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Phenix70 ( member #50555) posted at 4:52 AM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
Freaking awesome story!!
I love reading stories when Karma comes in to dish out what's been coming.
I hope you get your day in court soon & get to see your SM lose her shit in public.
Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 8:40 AM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
Good for you. In the end, all you really have are the principles you stood on. Your Dad couldn't handle standing up to her but that doesn't mean he didn't want it done. Looking forward to reading how this goes.
"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson
Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 8:41 AM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
Oops.
[This message edited by Tearsoflove at 2:49 AM, December 11th (Friday)]
"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 9:53 AM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
Wow!
Good for you Yop.
You've got 2 lawyers and fifty thousand S.I.ers onside!
Thunderbirds are go.
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
earthangel ( member #44357) posted at 10:06 AM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
Awesome !!
Fight the good fight, indeed !!
Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it’s bad - it's experience.
nme1 ( member #44360) posted at 12:09 PM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
Keep at it YOP, you got this. 
Me: BS
Him: WS
M 16 yrs 2 x DS
D-Day 6th March 2014
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 12:34 PM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
Everything about this sounds suspicious. I'm glad you have a decent lawyer....what an awful thing to deal with on top of your father's passing. I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope she gets exposed for what she is.
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 2:10 PM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
I love it and am here for it! Looking forward to updates! Hope your father's voice is heard...
44
Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
#BlackLivesMatter
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 2:17 PM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
Nice! File and stay NC. Let the lawyers sort it out.
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 2:29 PM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
YOP, you may want to limit what you say here. There will likely be discovery in which you'll be asked if you've social media and then you'll be asked if you've posted and then you'll have to point them here.
Or, they may find it another way. Do not reveal your game plan.
Also, I think, don't go back and edit it out of existence -or- if you do, keep an original copy of the thread up to that point.
Good luck, btw.
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
CanoeVA ( member #46071) posted at 4:32 PM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
Good luck w/ it, YOP.
Me = BH
fWW- 2014 affair most of year; EA Feb/March became PA April until DDay
Married 1986
DDay- 12/08/14
2 adult children, mid 20s
OM = Wife's best friend's brother
We're both working on R
yearsofpain25 (original poster member #42012) posted at 10:23 PM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
Wow. Thanks for all of the support everyone.
I hear you loud and clear devoted man. The stuff I'm keeping close to my chest is the real ammo.
Also, I did talk about this in IC this past Mon night. My IC was proud of me. In the past I would have just ignored this and took the path of least resistance. After all, that's what I had to do growing up. Not rock the boat and stay out of the line of fire. Somewhere along the way that started to change for me just a bit when I exposed my mother's A when I was 16. In the past my IC and I have talked about how that was a defining moment for me in my life and how I was slowly over a long period of time build off of that and find my own voice. I continue to find that voice and I'm using it.
I will continue to keep you guys updated but you have to know that this is going to be a very looooooooooooooooooooooong drawn out process. Lawyer said it could take a few years. Which I'm fine with because I have patience and this is not costing me much monetarily or emotionally.
Thanks again everyone.
yop
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
Gettingoveritall ( member #46722) posted at 10:25 PM on Friday, December 11th, 2015
Good luck YOP!
I'm pulling for you.
devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 8:03 PM on Saturday, December 12th, 2015
That "May take a few years" could be both a blessing and a curse. vD
I'm of the opinion that "crazy has infinite energy". I'm also of the opinion that crazy rarely has infinite patience, especially the NPD type.
IOW, this whole long, drawn out process may really, really stick in her craw since she's not getting the "win" immediately.
Having dealt with those types before I can honestly say that I hope that it does... 
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
funnelcakes ( member #45249) posted at 2:22 AM on Sunday, December 13th, 2015
"They see me YOPping/ They hatin' "
You are so transformed in the past year+ that I've been on these boards. I see so much change in you, friend.
Super excited about hearing about where the YOPlets will go to college!
d-day in August of 2014, when I was SAHM 34 weeks pregnant with kid #3
A year of incontinent alcoholic cheater word salad and shitweasely blameshifting during R/S
I got a job and busted a move with three kids to a 1BR apt
D final 4/27/17.
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 3:09 AM on Sunday, December 13th, 2015
Sending you mojo, yop. I agree with the previous poster who hopes that your stepmonster gets everything that she deserves!
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Stilllovesadly ( member #49156) posted at 4:20 AM on Sunday, December 13th, 2015
I'm so proud of you, YOP, and know your dad is with you in this fight. you have an army of us with you in your battle and I think you can feel the support here from ALL of us!
You go get 'em!
forgivingishard ( member #44848) posted at 8:26 PM on Sunday, December 13th, 2015
In doing this I hope you are able to do some real healing and find PEACE. It is awesome that you are standing up for yourself (& for your father). Please just remember that bullies don't fight fair. It is very likely that this awful woman will lash out at you and try to hurt you. You will need to be strong over the long haul to be able to do this. Devotedman posted some good advice. Strength to you.
Me: BW early 40's
Him: FWH early 40's
Married 16 years; Together 19 years
3 Children (10, 8 & a baby) who deserve better
LTA - MOW
DD 1/31/14, TT 3/?/14, TT 11/27/14
yearsofpain25 (original poster member #42012) posted at 10:00 PM on Thursday, December 17th, 2015
Thanks again for the well wishes everyone!
Beep! Beep!
That's the sound of me pulling up the Karma bus. I was notified earlier that my petition was filed in court today and notice was set to step momster. That means she will get the notice either tomorrow or Sat. Start listening for that God awful sound her head is going to make.
I have a shit eating grin on my face right now. 
Win or lose I already won. She is going to literally flip her shit that she is not going to get "her money" this year or any time soon and that in itself is victory. Score 1 for Yopper's Dad.
Happy Holidays Step Momster!! 
yop
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
nme1 ( member #44360) posted at 10:03 PM on Thursday, December 17th, 2015
I'm all ears. Surely a shriek that colossal will carry down my way.
Me: BS
Him: WS
M 16 yrs 2 x DS
D-Day 6th March 2014
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