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I took mine off after we told the kids and I knew there was no going back.

I originally thought I'd wear them until D was final, but it realized it was just a formality at that point.

I cried and cried the day I took them off. It was hard.

Now it seems strange to see them sitting in my jewelry box. I will probably keep them and do something with the stones for my kids when they are older.

When I confronted XPOS at last OW's house and told him never to return to the marital home I went home and took them off...

Dday#2 took it off. Dday1 such a moron didn't believe affair happened. Anyway I laugh in between 1 and 2 I lost my ring playing tennis looked for it for an hour finally found but what a waste of an hour.

I wore it 15 months past the day I found out, right up until he emailed me to tell me that he was starting a new life with homewrecker whore and that our child would have a half-sibling.

Took mine off when I knew it was over. This was the conversation:

Her: "when is it ok to take the rings off?"

Me: "why, does it bother him?"

Her: "well, he asked"

Game Over. I took mine off right there, in front of her. I demanded hers. I sold them and used the money to pay off community debt.

The coldness of 'well he asked' still haunts me. It was about ten days after d day. Three or four days after I heard "I have no intention of breaking it off with him."

Oh, look. A palm tree.

I think I took it off a Dday, but while in reconciliation I put it back on. In 2009 I got in a fight with a table saw that broke my ring and cut open my hand. I still have the broken and bloodied ring. I never washed the blood off or fixed it. I think the ring is more symbolic in its current condition.

I took mine off Dday. She continued to wear her wedding band. I put mine back on a few days later because i wasn't ready to call it quits and i wasn't ready to have to explain it to my kids.

I had decided i would wear it until we were legally divorced. but after telling the kids, i just said to hell with it. it meant nothing to me so i took it off and haven't looked back.

Her: "well, he asked"

I've seen you post this several times and the motherfucking ice coldness never stops giving me the shivers. I'm sorry but what a piece of c*** of a woman (asterisks aren't mine).

[This message edited by SBB at 2:17 AM, August 2nd (Saturday)]

The day we told the kids...I wanted to on Dday but I knew my kids would notice.

Took mine off on DDay, then put them back on as we discussed R. Took them off again in November, 2013, as he was not following through with conditions for R. Have not, and will not put those rings back on again, as they are now a symbol of him breaking his vows. He continues to wear his daily, which infuriates me, and continues to remind me of how little they now mean. If we really do fully R, then new rings would be required.

I took mine off on DDay #1 - did it in front of him and told him they were a symbol of the vows he made to me of his love and fidelity all the days of his life - I couldn't wear them because they were another sign of his betrayal.

Now I look at them every day, cry, and miss the man that gave them to me...the one I will always love... but he disappeared on DDay #2... wish so very much that I had had a chance to say goodbye and tell him how very much I loved him for all the 28 years we were together.

I had planned on wearing until our D was final because I was still M. I however took it off the day my father was buried and will never wear it again.

The last act I watched between my father was him playing with her ring and smiling at her. He could no longer talk. It reminded me what the ring really symbolizes. The love and respect between two people. I realized I no longer had that and all I had was a pretty diamond cold and heartless like my stbxh. That made it easy to take off. I just wish the mark on my finger would go away. Anyone know how long that may take?

The night the truth FINALLY came out about the affair.

The moment I called the number on the bill and a woman answered it. I had been trying to get a hold of the bill for 2 months. Once I had the proof that he had been lying to me for over a year, even though I knew, and he knew that I was on to him.

My friends had commented that it's really weird that I'm wearing my wedding band still. I feel that it represents vows I took, including fidelity, and I intend to wear it as a representation of those vows for as long as I am married.

I can't wear my ring anymore due to the betrayal. I am either in R, S or D. Not sure yet but one thing for sure is I will never wear "that" ring again. If we survive this he can get me a new one. I am repulsed if I even look at my ring and it is a very pretty ring.

I took mine off about a month after D-day when I realized she wasn't as into R as I was. I would have put it back on had she actually made a real effort at R but she never did.

I have no idea where that ring is at this point nor do I care.

It was off and on during (false) R, then I took it off when we S and he moved out.

I sold the gold and kept the stones...assuming one day they would be a nice little nest egg or travel fund. I had some large stones in my "service award" pieces. (Every 5 years we bought a nice piece of jewelry for me. So I had 3 very nice pieces plus my wedding set).

I haven't sold them yet, and every now and then forget about them.

I removed mine when I filed. I know the marriage was done.

I have been struggling with this myself. I haven't been able to take mine off yet. We also have our wedding date tattooed on our ring finger so even when I take it off, I will have that.

It will be 3 months on the 14th that my husband walked away from our family. Maybe I will feel strong enough soon to take them off....