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FaithFool, Does that guy get bonus points for using the words straight forward so many times in one sentence?

Gotta love a scammer with a thesaurus. Swoon.

I just love this thread. While I have been in a R for over a year now (yes from OLD), I still remember all the fun I had scanning profiles.

That one actually messaged me. I haven't looked at it yet.

Finally have a story for you....

So I have been messaging this guy for a few days on OLD and we agreed to text. Long story short, he sends me a selfie. It is an in the mirror selfie . Then I notice the ring on his left hand I start to see red and am reminded/triggered by my ex's multiple infidelity. I decide not to message back. Meanwhile he is sending me multiple texts. After work, I text my girlfriend to tell her what happened. She tells me: " you owe that guy a big apology!!"

Huh??? She informs me that the ring on the left is an optical illusion from the mirror. I checked it out when I got home and she is right? I apologized profusely to the guy, even called him at his request. The date is on for Saturday with me feeling just a tad sheepish.

[This message edited by CharliB at 9:37 PM, February 28th (Wednesday)]

I went on first date with ring guy ( lol).

It turned out spectacularly well. It was as if the planets were all lining up

We went to a restaurant in a very visible place ( busy restaurant) in the town where he lives nearby. He is 20 minutes away. We both ordered steak medium rare with baked potato and salad with balsamic. Turns out we like a lot of the same food. He behaved as a perfect gentleman ( almost). He snuck in a few well timed kisses. I am likely seeing him again today/tonight, as my kids are with my EX until tomorrow.

Update on Ring guy:

Things are going well. We are continuing to see each other. He is so far respecting my wishes to abstain from sex until I am married again He is really wanting a long term relationship and tells me I am worth waiting for and I am

Another catfish today.

"Hi Pretty,

You just caught my attention when reading your profile..A lovely one you have there and I will love to know you.I feel your existence as similar to my own, with many ideals and interests in common, I would like to get acquainted.

Well I am new to this site and hope to meet a woman I can share my thought and feeling with. And I will say,We attract love by the emotions we display, we retain love by the emotions we possess.

Hope to hear from you.

Mr Catfish."

Anyone who has worked in typesetting and graphic design knows the old Loripsum placeholder text block trick, so I decided to use that to respond.

That should keep him busy for awhile...

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[This message edited by FaithFool at 12:42 AM, July 13th (Friday)]

I have been on OLD for about a year and have notice three men who have the same profile blurb. Word for word. I suspect that it's likely some catfishing scam. All three were well educated and professionally employed, divorced for three years. I mentioned to the second one that I spoke with that his profile seemed really familiar and he messaged back that he was new. We texted for several days and then I mentioned a telephone scam at work where phone numbers were being hijacked from China and he ghosted me. He's still on the website. Looking at profiles yesterday, I came across #3. Even if it is just a lack of originality, not taking the chance.

The best way to find out is to do an image search on Google.

This one was using pics of an architect in NYC that he got from a LinkedIn profile.

I spent a lot of time on Tinder a while ago.

My favorite is matching with a younger guy who said that he liked women who knew German. I took a couple of semesters of German in college.

Well, sarcastic silly me was chatting with him and I pull out the Top Secret movie joke (1984 movie starring Val Kilmer), "I know a little German. He's sitting right over there!"

Guy did not get my humor and immediately unmatched me, LOL!

How do you do a goggle search on photos from OLD?

Well, this story is from last year..

I was in shotgun mode and spamming messages in hopes of a hit.. I get a response..

We message, then text for a few days.. then delves more into her personal life.. that her "ex" be stalking her online and that she closed all social media accounts.. etc.. I was like ok, whatever..

Then while on the phone with her one day, I mentioned something I posted on FB.. She wanted to see it and said she might log in to account to view it..

I was at home, so sitting in front of the computer I searched for her right then.. and find her and the profile says "engaged".. So I downloaded a pic of her and this guy.. and sent it to her.. asking how come that was not mentioned.. Her first initial response was.. "Where did you get that?".. after I told her, she ghosted...

I searched her again a few months ago.. She apparently had a kid.. and is still with the guy in the pic I saw.. smh..

Ahhh, LilBlackCat, don't try to pull a fast one on a BS. We're like our own private CIA.

Last year I had a domestic violence victim walk into my building at work. She had a serious accusation and was certainly in danger, but she chickened out and wanted to leave without giving us any info. All we knew was what street she lived on, and her husband worked in law enforcement. No names, no house number, nothing else.

Within three minutes I had her husband's Facebook page up on my desk computer, names of all family, DOB's, House address, etc. My colleagues were amazed. It was child's play for me. I couldn't even be proud of myself because of how I acquired the skills. It was like whah whah whaaaahhh.....

[This message edited by WhoTheBleep at 3:00 PM, July 16th (Monday)]

^^ Oh dam.. Nice one tho!

To do a photo search, take a screen capture or download the picture to your computer.

Go to Google, click on the word "images" in the top right corner.

Click on the camera icon in the search bar.

Upload the pic. It'll tell you if it pops up anywhere else online.

First message from a very strange looking man called Peter: ‘Hello do you want a date soon’? And they say romance is dead.....