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Lodestar ( member #58558) posted at 7:34 AM on Wednesday, June 14th, 2017
I'm in the minority here.
I always thought this might be a possibility. Even before d-day #1. I never idealised him or put him on a pedestal. I thought this could happen. Well, not *this*, but infidelity in general.
Maybe that's why I'm taking this so 'well'? I also never thought a one time thing, one 'mistake' would be a deal breaker for me. It wasn't. Some people never learn, do they?
I still haven't decided if this time it is a deal breaker.
We have a saying in our language: fidelity is the lack of opportunity.
And in the end, it's just a matter of boundaries.
Me - BW (37)
Him - WH (40)
Married for 6 years, together for 13
DDs - 4 & 6 years old
rebplay ( member #59205) posted at 1:55 PM on Wednesday, June 14th, 2017
If I'm ever in another relationship I won't be as naive from the beginning.
NeverThe Same ( member #34754) posted at 5:23 PM on Wednesday, June 14th, 2017
Well I THOUGHT everyone thought that way about my WW but apparently I was one of the only ones who really did.
In my case, soon after Dday when WW was trickling, she admitted to cheating with a mutual friend when we were dating, maybe even while engaged (she thought I had found new info about this in addition to the current cheating - I did not)
Apparently many people knew about this, including her mother, so I doubt anyone would be or is surprised if they found out or already know that she was cheating on me while married.
It really makes me question the authenticity of my entire marriage.
BH - Me 44 yo. WW - 43 yo. Together 23 years, Married 16 years at time of DDay Two-night stand that evolved into 2 month long PA. In R???
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