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william ( member #41986) posted at 8:26 AM on Sunday, August 13th, 2017
considering her a shes lucky you want to have sex with her at all. alot lose all desire.
me - bh
her - lara01
from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA
??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys
MidnightRun ( member #59434) posted at 4:04 PM on Sunday, August 13th, 2017
I agree.
I immediately lost all desire for sex after dday. To me, my xww became little more than public property once she allowed someone else to penetrate her.
I viewed her as a library book, available to anyone with the right card.
I literally felt dirty when thinking about sex with WW. Hell, even kissing was off the table--and, at times, it was difficult to even look at her.
Divorce was the only option.
[This message edited by MidnightRun at 10:39 AM, August 13th (Sunday)]
Aabbccdd (original poster member #58297) posted at 5:21 PM on Sunday, August 13th, 2017
For me it has greatly depended on weither or not the affair was on my mind and the effort fww was putting in. i have had times where I couldn't enjoy sex then others were it was great. And even one where I wasn't in the mood and fww did the work and it was great.
We started having sex again a few weeks after d day. Then we stopped for almost 3 weeks during the trip. The next week was soso at best. In part because i was finishing to quick, due to the break and in part the affair coming back to the surface after being away for so long. I am sorry this can happen to a normal relationship never mind in a post affair world. It feels like fww was looking for reason to complain, or believed the affair was less in my mind because of the lack of talk during the trip
Me - BH (35)
Her - WW (35)
1st A obs caught and didn't share.
2nd A I caught
D-day 4/9/17
TT for about 3 weeks.
Slowly getting better but some days just suck
MidnightRun ( member #59434) posted at 9:04 PM on Sunday, August 13th, 2017
You're a better man than I.
For me, the mind movies were relentless. Imaging her giving her body freely to someone else spoke volumes about her character.
I can't, for the life of me, fuck a chameleon.
Aabbccdd (original poster member #58297) posted at 2:18 AM on Monday, August 14th, 2017
I don't think I am better man at all. I just got over the mind movies quickly. I am not saying they won't come back they are just gone for now. I also think it has to do with the difference between the first and second affairs. I bet if I found out during the first I would have left. We were doing much worse and our sex life suffered, during the second we had a better relationship and we were still having sex regularly. I bet if it wasn't for this I would be alot less forgiving.
Me - BH (35)
Her - WW (35)
1st A obs caught and didn't share.
2nd A I caught
D-day 4/9/17
TT for about 3 weeks.
Slowly getting better but some days just suck
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