Cookies are required for login or registration. Please read and agree to our cookie policy to continue.

Newest Member: youtookawaymyfriend

Divorce/Separation :
Csat (therapist for SA's) calls to validate Ex's confession

This Topic is Archived
default

Autumn22 ( member #41810) posted at 1:58 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

A good CSAT is worth their weight in gold (although I'm still waiting to find one IRL).

A bad CSAT will make your life with an SA even more hellish than you already thought possible.

This one doesn't sound so good...

Me: BW 48
Him: SA 44, multiple EAs, porn addiction, entered "recovery" in 2013 - no remorse, no empathy.
Married in 2000, divorcing

posts: 181   ·   registered: Dec. 28th, 2013
id 6901913
default

 risingfromashes (original poster member #3903) posted at 4:03 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

If this therapist is taking your X's statements as absolute reality, then she is about as useful/helpful a therapist as underwear in a snow storm.

Yes.

posts: 2148   ·   registered: Mar. 29th, 2004
id 6902032
default

Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 4:05 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

A "good" CSAT Includes regular polygraph screenings in their procedures, IMHO. As to the details, a discussion of compulsive behaviors, akin to gambling, shopping, other "behavior" addictions can be used to compare. I think older kids have a clear vision, unfortunately, of what it may be like to have an obsession with internet porn, and may have friends and acquaintances who spend more time than is healthy engaging in it's viewing.

Knowing about my family history of alcoholism didn't stop my kid from becoming an alcoholic. But the continuing attitude that porn, strip clubs, and infidelity is the norm rather than something to avoid encouraged me to make sure my kids knew the score. They were adult young men at disclosure. Even with no details I'm sure they filled in the blanks. And later,the three of us discussed the other pieces of the puzzle, why did I stay, what would happen next, etc. It worked for us.

Each family needs to do what is best for them. And undoubtedly, it is the sober parent that is the best judge of that path.

Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.

posts: 8533   ·   registered: Sep. 18th, 2009   ·   location: In my head
id 6902034
This Topic is Archived
Cookies on SurvivingInfidelity.com®

SurvivingInfidelity.com® uses cookies to enhance your visit to our website. This is a requirement for participants to login, post and use other features. Visitors may opt out, but the website will be less functional for you.

v.1.001.20250404a 2002-2025 SurvivingInfidelity.com® All Rights Reserved. • Privacy Policy