HAPPYMAN
The problem lies within your wife.
She cheated. She has lied. And she really wants to keep intact her "image".
The image of wife, mother and good woman.
I agree. OM has his own hands full right now. He has a wife that could be in Hollywood looks wise who could replace him easily if she wanted to. With her earning no income and kids, his lifestyle changes dramatically if he does not reconcile.
My WW, not sure about image other than image to me. No one but my brother and a few girlfriends know anything. Her "image" will take a big hit if she fails the test. She left about three hours ago for airport and will be home tomorrow. then we both are here this week.
Following your advice, the focus is on her, not OM.
INDEPENDENT VIEW
The polygraph is Friday afternoon this week. Most of the folks responding think the idea of multiple tests by DIFFERENT examiners is a waste, so right now it is one test. Since these questions are yes/no, there is one big question and we all know what that one is. A bad answer to that one almost makes the others unimportant. Not really! That was stupid to say.
LORD HAS A PLAN
I have a full gym with weights, five cardio machines, TV, the whole works in my basement. I have not stopped working out. It's in my blood.
I took the meds a short while. Not on anything now. I only drink socially. Have not gone near any booze other than a business lunch or two.
I have never smoked, and that includes weed, and I have never done any drugs.
So here is the plan.
She will be back home by 2 or 3 tomorrow afternoon. I am going to take her out for a nice dinner, not to lull her to sleep but to hope that that will encourage her to come forward BEFOREHAND with anything I do not know right now. I believe I got it with OM. I am looking for TT or any details she has for whatever reason not disclosed. She has answered a LOT of questions, some more than once.
Don't worry. No matter what she says or does the test goes on unless she refuses to go. Not likely, but like I said before, I know anything can happen.
OBS knows about what is happening Friday, and I am sure she will be blowing up my phone. Obviously, her main interest is if they have communicated in any way since being caught. There have been e mails I have seen on her company e mail that both of them are copied on as are all the others at their level, but no responses either way. yes, I am aware the could go underground if they are stupid enough to do that.
I will say that if there was something I do not know that she is hiding, that she is sure not showing it with worry about Friday. That is encouraging to me because as I said she is high strung, volatile, Type A, and that does not seem conducive to being Mrs Cool Cucumber.
I have thought a little about therapy, but i am not there yet. Right now, my inclination is I would only do MC, not IC. From what I have read here, a lot of times IC amounts to the therapist getting one side of the story, and on top of that I have no real idea what they actually say because it is "protected". If we go that route, I want to hear every fucking word from both WW AND the MC. Last thing I need is some idiot IC giving her stupid advice and me being clueless about it until something blows up.
