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And I just got some Happy Thanksgiving wishes...

Because my phone notifies me when it has blocked someone's text. With a big, happy !bong! sort of sound. And then makes me unlock it to see who it blocked. Which is more trouble than glancing at the name and then swiping right to get the notification off of the screen.

Damn..... she's hooked on you!!!

Have you plainly told her you don't want to communicate with her? Like point blank said "don't contact me"?

k9

That's a good question. I honestly do not remember the last conversation that we had to that level of detail. I do know that I haven't communicated since late February/early March of 2017.

March through end of November. That's nine months of NC. Somehow at this point I don't see an NC statement helping any, you know?

Do you see it differently?

Since you DIDN'T tell her you didn't want any more contact with her, she could be hoping that you would be willing to give the relationship another try.

Maybe she's not dated much and is pretty clueless when it comes to non-verbal signals.

Or maybe she's a bunny-boiler.

k9

She may also be one of those people who collects phone numbers to text people. You could be one a 100 people she reaches out to on a semi-regular basis and she may just not get it when you don’t respond? (Trying to give her the benefit of the doubt here)

Text her back and tell her NOT to contact you again.

Pardon me if I’m off base but you seem to make excuses anytime anyone suggests you go hardline with this obvious whackadoodle. You seem to be hung up on YOU being NC yet it’s allowing her to reach out sporadically to you since you have not told her in definitive terms that you don’t want to hear from her EVER AGAIN.

The way I see it, you can keep her from contacting you or you can sit back and enjoy the ego kibble you seem to be getting. Again, sorry if I’m misreading your reasons for not totally blocking her but surely you can find yourself a friendly geek to manage blocked number notifications if you don’t want to know she sent you a text or called. She can text you a thousand times and you wouldn’t know it if you choose to really let the bunny boiler go. And if she’s that dangerous that you “need” to keep tabs on her contacting you, then you need to take real action. Jmho.

[This message edited by Brentwood at 2:54 AM, November 25th (Saturday)]

I realize I'm entering this conversation way late but I'd like to offer another perspective on it all.

I might be totally off base but this is my perspective. My XWH totally shocked me by sleeping with his arms around me one night and moving halfway across the country the next day and won't acknowledge that I exist. We were married for 45 years so my situation is pretty extreme and maybe I'm oversensitive. But I can relate to this woman; maybe she's like me and wondering what the H--- happened and why. What did she do wrong? Why the sudden dismissal of her? And why the attempt to cut her out of your life with a razor blade? Is there a reason you can't keep a casual relationship of answering a text once every 6 months or so? Was she THAT awful?

As I read the things you wrote and the other posters responses, I was imagining my XWH posting about me and having all his buddies chime in about how he did the right thing and how awful I am/was. But the thing that gets me the most is the inference that I'm some sort of pathetic creature who doesn't know when to let go. Believe me, I'm trying to let go. It would help a lot if I understood any of what happened and knew why it happened. I have lot of theories and lots of ideas but they just keep swirling around in my head and it's about making me crazy trying to understand.

Maybe you'd do her a giant favor by sending her a text and explaining why you did it and that your M.O. is NC.