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yearsofpain25 (original poster member #42012) posted at 10:08 PM on Thursday, December 17th, 2015
NME1 Roughly 13 hours in time zones away. Yep it will make it there easy.
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 10:15 PM on Thursday, December 17th, 2015
I'm taping my windows. That's gonna be loud.
Good for you brother, good for you!
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 10:17 PM on Thursday, December 17th, 2015
I think everyone should have their VARs on, so the shriek can be captured around the globe in symphonic surround sound.
Great job, yop! 
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 3:46 AM on Friday, December 18th, 2015
Yes!! Oh you KNOW I'm thrilled for you! This is the kind of news I've been wanting to hear!
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
UpInTheAirNow ( member #37777) posted at 2:28 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2015
Good for you YOP.
I hope everything works out in your favor.
I hear the vroom vroom vroom of the bus pulling up.
ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 3:46 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2015
Hi yearsofpain25,
Have not been on this site as much lately, and am just seeing this thread for the first time.
First of all, please accept my condolences on the passing of your father.
I am so glad that you will have this opportunity for healing, that you have gotten to this point where you feel strong in using your voice for yourself & your father!
You are inspiring me! As you know, I have some similar circumstances and anticipate a similar scenario. I will be following this story closely.
Best of luck in achieving your intention!
Happy Holidays and hope you have a GREAT New Year!
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
CanoeVA ( member #46071) posted at 3:50 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2015
Thanks again for the well wishes everyone!
Beep! Beep!
That's the sound of me pulling up the Karma bus. I was notified earlier that my petition was filed in court today and notice was set to step momster. That means she will get the notice either tomorrow or Sat. Start listening for that God awful sound her head is going to make.
I have a shit eating grin on my face right now. Win or lose I already won. She is going to literally flip her shit that she is not going to get "her money" this year or any time soon and that in itself is victory. Score 1 for Yopper's Dad.
Happy Holidays Step Momster!!
yop
Me = BH
fWW- 2014 affair most of year; EA Feb/March became PA April until DDay
Married 1986
DDay- 12/08/14
2 adult children, mid 20s
OM = Wife's best friend's brother
We're both working on R
Furious1 ( member #42970) posted at 3:55 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2015
And here I was cleaning my oven for next week when I should have been outside taping my windows!
Now I'm listening for the shriek that can be heard around the world. 
BW (me): 46
2 adult kids
D-day: 10/4/13.
Divorced
Neverwudaguessed ( member #41884) posted at 6:14 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2015
Just saw this; haven't been on so regularly recently. You must feel so empowered by this! You are not just fighting for your father, but for you too, and you both deserve to have this situation finally righted. Great step for healing. You really deserve that and so much more.
Did we know that you got your brother's ashes prior to this? Forgive me, cause if I already knew this then I definitely shared with you how relieved I am for you that she longer has them there with her and they are where they belong. Hope I am not being redundant here...
Standing up to her is great growth no matter what the outcome, but boy will it be even sweeter when it all goes south for her. Keep us posted!
BW: 46 Me
WH:50
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 14 1/2 years ago for 2 or 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 15
DD 13
yearsofpain25 (original poster member #42012) posted at 7:09 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2015
Did we know that you got your brother's ashes prior to this? Forgive me, cause if I already knew this then I definitely shared with you how relieved I am for you that she longer has them there with her and they are where they belong. Hope I am not being redundant here...
No worries! I'm not expecting everyone to keep up with my "adventures" or "stories". I did post about getting my brother's ashes over the summer while my father was in ICU. I think step momster was trying to play nice as she knows she wasn't looking so hot in anyone's eyes at the time. She was playing nice that day and offered them up without me having to ask. That was a huge relief for me as that is truly the only thing I wanted. There was nothing to hold over me after that. I had a hell of a time keeping the peace at the hospital and then hospice but between my step sister and I, we managed to pull it off for our father somehow. My father passed with just me by his side...as it should have been.
yop
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 7:36 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2015
I hope step momster's head literally blows up. Oh, to be a fly on the wall when she reads that notice!
Glad you are doing this, yop. Even it is just to be a thorn in her side. These NPD's expect everyone to just roll over for them. Unfortunately many do as it is just easier. Don't make it easy for the step momster.
I can imagine your dear father is and was so proud of you, yop. I am so happy that you were the one by his side at his time of passing. A person who truly loved him. I know that I want the people who truly love me to be by side when I pass, can't ask for much more than that.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
abbycadabby ( member #27428) posted at 8:53 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2015
This is awesome to read. ::fist bump:: Can't wait to hear how it turns out.
yearsofpain25 (original poster member #42012) posted at 9:00 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2015
Did ya'll hear it??
I can't go into particulars but safe to say they noticed that I filed.
yop
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 9:01 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2015
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
earthangel ( member #44357) posted at 9:11 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2015
Glad to hear that Santa made an early Christmas delivery for you !!!!
Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it’s bad - it's experience.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 9:19 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2015
Do you hear what I hear?
A shriek, a growl, some sobbing and a howl,
That carries on the wind, that carries on the Karma wind!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 9:24 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2015
So that's what that was.I think the earth moved a little too!
Wishing you the best brother.
Damn fine Festivus gift, damn fine.
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
nme1 ( member #44360) posted at 4:30 AM on Wednesday, December 23rd, 2015
Is that what that horrendous screech was?
Me: BS
Him: WS
M 16 yrs 2 x DS
D-Day 6th March 2014
CanoeVA ( member #46071) posted at 6:51 PM on Wednesday, December 23rd, 2015
God bless ya, yop
Me = BH
fWW- 2014 affair most of year; EA Feb/March became PA April until DDay
Married 1986
DDay- 12/08/14
2 adult children, mid 20s
OM = Wife's best friend's brother
We're both working on R
Furious1 ( member #42970) posted at 9:07 PM on Wednesday, December 23rd, 2015
That poor little muffin. I've got a spare tube of superglue if she needs to put her head back together. Nah. On second thought, let her buy her own superglue. Or better yet, gorilla glue.
BW (me): 46
2 adult kids
D-day: 10/4/13.
Divorced
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