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sunny58 ( member #43645) posted at 3:34 AM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
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Thank you for this post and for the responses from everyone here. I am in the final stage of divorcing my WH despite his efforts to R with me. He has claimed that he has changed. That he loves me. WH swears that he would do whatever it takes to keep me but I refused to even listen let alone consider staying married to him. He suggested and I did agree to go to MC, IC and we even met with our pastor. Despite all his efforts, I refused to give him a second chance or believe anything he said. My mind was set. No second chances. No way.
After reading the responses from this post I am now wondering if I should at least try. My attorney says I can stop the process at any time before we go to court. We have been married for 11 years and are empty nesters. This post has given me something to think about. I was so dead set on divorcing him for his betrayal that I never once considered making an effort to R. Now I just don’t know.
Divorce Final - 9/25/2014
"The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies. It comes from friends and loved ones."
StuckinBetween ( member #36402) posted at 3:53 AM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
Sunny - I hear what you are saying, longing to believe the promises and the swearing he will do everything to keep me. I vowed to D if there was a DDay2 and am now on DDay 3. I fear all he would get if he does all the things he promises to be for me, is just a broken lump. I doubt his words (obviously), but I also doubt my ability to get past all this. But I desperately don't want my world, my kids' world to fall apart - any more than it has. There is no good solution and at least for me, with serial cheating that I know has occurred from the very beginning of our relationship, I will never feel sure of any decision I make about this. i actually wish I could feel as much certainty as you had.
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