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Gipper ( member #32232) posted at 11:45 AM on Monday, February 22nd, 2016
Well I would offer you strength, but you don't seem to need it. Lol. Keep your foot on the gas, friend. Your dad would be proud.
yearsofpain25 (original poster member #42012) posted at 9:23 PM on Tuesday, March 29th, 2016
Thanks again everyone.
Just a quick update as I heard back from my lawyer today. There was supposed to be a court appearance but it was rescheduled for late April. Haven't heard back as to why, but not sure I care why as it just keeps step momster from my father's estate that much longer. It's another victory!! 
My lawyer has some subpoenas out there for information that will expose step momster. When the time comes step momster's actions will be revealed. That's not going to be pretty as I know it's one of the things she fears the most and her actions will become public record. This is not so much a revenge thing as I will not be keeping family secrets a secret. What my father had to endure was so despicable and horrific that I have no words for it. I will let the record speak for itself.
yop
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 9:59 PM on Tuesday, March 29th, 2016
Woot woot! Yep, maybe stepmomster will die before it is all settled if you can drag it out long enough. Wouldn't that be a sorry situation?
Sending you thoughts of peace and serenity, yop.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 10:01 PM on Tuesday, March 29th, 2016
Keep fighting the good fight!! ((((yop))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 1:23 AM on Wednesday, March 30th, 2016
Glad to hear that you're keeping the screws turned on step monster. I am eagerly awaiting your court day.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
nme1 ( member #44360) posted at 2:17 AM on Wednesday, March 30th, 2016
You are instilling the consequences that your father never could. Great job! 
Me: BS
Him: WS
M 16 yrs 2 x DS
D-Day 6th March 2014
Baseballmom ( member #50304) posted at 2:20 AM on Wednesday, March 30th, 2016
Me: BW 45
Him: WH 45 Affair with FCOW
2 sons
DDay - 12-14-14
Happily reconciled
yearsofpain25 (original poster member #42012) posted at 12:07 AM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
BEEP BEEP!!!
More like an air horn on a cruise ship
Finally. What I had been waiting for was set into motion. Like I said for me this has not been about the money. Today I received a copy of the subpoena for the police records that documents their visits to my father's home. DV... perpetrated by stepmomster. Some real nasty shit that stepmomster does not want to get out. My father did not want this info to get out due to his embarrassment and would never press charges. I guarantee stepmomster's lawyer didn't even know. This is the kind of shit stepmomster wanted to take to her grave because it shows exactly the type of person she truly is. What happened, and only a fraction of what my father had to endure will become public record. Stepmomster will no longer be able to hide what happened at home, at the hospital while my father was in ICU, and at hospice in his final moments.
Fuck this bitch. THIS is what this case is about for me. For speaking up for my father and righting a wrong. Sticking up for my father for when he couldn't is what this is about. Me finding my voice and sticking up for myself after dealing with a life time of shit from my mother and stepmomster is what this is about. Revenge? Absofuckinglutely. That too. All of it.
Copies of the subpoena were sent to me today as well as stepmomster's lawyer. Stepmomster is literally going to shit when she finds out what this is really all about. She just thinks I'm after the money and waiting for my payday. Surprise bitch. She fought like crazy to keep this shit from her family and anyone else she knows. Stepmomster cannot hide this. THIS is why I seized this opportunity to expose her for who she truly is. The best part, she did it all to herself and I don't have to lift a finger.
yop
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 12:47 AM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
Thank you for being a good man.
You are a good son.
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 12:52 AM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
I love a good ending! 
I hope your stepmomster gets everything she deserves!
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/2024
Chicky ( member #18622) posted at 1:07 AM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
Maybe I'm missing something...
...subpoena for the police records that documents their visits to my father's home. DV... perpetrated by stepmomster. Some real nasty shit that stepmomster does not want to get out.
If there are records to subpoena, then why doesn't everyone already know? It's already on the record.
Givers need to set limits because takers never do. THIS GIVER DID and because I stood my ground, we are happily RECONCILED!
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 1:16 AM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
Great news, YOP!!!!! Keep us informed. I am living vicariously through you. I hope that one day I can expose the Viper to the world.
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 2:08 AM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
Oh, to be a fly on the wall, when her lawyer tells her, exactly, with exacting detail, what documents have now become VERY public record. Your step-monster truly fills me with loathing.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
LifeIsBroken ( member #27071) posted at 5:00 AM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
Cheering for you, YOP. Love it when people have to finally face the reality of what they did, what they brought upon themselves all by themselves. You can bet your Pop is cheering you on, as well, voicing what he could not. (((( ))))
D-Day: 8/28/2009
BW: 59 @ D-Day XH: 60 @ D-Day Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
Beyond terror is freedom. (Agnes Martin)
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 5:03 AM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
Awesome show, YOP. I'm really glad you're sticking up for your Dad like this It must be so empowering.
Crushed7 ( member #41129) posted at 6:24 AM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
Me-BH
Her-WW
Last DDay-2012 (several month EA/PA)
Married 30+ years
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 6:43 AM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
monstermash ( member #51572) posted at 7:45 AM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
GOOD ON YOU.
You can do this.
I freakin hate bullies. I lived with one for a very long time myself. The cops went to the pub with my stepmonster(father) and were totally seduced by his lies & so they gave my mother bad information and she ended up not being able to submit her evidence. It bugs me to this day.
Please get justice! :)
nme1 ( member #44360) posted at 12:02 PM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
Time for a little Salt'n'Pepa.....
"What a man, what a man, what a man, what a mighty good man...."
This is now officially your theme song.
Me: BS
Him: WS
M 16 yrs 2 x DS
D-Day 6th March 2014
yearsofpain25 (original poster member #42012) posted at 7:21 PM on Friday, April 8th, 2016
Thanks everyone. This definitely feels good and right. The only part that feels a little off is that I'm not one much for revenge. But still... The amount of damage this person did to someone I love 
Chicky, I responded in pm as I didn't want to give up too much publicly here.
yop
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
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