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It seems I may be doing things backwards.

Two oops, and an ‘eh, why bother,’ on day 23 of a usually clockwork 29 day cycle. When I saw my grandmother on day 27, she told me I had “a fat neck” and asked if I was pregnant. Today is day 33 and I’m still waiting. Tests so far have been negative. Waiting till Saturday to test again.

SO and I were planning to wait eight more months. Financial duckies would be in order, we’d get married, and then start trying. This mucks things up a bit, but we do both want children, so if it happens maybe it is meant to be. I turn 31 next month, and that is the age my oldest sister hit her fertility wall, so that has been worrying me.

My SO has been nonchalant about it. He doesn’t typically get worked up about things, especially not in the speculation phase. It is driving me bonkers! I don’t want to hear that things will be “fine” either way. I want them to be fantastic.

Someone tell me I’m not crazy for wanting this, and that things can still work out great if it doesn't happen now.

Girlie, you are going to make an AMAZING Mama, whether in nine and a half months, or in two years, or whenever it happens.

Try to relax - the waiting is killer! Once you know, you can plan, but until then.......you just have to wonder! So hard!

Thanks Ama I'm tearing up. So overwhelmed.

You're not crazy for wanting this, and things can still work out great if it doesn't happen now.

It seems I may be doing things backwards.

and that may just be the best way! Crossing fingers for you! And yes, things can be "fantastic" either way!!

My Piper came when I least expected her....was laid off from my job, no insurance, was on the pill, and STILL got pregnant by sperm donor! But, I was 32.... and SO ready to be a mom! So, I went for it! God was there for me every step of the way! I got a job offer 3 days after I found out I was preggo.....insurance 6 weeks later..... and had a happy and healthy baby girl who turned 2 this past Sunday! She is the absolute best thing that has ever happened to me and despite being her mommy and daddy..... I am so glad God blessed my life with her when he did! She gave me the strength to leave a toxic relationship, to get the inner strength to grow as a woman, a mom, and an individual. And, now we are a happy and functional family! She has a great and close relationship with my dad (Papu to her) and life is good! One day the right man will come along and hopefully give her the gift of a father figure but until then....us girls are doing alright!

You have one up on me! You have a loving SO who is ready to have kids with you! Either time will be amazing! The order doesn't matter....its all in how you perceive it! Perceive happy awesome bliss and it will be so!

Babies don't always come in schedule. We just arrange our lives to welcome them. You are going to be an amazing mom! We need to have another G2G soon, only this time it looks like we may have to get you a yummy, virgin drink!

Oh boy; oh boy; OH BOY!!! You are an amazing young woman and you'll make a wonderful mama (This doesn't even come close to the smile on my face right now)

If you spend your life planning your life, you'll never get anywhere. (((((Cresc)))))

Good luck!

Thanks guys! Still waiting.

We need to have another G2G soon, only this time it looks like we may have to get you a yummy, virgin drink!

We do! Did you see the thread SL started over in F&G? I think it's for October.

As for things not going according to planned, I had always thought I'd move near my sister with kids, and send my tot to the preschool where my other sister works. So this last month the one with kids announced she is planning to move to Hawaii, and the other is getting her masters and leaving day care. So, that stuff won't be happening

How exciting Crescita! Just waiting for your update.

We plan, God laughs.

Seriously sister, you will be great.

(although if it were me I'd be peeing on a stick twice a day until I got a positive result, or aunt flo arrived....I don't wait well. )

I don't wait well

I don't either. I took three tests already, but then realized, in order for me to be pregnant, I would have to have ovulated a week late (damn UTI), so technically my period isn't due until this Saturday. Now that it is getting closer, three more tests might be happening between now and then

Step away from the pee stick!

Well, definitely not pregnant. Boo hiss. Back to waiting for the stars to align.

Thanks again for all the support. Hopefully someday soon.

Sorry, sweetie. I hope your dreams are realized soon

(((Cres)))

Since you weren't actually trying, it may be time to evaluate if you should actively try, based on the excitement you felt.

(((and strength))))

Sorry to hear that. It sounds like you may be ready to try though!

Sorry Crescita

I agree with the others that it may be time to sit the boyfriend down and talk about this again. Timing is never perfect, after all.