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Pass (original poster member #38122) posted at 4:00 AM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
After a great nine-day stay here, my boys went back to The Princess this afternoon. I did a post on facebook about how quiet the apartment suddenly is. About an hour after that, one of my music friends - who I didn't even know a year ago - texted me:
On my way over with my guitar. I have wine.
Turns out, that's what it's like to have friends: They notice when you need company, and they make sure you have it. And most importantly, they bring wine!
I had no idea what it was like to NOT be isolated from people who might actually be nice to me. My life is slowly finding a good place to be!
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
Angeles85 ( member #42107) posted at 4:12 AM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
I'm glad you have good friends Pass! You deserve them.
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 4:15 AM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 4:47 AM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
Isn't it wonderful? I love my friends so much and they have really stepped up for me too!
I am to the point now that I have become "that friend" for a few people in my life going through this roller coaster of emotions. I am so happy to give back!
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
Acer0112 ( member #43241) posted at 6:25 AM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
Wonderful!! That is so genuine.
I agree, friends that I haven't seen in years have genuinely asked to get together to be there for me,
One of them ironically saw WH with OW the other night, her email to me said, I hope he is being honest with you, you deserve the best and nothing less. It's a shock to my college friends as they all enjoyed WH and loved us as a couple.
D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
17yrs married, 23yrs together
Two kids in middle school
Divorced 10/2014
deena ( member #27275) posted at 7:27 AM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
It is good friends that boost your confidence back up and give you that warm feeling.
I am so glad when I finally told my close friends......and boy they sure stood up for me in a big way.
Enjoy your friends!!!!
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 2:41 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
LIKE!!!!!
If we had a like button, I'd be hitting it several times. 😊
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Pass (original poster member #38122) posted at 3:08 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
Thanks, y'all. I spend so much time complaining on here, that once in a while I like to tell the good stuff too.
I put up with The Princess isolating me from everyone except HER friends and family for years. Thanks to me finding out she was also a cheater, I found the strength to leave, and am discovering a whole new life. And I love it!
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 5:08 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
How amazing.
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 5:40 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
Very cool realization, Pass. Sounds like he's a great friend.
My friends drug me through the divorce when I was unable to walk on my own. They fed me, made me laugh, and listened to me cry. I have one friend from Italy that called and screamed at wxh in Italian because he was too pissed off to speak English. 
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
LifeIsBroken ( member #27071) posted at 2:47 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Like Williesmom, my friends carried me through this mess. It was like they came out of the woodwork and circled the wagons to make sure I survived the devastation. I learned I had friends I didn't even KNOW I had ! Their support was amazing and I DID SURVIVE infidelity, thanks to all of them and our two amazing daughters. Lean on your friends, Pass…. after all, would you not do the same for them ?
D-Day: 8/28/2009
BW: 59 @ D-Day XH: 60 @ D-Day Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
Beyond terror is freedom. (Agnes Martin)
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 3:13 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
When they are real, "Friends" is one of the few good F words there is!
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
careerlady ( member #16958) posted at 8:13 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
That's really cool! My family has carried me through but they are out of town. Have some friends but they all have toddlers and busy lives.... Happy for you!
Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI
Pass (original poster member #38122) posted at 3:15 PM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
Myname ( member #23138) posted at 3:42 PM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Great post. Made me 
That is the definition of a real friend.
DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 45
12-08-10: S
Divorced and moved on with my life.
jagged ( member #32317) posted at 3:47 PM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Damn. My musician friends never bring wine...they drink all of mine.
One foot in and one foot back
But it don't pay to live like that
So I cut the ties and I jumped the tracks
For never to return
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