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devotedman (original poster member #45441) posted at 4:50 AM on Wednesday, October 18th, 2017
Yeah, she seems to have some issues. He said, minimizingly. :-/
I think that I'll start keeping the texts...
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 11:02 PM on Wednesday, October 18th, 2017
Probably not a bad idea to keep them. Just to be safe. Hopefully you will never need them.
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
WornDown ( member #37977) posted at 3:37 AM on Thursday, October 19th, 2017
[This message edited by WornDown at 9:39 PM, October 18th (Wednesday)]
Me: BH (50); exW (49): Way too many guys to count. Three kids (D, D, S, all >20)Together 25 years, married 18; Divorced (July 2015)
I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 6:04 PM on Saturday, October 21st, 2017
Well DM, you obviously are the type of person one just can't forget....... 
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
devotedman (original poster member #45441) posted at 12:49 AM on Monday, October 23rd, 2017
Hey, that's supposed to be a good thing, right? Right?!?
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
devotedman (original poster member #45441) posted at 7:53 PM on Tuesday, November 14th, 2017
Just logging this. Perhaps I'm someone's horrible warning...
Anyway, got a communication that someone had died. Then another to ask whether I had gotten the first one or not.
Boys and girls, sometimes NC just isn't enough...
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 8:57 PM on Tuesday, November 14th, 2017
Wow. This chick isn't giving up, is she? It must have been your dreamy not love making that got her hooked. My new name for you is "Captain Hook."
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
devotedman (original poster member #45441) posted at 9:42 PM on Tuesday, November 14th, 2017
Sadly, the concept of "giving up" does not seem to be in her go-to repertoire.
I want to stay NC. I don't want to have a lawyer send letters because that does not seem quite NC to me.
It seems that I'm stuck by my desires, stuck between Scylla and Charybdis.
Which is, of course, not where any good Captain desires to be!
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 1:49 AM on Wednesday, November 15th, 2017
For me, blocking was my best friend.
For a while I was afraid to block, it made me feel safe to know if I was on his radar. It was a false sense of security. It meant nothing because I was on his radar when he was bored or lonely or drunk. It gave me no insight as to what he was really thinking or if I were safe.
The one thing it did, before I blocked, even though I did not reply, it caused me stress. That was the only thing it did. It was not productive or positive in any way. It only caused me more anxiety and ruminating.
I would suggest block her. Build those walls and hopefully she will get bored. If not, most likely you will never know and it will just fade away for you.
You already know that she is not quite "normal" in this regard. Will more proof of this help you in any way?
Just my view from afar. 
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 7:27 PM on Thursday, November 16th, 2017
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
devotedman (original poster member #45441) posted at 2:52 AM on Friday, November 17th, 2017
Blocking on my phone means calls go directly to voice mail and texts make no !Bing! noise when they come in.
Regardless, now blocked because I got a call and a voice mail today. Have not returned the call or listened to the voice mail.
I wonder if the water for the bunny is hot yet?
[This message edited by devotedman at 8:53 PM, November 16th, 2017 (Thursday)]
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 4:19 AM on Friday, November 17th, 2017
Watch out for that shark Captain. It appears she continues to circle your boat. When you hear the ticking you will know she is close.
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
Ironstorm ( new member #55646) posted at 11:43 AM on Friday, November 17th, 2017
Ba-domp, Ba-domp, Ba-domp, Ba-domp, domp, domp, domp, domp, domp, domp, domp, domp, domp, domp.....
You're gonna need a bigger boat...
[This message edited by Ironstorm at 5:49 AM, November 17th (Friday)]
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 6:36 PM on Friday, November 17th, 2017
Oh sweet mother of mercy DM.....
You really ARE unforgettable.
Can you move???
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
devotedman (original poster member #45441) posted at 7:07 PM on Friday, November 17th, 2017
DM puts on a coy smile, then straightens his tie and adjusts his cuffs in the best Pierce Brosnan or Daniel Craig fashion.
"Yes, I am quite unforgettable," he says, fixing his subject with a steely gaze.
I told a work-mate that if, some day, I wake up dead that they should tell the cops to check my texts from ex, who lives in y.
Prudence, I'm Tommy...
ba-hahahahahahaha... oh my, that was funny. Tho' I'd not give Tuppence for it.
ba-hahahaha... I did it _again_! Oh, I slay me!
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
nothisfriend ( member #53171) posted at 7:12 PM on Friday, November 17th, 2017
Me: BS 50 (at the time) Him: WH 53 (at the time) D-Day: 10/25/15 Married: 28 years. One son, age 18 (at the time)
D final 2016 REMARRIED to a marvelous guy on 4/22/23
devotedman (original poster member #45441) posted at 7:18 PM on Friday, November 17th, 2017
I realized that I ignored k9's question.
Technically, I could move. It would involve quitting my place of employment (which she knows), selling a house or two, packing up and moving out of state at least two states in any direction due to family she has in surrounding areas.
Or buying a very small island and relying on the good-will of passing ships to survive.
Or changing my name to Jorge Rasputin and moving to New Zealand.
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 6:02 PM on Saturday, November 18th, 2017
Hey Jorge!!!!
Option B....move to NZ.
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
welcome14 ( member #26741) posted at 12:18 AM on Sunday, November 19th, 2017
Nothing scintillating to add here, just that I thought that Tuppence thing was brilliant. I love Agatha Christie....
Bs- me
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
devotedman (original poster member #45441) posted at 1:23 PM on Sunday, November 19th, 2017
Thanks for noticing that. 
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
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