.
---to thank God for what He has done. No way did I get "composed, stable and focused" on my own to handle the 2 hour, highly engaging interview all on my own. I felt his presence and it felt good!
---to thank ya'll for the support....both long standing from my original brat pack members and short-term critical-support on that day 4 weeks ago! I trusted this support would be there....and was pleasantly surprised at how instant and compassionate it flowed from you guys!
Is it weird to be grateful for that day and trigger? It was a tough day.....but a fruitful one. A bountiful harvest from so many different fields!!!!!
God is with us all.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 5:03 AM, July 12th (Saturday)]
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
Hatemyhusband ( member #41633) posted at 11:29 AM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
Great news. Love to read positive things happening to good people.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 2:27 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
Sweet!!! Great job! Congrats!!!
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:07 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
Congratulations! Best of luck in your new responsibilities.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
hopefull77 ( member #43221) posted at 3:22 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
me-BS him-WS
" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 3:33 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
Congratulations! Hard work rewarded. ... Good for you.
I hope you celebrate☆☆☆☆☆☆
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
Sunnydaysahead ( member #43756) posted at 3:37 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
musiclovingmom ( member #38207) posted at 4:15 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
So awesome Blake! I'm excited for this accomplishment for you!
blakesteele (original poster member #38044) posted at 4:22 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
Thanks guys! I knew you would be excited and supportive!!!!
Peace.
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 4:47 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
Fantastic news!!! I'm so happy for you!!
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 5:19 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
yay! Had a feeling all along... good job!
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 5:29 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
Congrats! Well earned, Blake. Really happy to hear the good news from you!
devasted30 ( member #39439) posted at 6:00 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!
blakesteele (original poster member #38044) posted at 6:13 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
Time Ticks On ( member #33772) posted at 6:58 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
FBW- 50
FWH-51
D-day- aug 16,2011
Married 25 years- together 27
What doesn't kill me, scars me.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 9:11 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
I was wondering what the news on the promotion was. Congratulations! That's wonderful news!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
iwillNOT ( member #40605) posted at 10:43 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 11:34 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
Congratulations! 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Arnold01 ( member #39751) posted at 12:01 AM on Sunday, July 13th, 2014
Congratulations! Enjoy the new role and have fun with whatever new challenges and career learning opportunities it brings you! I'm really happy for you.
Me: BW. Together 27y, M 24y
D-Day 1: June 2013
D-Day 2: December 2024
Divorced May 2025
HUM1021 ( member #6222) posted at 2:34 AM on Sunday, July 13th, 2014
Me: BS 34
Her: WS 33
M 5 years
dday with 1st OM 4/30/04 EA/PA
dday with 2nd OM 12/11/04 EA/PA
on the reconciliation rollercoaster
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